Gibiin-Udug
Crowned Queen of Puntland. Supporter of PuntExit
LooooooolCause a majority of us are BROKE AS f*ck we still in school trying to obtain this degree . The concept of paying mehr is probably new to others. It’s still new too me.
I don’t know how imma act when I actually have money. Cause right now I would only consider paying a mehr that the chick can actually afford. Not an amount she couldn’t.
Plus it’s risky af too especially with this divorce rate.
If a dude paid 20k will he get the 20k back if a divorce happens.
Imagine paying 20k but you end up getting divorced.after being married for 2 years.
I'm going to be honest, Somalis with new money changed the format of Meher.
Here's the reason why Meher is necessary in Islam, you give Meher to your new wife, she will ask a reasonable amount and that will be hers, it's preferably that you pay upfront, the whole reason for Meher is if something happened to the husband like death, the wife would use that to support herself or the kids. Let's say you married a woman who doesn't work and not educated, what kind of Meher would your give her? Inorder for her support herself and your future kids.
But since we are living in a modern world where wives are able to work and have the right to be educated, you give her what you can afford. If you can afford 20k perfect, if you can only afford 2k perfect. It just depends on who you're marrying.