women give each other the worst advise in life, its like they actually dont want the best for other women and never do what they preach
Any single women on SSpot feel like this sometimes . .
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pablo
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Don’t listen to these people there delusional, live in the real world look at your sisters you said it yourself there in there 30s and not married no kids. Most men on this planet want young women around your age because it means healthy offspring biology it can’t be helped,
Do your best hit the gym get in good shape and THIS IS VERY IMPORTANT LISTEN UP, STAY CLOSE TO THE FARAAXS THAT ARE DOING WELL IN SCHOOL AND THERE DRIVEN AND HAVE GOALS AND DONT SOCIALISE WITH WOMEN the reason why is because they are good men they want to have a stable income before starting a family.
So just be around them and befriend them stay close not to close that they see you as a thirty hoe but close enough also dress well and smile at them when u see them.
At the end of the day it’s your choice ajanabi or not most of those relationships end bad because of the culture clash and even Somali marriages in the west because there is no planning TAKE MY ADVICE.
Do your best hit the gym get in good shape and THIS IS VERY IMPORTANT LISTEN UP, STAY CLOSE TO THE FARAAXS THAT ARE DOING WELL IN SCHOOL AND THERE DRIVEN AND HAVE GOALS AND DONT SOCIALISE WITH WOMEN the reason why is because they are good men they want to have a stable income before starting a family.
So just be around them and befriend them stay close not to close that they see you as a thirty hoe but close enough also dress well and smile at them when u see them.
At the end of the day it’s your choice ajanabi or not most of those relationships end bad because of the culture clash and even Somali marriages in the west because there is no planning TAKE MY ADVICE.
Don’t lower your expectations, you do however need to apply yourself. The man you’re looking for is not going to be knocking on your door. The problem with a lot of Somali women is they expect their dream man will come knocking on their door, or worse they go to weddings, shisha spots, parties and complain why they’re only attracting bums.
I am but a servent of god following the example of his messenger
Well guess what, the Prophet had 10 other wives that *he* scw approached.
I'd like to see you approach 1.
Puffin Stuff
Cheating death in berbera
THERE IS ONLY ONE SOLUTIONUnmarried women in their mid to late 30s is big problem in the diaspora right now.
At that age maybe go after ajnabi converts as a compromise?
HAREMS!!
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1. Make sincere Dua, everything else will fall into place for you and Allah will take care of your affairs.
2. Constantly improve yourself both physically through continuous good diet/exercise, spiritually through learning the religion and psychologically by acquiring knowledge of thyself (to know your own weaknesses and biological predispositions in order to minimise them),
If you do this you become part of the 1% club and completely indispensable, any male of decent quality will immediately recognise you and elevate you above the rest of the brain dead sheeple who only care about outward appearances that fade quick.
3. Never ever approach a guy first, especially at your age, this is something you do when your much more experienced (gone through divorce) or when your in your 30's.
4. The fact that you think of marriage at 22 in the diaspora is wonderful because the majority of your counterparts don't, and as a result they end up like your sisters.
Ignore those who say you are too young, your in your prime right now, take advantage of it, do not let the feminists/careerists fool you because the vast majority of them end up worse then the average single mother that married early both financially, psychologically and emotionally.
I know many of these women who deeply regret pissing away their prime fertile years for a pack of lies and empty dreams that in the majority of cases are never fulfilled, and even in the rare cases when they are fulfilled the emptiness and regrets remains. (they would all trade places with you right now)
5. Being shy or socially awkward is a great sign, it's what all quality male's with experience look for in a woman, it means your chaste and inexperienced, it's your greatest asset, don't look at it as a liability.
Shyness (Hayaa) is part of iman, majority of female's with experience lack this, if a female during courtship looks me directly in the eye with confidence upon first meeting, she is automatically ruled out. (let alone if she approaches me first)
6. Befriend good righteous sisters especially those that are married and older then you, third party introductions are the best because much of the vetting has already been done for you, and it's easier to break the ice this way.
7. If 6 becomes too challenging, place yourself in good environments were quality males congregate (no shiisha bar's, parties or weddings)
But don't act like most entitled females do and walk around with kibir with your nose in the air with an enticing gait, because all you attract with this is either nobody or a low quality male.
But rather walk humbly, smile, appear approachable, send very subtle indirect hint (quick glance with a friendly smile, then look away immediately) this will make the brother confident to approach because he knows the interest is mutual.
8. Learn to get over your childhood frustrations regarding absent father, mum trying to get you with a fob and the rest of the malarky etc.
Allah does not burden a soul with what it can't handle, everyone goes through their own difficulties.
These types of negative feelings if left alone to fester turn into bad character traits which not only turns others off, but is also very self-destructive, it will age you quick and lead to depression down the line.
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Saalax Bidaar
Truthfulness so often goes with ruthlessness
Marriage is great and all but you shouldn’t be pressured to marry for the sake of it
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Somali guys do not want somali women anymore. They have moved on to better women.
You should move on too, give the ajnabi a chance. Good luck.
you need help sister, you have too much preconceived nations, give them a chance, stop closing doors, i know somali guys from kenya who come here to buy imports, rich, educated, stable, Ogaden lads from NFD come here and buy goods to sell in kenya, they get visa, and much richer than the guys in the west who struggle, give them a chance, not every farax in africa wants to hide in the west,
in fact i know somali many Ogaden girls who have gone back to kenya, jigjiga and south africa to marry Ogaden guys who are educated, my cousin a doctor born in California went back to jigjiga to marry a doctor who is also Ogaden, they opened a clinic and make good money
maybe its because our community waa kinda racist and we dont like our Ogaden girls if she marries a foreigner,
give these educated guys in kenya a chance and you might meet a nice tall farax, who doesn't need your passport, and you will get a tall husband
and i find it so ironic, i now so many somali girls with masters in UK and west who said they cannot find a halimo, how are these people not being connected?
i always anted to start a agency hooking them up but was worried they would shag and i would be in with their fitna,
You should set them up whilst advising them to behave morally, if your intention is pure, the sin is not on you.
Indians/Pakistanis have all these matrimony events and websites, yet Somalis do not.
You are not the only one. I'm honestly surprised they are struggling so much. Don't they have there own connections or their parents? Single Somali doctors, lawyer, businessmen and successful guys in other areas a plentiful? They don't need to be from a privileged family to access these guys. I wonder where all these people come from and their background.
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Somalis are very terotorial and those events will end in fights. You even speak to mans cousin he will fight you. I was advised when i was in london dont approach any xalimo in shisha place. Some dude who may like her who she rejected may be jealous and attack you. Everywhere somalis have gatherings end in fights
Somalis hold many successful events and inshallah there will not be any fights.
There are many single men and women who need to be connected, let him.
Inquisitive_
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Poor networking in the diaspora, their parents have the same issue but that's mostly caused by qabiil, they broke up into fractions even on a per sub-sub-clan basis.
So automatically they can't set up their daughters or son's like the Asian's and Arab's do because the numbers are simply not there on a sub-sub-clan level and as always they are too stubborn to adapt to changes.
The great irony of it all is when they complain about rising interracial marriages which they inadvertently helped create.
The professional/educated class among the males (engineers only) that make up the majority are mostly not interested in females with Micky mouse degrees that want to compete with them, they tend to marry college educated female's or go abroad.
The only issues those brothers have is "being too picky" or stuck in "bachelor" lifestyle, they have no other problems, they are spoiled for choices.
The only problem in our community lies with the university educated Xaalimo's and from what I have seen, it's of their own making
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