My Friend just Cancelled his Wedding ....

[Odious Delirium]

So y’all see one xalimo acting a certain way, she might also be putting up a “front” but y’all blame all xalimos especially hijabis with no shame.

What???

I don't know what to make of you bloody hell always twisting my words and attacking me when I don't even partake in the points your trying to make. I'm just trying to make people see thing from a different perspective outside of there echo Chambers.

Relax your not my victim and I'm not your enemy. Don't take everything as a personal attack.

 

[Qeelbax]

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I don't know what to make of you bloody hell always twisting my words and attacking me when I don't even partake in the points your trying to make.

Relax your not my victim and I'm not your enemy. Don't take everything as a personal attack.

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You are speaking in general and so am I, love.

 

[Odious Delirium]

You are speaking in general and so am I, love.

You aim your "generalising" point directly at me though???

 

[Qeelbax]

You aim your "generalising" point directly at me though???

Don’t take my words at face front, love
Xoxo

 

[ZBR]

That makes a huge difference. I highly doubt he would be thinking the worst if the guy wasn't an ajnabi.

Also, we're not cadaan. In the real world, Somalis hardly sit there and talk about their past. I girl might not have ever commited zina, but she might have gotten to know a guy and was about to marry him ect. If she then meets another, why on earth would she tell him?

Also, if your friend isn't a virgin himself, then he is trash and that girl shouldn't explain herself.

The thing is, there is no real proof that she did zina with him. You see unfortunately, getting to know someone or even 'halal' dating is the norm in the Somali community. Usually, before marriage a couple would get to know each other for a while and then inform the parents.

However, what everyone here finds damning is the fact that he is 'ajnabi'. They probably think an ajnabi guy wouldn't allow things to remain chaste and of course the lengh of time.

If she was with a Somali man and was talking to him for like 2 years. Most people would make the assumption that they were talking to get married and might have had a falling out towards the end which is normal.

Young men, Marriage is the largest investment you can make , the future mother of your children and who all your labor and work goes to, you must be keenly discerning . It’s not about despising them as a person but you don’t buy a defective car or house, why would you choose to possibly invest all of your life energies on something you haven’t wisely judiciously selected. the only way to understand the future of something is it’s behavior in the past may it be a element, chemical, a plant, animal, person, theory etc

 

[Kane]

What karbaash? I must be suffering from amnesia?

Calm down aboowe, cilmi is encouraged by the deen. You are just insecure because xalimos are more educated than faraxs.
Go back to your security guard job and stop bothering me

You’re no longer fighting the reality of being a naag, mansha Allah we are making progress.

Now shut your mouth about manly endeavors and learn how to make bariis isku dhax’karris.

 

[SomaliWadaniSoldier]

Xaarlimos: pay me 20K Meher, 20K Aroos. I dont F care even if u lend from the bank. I dont care if u work 5 nightshifts a week.

Ajanabi gets all for free

 

[bidenkulaha]

I just know too many xaliimos, they all in some sort of relationship. If they’re not married by 20, be suspicious.

You can’t trust them. You have to do background check, meet their friends etc. People eventually talk.

I didn’t go through all this work to be with one that has been around the block.

 

[Rocktheboat]

I just know too many xaliimos, they all in some sort of relationship. If they’re not married by 20, be suspicious.

You can’t trust them. You have to do background check, meet their friends etc. People eventually talk.

I didn’t go through all this work to be with one that has been around the block.

Being in a 4 year relationship is being around the block

 

[Bernie Madoff]

Being in a 4 year relationship is being around the block

You expect to believe anyone who’s been in 4 year relationship to keep it strictly platonic tho?

 

[bidenkulaha]

Being in a 4 year relationship is being around the block

I don’t even trust 1 year relationships. Let alone 4. Imagine the emotional baggage let alone all the times they’d have to avoid making that mistake. She must have the strongest resolve, I don’t trust it.

 

[Qeelbax]

You’re no longer fighting the reality of being a naag, mansha Allah we are making progress.

Now shut your mouth about manly endeavors and learn how to make bariis isku dhax’karris.

Go fix your country instead of living off another mans countrys and causing havoc nacas.

 

[Sophisticate]

You expect to believe anyone who’s been in 4 year relationship to keep it strictly platonic tho?

It's possible. However, a 4-year relationship is bad for optics.
It is essentially a placeholder relationship for broke young people. To bring a suun with you everywhere you go and lay down the law if they try to act up isn't worth it. No one has time to play prison warden 24/7.

Considering it was an ajnabi she was with for that time frame I highly doubt they would be content with nothing. Abdis are already problematic, to begin with. However, I think they are way more miskeen than foreigners (with nothing to lose) and many (not all) probably have a higher regard for Xalimos than they would other women. That is if they are not saqajaans.

 

[Nak-Muay-Kru]

Xaarlimos: pay me 20K Meher, 20K Aroos. I dont F care even if u lend from the bank. I dont care if u work 5 nightshifts a week.

Ajanabi gets all for free

Mehr kulaha. She's getting a firm hand shake and a couple grand toward wedding expences at best sxb loool. It's bad, but it's not THAT bad. The fact the she lied about it (by omission) is more concerning. The guy doesn't really have a leg to stand on if he isn't a virgin himself tbh

 

[Burner123]

It's possible. However, a 4-year relationship is bad for optics.
It is essentially a placeholder relationship for broke young people. To bring a suun with you everywhere you go and lay down the law if they try to act up isn't worth it. No one has time to play prison warden 24/7.

Considering it was an ajnabi she was with for that time frame I highly doubt they would be content with nothing. Abdis are already problematic, to begin with. However, I think they are way more miskeen than foreigners (with nothing to lose) and many (not all) probably have a higher regard for Xalimos than they would other women. That is if they are not saqajaans.

Well said. If it was a Somali dude it might be believable nothing happened in the 4 years because many actually value xalimos chastity and hold them in high regard. What ajnabi guy is staying for 4 years without getting the malab? Extremely unlikely

 

[Nak-Muay-Kru]

It's possible. However, a 4-year relationship is bad for optics.
It is essentially a placeholder relationship for broke young people. To bring a suun with you everywhere you go and lay down the law if they try to act up isn't worth it. No one has time to play prison warden 24/7.

Considering it was an ajnabi she was with for that time frame I highly doubt they would be content with nothing. Abdis are already problematic, to begin with. However, I think they are way more miskeen than foreigners (with nothing to lose) and many (not all) probably have a higher regard for Xalimos than they would other women. That is if they are not saqajaans.

Even the most miskeen/docile/low Test Abdi isn't hanging around for 4years. Listening to some uni bird's mundane stories and about what a "dickhead" her lecturer is. Not. A. Fucking. Chance lol

I know a few somali girls from London who lived in halls at my Uni and they lost their fucking minds wallahi. They were worse than gaal girls in some ways. 18yrs of repression just comes flooding out all at once. I've seen and heard shit that would make your toes curl. My Congolese mate had a "thing" with a married Algerian girl who would go home during half-term to see her husband lol. It's pure debauchery if you move away from home for University. I mentally check-out of any conversation if a girl I'm talking to says she went away for uni. There's being naive and there's being a fucking braindead comatose retard

 

[Sophisticate]

Well said. If it was a Somali dude it might be believable nothing happened in the 4 years because many actually value xalimos chastity and hold them in high regard. What ajnabi guy is staying for 4 years without getting the malab? Extremely unlikely

Exactly.
Some sisters forget they have more gravitas and power over Somali guys from the 'ethnic' element. The ajnabi brother, on the other hand, has much less to lose. Is not beholden to your culture but his personal sense of morality. Some might even think of it as a form of conquest over your group or simply for the sake of novelty of saying they were with a Somali girl. You simply don't know their drivers. They also operate according to post-modern ideals of try before you buy mindset that pervades their thinking. That is just incompatible with a conservative worldview.

I know girls might not mind some free meals or conversation, but these people likely have expectations. They are not worth it or a hit to your reputation. Some unhinged Brad out there might get irritated if you refuse his advances, and you could end up in a suitcase.

And some Muslim ajnabi guys might be batshit too. Wallahi, you don't know what you are inviting upon yourself. This poor Lebanese Canadian girl was killed for rejecting a Muslim guy (I think he was North African). Be highly aware and do your due diligence so you can stay safe.

 

[munguckghet]

Even the most miskeen/docile/low Test Abdi isn't hanging around for 4years. Listening to some uni bird's mundane stories and about what a "dickhead" her lecturer is. Not. A. Fucking. Chance lol

I know a few somali girls from London who lived in halls at my Uni and they lost their fucking minds wallahi. They're worse than gaal girls in some ways. 18yrs of repression just comes flooding out all at once. I've seen and heard shit that would make your toes curl. My Congolese mate had a "thing" with a married Algerian girl who would go home during half-term to see her husband lol. It's pure debauchery if you move away from home for University. I mentally check-out of the conversation if a girl I'm talking to says she went away for uni. There's being naive and there's being a fucking braindead comatose retard

Dont tell me the somali girls were wearing hijab and no one suspects they are oyin, you make me afraid wallahi

 

[Riya.]

Well said. If it was a Somali dude it might be believable nothing happened in the 4 years because many actually value xalimos chastity and hold them in high regard. What ajnabi guy is staying for 4 years without getting the malab? Extremely unlikely

You’re stupid if you believe people don’t have sex in relationships. Somali man or not.

 

[Nak-Muay-Kru]

Dont tell me the somali girls were wearing hijab and no one suspects they are oyin, you make me afraid wallahi

Mate the saqajaan Somali girls do that in their home towns anyway. The discreet ones "go to visit their friend and stay over" which translates to them going on a mad nightout in a city with few to no Somalis or somewhere nobody knows them. I've been on nights outs with them... it's fucking brutal. Somali girl saqajaans are just as bad as their male counterparts lol

Chill sxb, nothing that wasn't written for you by Allah swt couldn't come to pass.