Odious Delirium
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Yet some people actually do act like that irl and it's a turn offpeople don't act irl the same way they act on here
Yet some people actually do act like that irl and it's a turn offpeople don't act irl the same way they act on here
That was a compliment, not an insult. You don't get trolled easily is what I was saying.I already stated my stance here you would have know my position and take if you read it
now that's stupid of themYet some people actually do act like that irl and it's a turn off
I know but sometime I feel trigger happy like an American cop when they see a black person.That was a compliment, not an insult. You don't get trolled easily is what I was saying.
Wallahi you’d be surprised! I’m not talking about people here specifically, but people in general.people don't act irl the same way they act on here
people don't act irl the same way they act on here
Do you think gaalo and ajnabi don’t have disastrous marriages themselves? High divorce rates and toxic marriages are a widespread problem although there are certain marital problems that are more common in the Somali community and ajnabi communities have their own unique marital problems as well.How normal people get married:
- At school, randomly assigned partners for a project.
- Develop liking for each over the month. Date for 2 years. Would take a bullet for each other. Complete each other's sentences.
- Get married and have kids and die old. They are buried next to each other 60 years later.
How Somalis get married:
- Ignore each other until hooyo starts harassing them to find a spouse when they are in their late 20s.
- Get hooyo/friend to get a match for them or join an app to find a guy.
- It feels like a job interview on the first date. Neither or one is not really interested. "Will you be a traditional wife?" and "My money is my money and your money is my money"
- Wedding is demanded within 1-2 months without them knowing each others values and principles and have nothing in common.
- Lady is happy to be married so she can flex and the guy is happy to have sex. Honeymoon period is like ecstasy.
- Chaos after a few weeks and months occurs. She doesn't cook and he doesn't like being around. It may extend for a year or two year. One or both are crazy. They of course don't love each other and they get divorced, probably with a kid or two.
- Lady demands her money he never paid and the guy agrees to a payment plan but reneges.
- Broken household. Repeat cycle for their children as they don't know what a stable household looks like.
Do you think gaalo and ajnabi don’t have disastrous marriages themselves? High divorce rates and toxic marriages are a widespread problem although there are certain marital problems that are more common in the Somali community and ajnabi communities have their own unique marital problems as well.
Personally I think a big issue is that people are using social media too much as a guide on how to conduct their relationships. Women are watching all the divorce anecdotes on Youtube then listening to city girls talking about “f*ck love get money” and men are watching manosphere podcasts where women openly admit to using men for their own gain while being encouraged to use women’s bodies and dump her for the next, and all that is damaging to the psyche and leaves an impression. So men and women then go out into the world thinking everyone they date and consider for marriage is out to get them and ruin their life. They go into marriages wanting maximum benefits while putting in minimum effort. While having no trust in their partner. It’s all power struggles and fragile egos.
You need to have a bit of blind faith and trust to enter into a marriage and make it work. You can’t always be operating from a mindset of fear thinking your spouse is gonna screw you over and then be quick to leave at the smallest problem. Just my two cents
You seem like you know what you are talking about my current must-list is comes from suburbs, non-broken home, two-parent household, against interracial marriage/siblings also haven't married out, not the oldest sibling (this is a big one), hijabi, miskeen/soft spoken, kind, not a girl-boss. That's about it so far what else should I be aware ofI hate to say this but if her/his parents are divorced or came from a loveless/chaotic household, don't marry her if she's 25 and older and don't marry him if he's 30 and older if they haven't gone through therapy before they reached that age. Most will have too much unresolved trauma. His heart will be a permanent rock at 30 and she'll have permanent abandonment fears/issues by 25.
All the divorces in the community are from people from divorced/loveless/chaotic homes.
If you come from a non-chaotic/two parent household, only look for a spouse from the same OR if they have gone through comprehensive therapy before those ages.
Somalis don't like to hear the truth because it's offensive but someone has to tell them the truth.
the 2-parent household just halved your pool looooooool!You seem like you know what you are talking about my current must-list is comes from suburbs, non-broken home, two-parent household, against interracial marriage/siblings also haven't married out, not the oldest sibling (this is a big one), hijabi, miskeen/soft spoken, kind, not a girl-boss. That's about it so far what else should I be aware of
You seem like you know what you are talking about my current must-list is comes from suburbs, non-broken home, two-parent household, against interracial marriage/siblings also haven't married out, not the oldest sibling (this is a big one), hijabi, miskeen/soft spoken, kind, not a girl-boss. That's about it so far what else should I be aware of
Knowing his ends it's more like 3/4th his pool gonethe 2-parent household just halved your pool looooooool!
Stop tryna doxx me you goofKnowing his ends it's more like 3/4th his pool gone