However when there is a somali guy with them, I try to avoid conversing with the somali dude.
For us it was the opposite growing up, we felt alien around Ajanabi's, but felt a type of coolness around Xaalimo's.
I did come across your type eventually at the end, loved the tension that was on display, a cute combo of nervousness and awkwardness mixed with a lil touch of self-hate.
The most memorable parts were letting all that simmering tension rise to the top first then cut through with a knife all of a sudden in a shock therapy approach, it always worked as it caught people by surprise.
Any display of kibir or negative attitude came with the default response "haa ii cunin balayo kula dhacde" delivered with a fat arrogant smile immediately followed by turning away from her