Somalis marrying outside of Somali

[Viva Benadir]

Without a clan you're not somali, you're langaab xabash, but qabiil without culture is just as bad tbh.

Somalis even call minority clans like yibir laangaab, even though they are 100 percent somali

 

[Emily]

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Did you read my response to her ?

 

[ColloquiallyFluent]

Did you read my response to her ?

oh.

 

[Emily]

We know you're Marehan.

This is getting old. No one pretends to be something they are not for months. I am not a low life troll.

 

[Blade1]

Go to Somalia and see if halfies with Somali mothers are accepted

I didn't say they are accepted but in my eyes the ones with Somali fathers raised abroad are foreigners aswell. If people wnat somali kids go with a somali otherwise don't cry when your kids are not somali

 

[White]

Somalis even call minority clans like yibir laangaab, even though they are 100 percent somali

Yibir are langaab, small numbers

 

[Viva Benadir]

Yibir are langaab, small numbers

You think they are small!?
Kkkkk. My fathers clan numbers to like 70 people. Wallahi i can count from the top of my head. Only 5 live in xamar

 

[Abkaal]

I didn't say they are accepted but in my eyes the ones with Somali fathers raised abroad are foreigners aswell. If people wnat somali kids go with a somali otherwise don't cry when your kids are not somali

In your eyes maybe but not in the eyes of Somalis. For me the half Somali kid with Somali dad is more closer to me tbh

 

[Viva Benadir]

I didn't say they are accepted but in my eyes the ones with Somali fathers raised abroad are foreigners aswell. If people wnat somali kids go with a somali otherwise don't cry when your kids are not somali

You cant deny somalis from being somali.

 

[White]

You think they are small!?
Kkkkk. My fathers clan numbers to like 70 people. Wallahi i can count from the top of my head. Only 5 live in xamar

Bro I'm abgaal, yibir are definitely langaab compared to abgaal.

 

[Zach]

Just say she's reer xamar @Viva Benadir can give you advice on that.

African or Madow? You mad? According to our history they are our enemies, lmao. Don't be a hypocrite.

Guys can marry outside, it's okay, children will have their lineage, and if something goes wrong, they can easily be found, same can not be said for ajnabi men.

Conclusion, women should stay within the ethnicity, males should get married with asians.

@guntiino101 @zeinap83 are two somali women who are team asian like me, so their opinion regarding this might be interesting

Do you, wallahi! Don’t live for others.

 

[White]

Do you, wallahi! Don’t live for others.

It is my duty to keep my lineage intact

 

[Zach]

It is my duty to keep my lineage intact

Your lineage stays intact as long as Allah gives you boys. It doesn’t matter what ethnicity your wife has

 

[GeKo]

What is your opinion on people who marry outside of Somali culture? For example, my fiance is Arab. My parents were honest with me and said they're only OK with it because I am a guy and they know that the children are considered Somali as a result, so the Qabiil remains. And they're happy with her being at least Arab rather than cadaan or Madow, although I have dated cadaan european before.

When people look at us, we get prolonged looks from Somali women (the older women are OK with it, but I get stares form the younger women) . I have never dated a Somali woman, I'd have loved to but never got close to one. My friends and I were just not their type.

Now, when I see a Somali woman, I brace myself for the looks. Sometimes, they think I am an arab, but they can't be too sure. I told my fiance to just pretend to be Somali since there are some arab descendant Somalis where I was born in Somalia. It does help she loves Somali culture and makes Somali food now.


My honest opinion:

Guys
I think guys should be able to marry outside of Somali culture. Somali Qabil is important, and in this case the Somali remains intact.

For women?
I am not so sure if I am being honest. This is because we can hold Somali men to account if they do wrong to women. And Somali qabiil and naming is passed down through the father. A woman marrying outside of Somali, her children are not considered Somali. If we had a society where people could gain citizenship, this actually would not be an issue. The man could simply gain Somali citizenship and marry his wife.
We must also not divorce the colonial history of all african nations. I would much rather my daughter marry another African or a Madow than a Cadaan or Arab. As a woman, marrying an cadaan, means you're not that bothered by the history of rape committed against our foremothers.

I thought I'd share it from the perspective of someone who is already in a multicultural relationship. What are your thoughts? Are you in a multicultural relationship?

It's also very high chance of failure for Somali women mainly because Somali culture is the least controlling of women among other Muslim cultures. So when she gets into a relationship, she runs the risk of being told what to do, what to wear, where to go and Somali girl's aren't used to this level of control so it could bring many arguments,fights, abuse and divorce.
The main problem with Somali men with half kids is that the kids are barely Somali culturally and don't associate with Somalis. To counter this, you should make them live in Somalia for some time. Cultural clash may happen but it's less of a problem for us guys.
Btw what type of arab is she?

 

[Luna]

We know you're Marehan.

Why do you say that? He/she is clearly Somali, but why MX?

 

[White]

Your lineage stays intact as long as Allah gives you boys. It doesn’t matter what ethnicity your wife has

I am only dating outside, I am planning on marry a somali woman, but who knows what God has planned.

 

[nine]

Why do you say that? He/she is clearly Somali, but why MX?

@Crow

Reer cigaal don’t live in Balanbal

Only Abdullah siyad and Mohamed siyad live in Balanbal

 

[Mercury]

What is your opinion on people who marry outside of Somali culture? For example, my fiance is Arab. My parents were honest with me and said they're only OK with it because I am a guy and they know that the children are considered Somali as a result, so the Qabiil remains. And they're happy with her being at least Arab rather than cadaan or Madow, although I have dated cadaan european before.

When people look at us, we get prolonged looks from Somali women (the older women are OK with it, but I get stares form the younger women) . I have never dated a Somali woman, I'd have loved to but never got close to one. My friends and I were just not their type.

Now, when I see a Somali woman, I brace myself for the looks. Sometimes, they think I am an arab, but they can't be too sure. I told my fiance to just pretend to be Somali since there are some arab descendant Somalis where I was born in Somalia. It does help she loves Somali culture and makes Somali food now.


My honest opinion:

Guys
I think guys should be able to marry outside of Somali culture. Somali Qabil is important, and in this case the Somali remains intact.

For women?
I am not so sure if I am being honest. This is because we can hold Somali men to account if they do wrong to women. And Somali qabiil and naming is passed down through the father. A woman marrying outside of Somali, her children are not considered Somali. If we had a society where people could gain citizenship, this actually would not be an issue. The man could simply gain Somali citizenship and marry his wife.
We must also not divorce the colonial history of all african nations. I would much rather my daughter marry another African or a Madow than a Cadaan or Arab. As a woman, marrying an cadaan, means you're not that bothered by the history of rape committed against our foremothers.

I thought I'd share it from the perspective of someone who is already in a multicultural relationship. What are your thoughts? Are you in a multicultural relationship?

youre an hypocrite you married out and you think you of all people have a say IF people decide to marry out

 

[Baliska]

It's also very high chance of failure for Somali women mainly because Somali culture is the least controlling of women among other Muslim cultures. So when she gets into a relationship, she runs the risk of being told what to do, what to wear, where to go and Somali girl's aren't used to this level of control so it could bring many arguments,fights, abuse and divorce.
The main problem with Somali men with half kids is that the kids are barely Somali culturally and don't associate with Somalis. To counter this, you should make them live in Somalia for some time. Cultural clash may happen but it's less of a problem for us guys.
Btw what type of arab is she?

Dubai.

youre an hypocrite you married out and you think you of all people have a say IF people decide to marry out

I am not a hypocrite. Just being honest about my feelings.

I will be taking my children back to Xamar routinely. She also told me she wants my children to learn Somali. She wants to raise my children and have my mother help her raise them the Somali way.

 

[GeKo]

Dubai.

Emirati?? They rarely marry out and are fugly. Next to impossible for the girls to marry non-emirati and you'd have to pay huge mehr.
Unless you mean she lived in dubai? Whats her real ethnicity