The only odd thing is the extreme examples given. Some highly experienced woman with a shocking past or a virgin.
The interesting thing is you don't even know who is a virgin or what that looks like? That is what scares you most. Uncertainty.
That girl in the jilbaab might not be a virgin. While that outgoing and self-focused non-hijaabi could be. That ambivert girl who is scholarly in the abaya might be. While the hijabi influencer might not be. You simply cannot tell. I understand the anxiety. The fear that maybe just maybe your daughter will take after their mother who had a past. It is smart to marry wisely but there is no telling. Also, children might be radically different from their parents. The hilarious thing is some of these habos in their youth who were crazy can have miskeen daughters.

Conversely, a crazy hooyo could be a poor role model.
My parents know their peers and I have Intel but gosh. I was suprised. Appearances are deceiving.
For the most part, I think there are more virgins in the Somali community than these ludicrous estimates. As Somalis we are from a conservative faith and more adherent than many. It's an easier bet. The stories of the former hijabi turned Love Island contestant is not the norm. If you don't know the past of a girl or her associates and you lack faith than don't marry her. I have been lied to by Abdis about their past but I fact checked. At this stage I would rather an honest, consistent and reliable person with active listening skills. I know good boys who earn 6 figures that lack in that. I myself have never been with anyone and I don't even date but I have a low threshold for emotional immaturity and those who don't do the inner work or who refuse personal development. You guys talk too much about virginity (which is a bare minimum expectation) and not enough about what makes marriages and courtship last and flourish which is loyalty, consistency, committement, integrity, exemplary communication and compassion on both sides.