how to go about second wife without burning bridges with the first one

[Bundasliga]

Women’s right? Nikka fighting against polygamy is giving the nikkas some rights. It’s men’s rights cause y’all will take the L in this life and the next if you don’t do it right

Stop it blease

 

[Mr.Humphrey]

I learn a new word today: Finasteride. How does this lady get to know it is the question?

"Finasteride is used to shrink an enlarged prostate (benign prostatic hyperplasia or BPH) in adult men.

Finasteride, sold under the brand names Proscar and Propecia among others, is a medication used to treat hair loss and benign prostatic hyperplasia in men.

 

[Man with a garuun]

@Oday-yar, over 90% of the people who commented so far are either single and were conditioned to stick with 1 wife or remain single. Especially, the men here have really been conditioned to not even think about polygamy. It is part of the westernization of our minds. So I doubt you would find the answers that you need.

Some don't even understand a man can remain in love with more than one wife. I wish you best of luck. My only advise to you is any decision that you make about when to marry the second wife, the situation of the current family must be looked at first.

Btw, I am in your boat but waiting for the kids getting to college age. I delayed taking a second wife several times.

 

[Man with a garuun]

Finasteride, sold under the brand names Proscar and Propecia among others, is a medication used to treat hair loss and benign prostatic hyperplasia in men.

How did you get to know it?

 

[Mr.Humphrey]

I learn a new word today: Finasteride. How does this lady get to know it is the question?

I put it on my Russian scalp every morning

 

[Man with a garuun]

I put it on my Russian scalp every morning

lol

 

[Periplus]

The Quranic Surah that allows for polygamy says do it if you can treat your wives fairly.

Then it goes on to say that most won’t.

If that isn’t clear idk what is. No one should even consider this if they’re not well off, already bought real estate for their first family etc.

 

[Oday-yar]

@Oday-yar, over 90% of the people who commented so far are either single and were conditioned to stick with 1 wife or remain single. Especially, the men here have really been conditioned to not even think about polygamy. It is part of the westernization of our minds. So I doubt you would find the answers that you need.

Some don't even understand a man can remain in love with more than one wife. I wish you best of luck. My only advise to you is any decision that you make about when to marry the second wife, the situation of the current family must be looked at first.

Btw, I am in your boat but waiting for the kids getting to college age. I delayed taking a second wife several times.

Thank you brother. I wish you well as well. I never made it a secret from the get go and I agree with you, first family must be well taken care of first. Second family must also get the same starndard of living as first family. for me, it's a matter of doing it right more than anything else. I am not into hiding something that big like some guys do.

 

[Unbothered]

sorry for disappointing you sister but you made my point. Women just need one while majority of men would want more than one women if they had the money and women were logical beings. kkk

Polygamy does not sit well with women. There are alot of men who don’t want more than one wife. My father did not marry another woman with my mom so are my brothers and brother inlaws. I told my husband if he brings up that conversation that our marriage will be over lol
He said “I said lacag is my second wife”

 

[TekNiKo]

Polygamy does not sit well with women. There are alot of men who don’t want more than one wife. My father did not marry another woman with my mom so are my brothers and brother inlaws. I told my husband if he brings up that conversation that our marriage will be over lol

 

[Caspian]

First pick a wife with low jealousy then explain that you will marry other women one day. Treat her well like most men won't and never stop.

Explain that you wanting other women doesn't mean that there's anything wrong with her it's something natural for men we always want more women by default there are studies that show this btw monogamy was pushed by the church.

This should work but if your wife refuses you must be willing to walk away if you really want multiple wives in your life. I think most practising sisters will accept it if you introduce it correctly even those in the west.

 

[Halimo-2018]

Why have many children when you know damn well you wont have enough time for all of them? You sound stupid.

 

[karkaar]

@Oday-yar,

First question, are the kids with the first wive still underage?

Second, did you save enough money for your kids' college and university fees?

Third, did you build and pay off the house of the first wife?

Fourth, do you plan to keep the second wife in Africa or in the same country in the West?

Fifth, and if the second wife is in Africa or a different country from the current one that you're living in the West, do you have a job or business that allows you to divide your time between the 2 wives? Fairness is very important, so planning your time between the 2 families is very important.

Once you provide answers to those questions, we can see if we can provide suggestions. Thank you!

Exactly,getting a second spouse takes a lot of time and planning, its doable but if you want to do it correctly you've got to play the long game a silently prepare for a span of 10 years or so.

 

[Canjeero-Iyo-Shaax]

Why would you even want another ? I’m not even married and can tell you would go crazy trying to deal with 2x women.

Besides the days where more than one wife worked won’t work in this day and age. The days of your grandfather who had 4x wives are long gone.

I have an actual blood aunt who’s a year younger than me

 

[Man with a garuun]

The fact you're on s site asking for help from people in their early 20s shows you ain't ready.drop this bs.

He wants to maamul labo naago and the place he goes for counsel is Somalispot.

Nothing wrong with coming here and asking for an advice. Some of us already shared our input. Not sure why you're all getting "smart" about it.

 

[Man with a garuun]

Why would you even want another ? I’m not even married and can tell you would go crazy trying to deal with 2x women.

Besides the days where more than one wife worked won’t work in this day and age. The days of your grandfather who had 4x wives are long gone.

I have an actual blood aunt who’s a year younger than me

You're just a soft guy who has been brainwashed by the Western media and men losing their place in this society. It is pretty normal for a man to plan for the next family once the current family is in good footing.

 

[Oday-yar]

Why have many children when you know damn well you wont have enough time for all of them? You sound stupid.

wll i just want to free my country ogadenia. I can't do that if we are laangaab.

 

[Oday-yar]

Why would you even want another ? I’m not even married and can tell you would go crazy trying to deal with 2x women.

Besides the days where more than one wife worked won’t work in this day and age. The days of your grandfather who had 4x wives are long gone.

I have an actual blood aunt who’s a year younger than me

if you pick the right women, you'll be at peace, and have multiple women competing for your affection and love. Is there anything better than that in life?

 

[Aboow]

if you pick the right women, you'll be at peace, and have multiple women competing for your affection and love. Is there anything better than that in life?

Competing for your love sounds like manipulation to me.

 

[Angelina]

if you pick the right women, you'll be at peace, and have multiple women competing for your affection and love. Is there anything better than that in life?

Why should your wife need to 'compete'? This is a perfect example of men abusing polygamy and emotionally abusing women to feel insecure in their own marriages.

Miss me with that, being a single mother is better than your compettion bullshit.