Would you guys marry a single mother ?

[NordicSomali]

I would, but I would get rid of that kid. Or treat my kids much better than that kid. He would be treated like ginger kids used to be treated in the past

what if he’s too cute?

 

[Man with a garuun]

Yes, but only if the kid's father is dead. I'm not feeding and clothing some deadbeat's overgrown nut

If you love the kid's mom and are married to her, you would definitely raise the kid and be a father figure to him. You can't be loving a woman, be married to her, but have issues with her son. That is fucked up. Come on.

 

[Based]

Only if the father is dead and the kid is young. Tell em bring me ma money

 

[Nak-Muay-Kru]

If you love the kid's mom and are married to her, you would definitely raise the kid and be a father figure to him. You can't be loving a woman, be married to her, but have issues with her son. Come on.

I wouldn't have to play daddy to some other guy's walking talking cùm because I wouldn't put myself in that situation to begin with. Raising another man's child, when said man is alive, doesn't benefit me in any shape of form. I could use the same resources needed to raise that child to raise my own biological child

 

[Man with a garuun]

I wouldn't have to play daddy to some other guy's walking talking cùm because I wouldn't put myself in that situation to begin with. Raising another man's child, when said man is alive, doesn't benefit me in any shape of form. I could use the same resources needed to raise that child to raise my own biological child

Ok then don't marry his mom and the kid won't have to deal with you. However, if you marry his mom, you don't have that luxury.

I'm curious on how you would treat your inlaws, and your wife's nieces and nephews. Fyi, a Somali man should maintain a certain level of class - meaning you need to show respect and gratitude towards your wife's family.

 

[Nak-Muay-Kru]

Ok then don't marry his mom and the kid won't have to deal with you. However, if you marry his mom, you don't have that luxury.

I'm curious on how you would treat your inlaws, and your wife's nieces and nephews. Fyi, a Somali man should maintain a certain level of class - meaning you need to show respect and gratitude towards your wife's family.

Hence why I said "I wouldn't put myself in that position to begin with". I'm not some pathetic meal ticket cùnt lol. How is me saying I wouldn't raise someone else's kid related to the relationship I would potentially have with my in-laws? They're not even in the same ball park.

 

[Man with a garuun]

Hence why I said "I wouldn't put myself in that position to begin with". I'm not some pathetic meal ticket cùnt lol. How is me saying I wouldn't raise someone else's kid related to the relationship I would potentially have with my in-laws? They're not even in the same ball park.

Your wife's son is much closer to you than any other inlaw. That is what you gotta understand.

Besides, making statements like "I'm not some pathetic meal ticket cùnt" clearly shows that you're a stingy guy. Fyi, I'm about to marry a woman with a son, and maasha'Allah he'll get treated as my own son. That is what a real man oughtta do. And I aint stingy when it comes to my wife, her children from a former marriage, and her other immediate family members.

 

[En_Sabah Nur]

Your wife's son is much closer to you than any other inlaw. That is what you gotta understand.

Besides, making statements like "I'm not some pathetic meal ticket cùnt" clearly shows that you're a stingy guy. Fyi, I'm about to marry a woman with a son, and maasha'Allah he'll get treated as my own son. That is what a real man oughtta do. And I aint stingy when it comes to my wife, her children from a former marriage, and her other immediate family members.

You’re saying that now, wait till the kid starts acting up. Raising your own kids is a headache, why would you want to raise someone else kids?

 

[Man with a garuun]

You’re saying that now, wait till the kid starts acting up. Raising your own kids is a headache, why would you want to raise someone else kids?

Prophet Muhammad (scw) married widows. He is my role model.

Besides, If you love the wife and are married or about to marry her, then her children are your children. It is only teenage years that the boys and girls go through some challenges. But that also includes your children as well.

Let us not forget that your wife could be in a position that she has no choice but take in her siblings, nieces and nephews. Are you gonna deny them as well? Guys, you need to fix up. The goal of getting married is not to worry about your future wife's kids, but are the two of you compatible!

If people were horrible and lack compassion, the Western world wouldn't have let us in and provide all of you kids with ceer/caydh. I don't really understand how anyone can have issues with the children of a woman he was gonna marry. I really don't.

 

[Nak-Muay-Kru]

Your wife's son is much closer to you than any other inlaw. That is what you gotta understand.

Besides, making statements like "I'm not some pathetic meal ticket cùnt" clearly shows that you're a stingy guy. Fyi, I'm about to marry a woman with a son, and maasha'Allah he'll get treated as my own son. That is what a real man oughtta do. And I aint stingy when it comes to my wife, her children from a former marriage, and her other immediate family members.

Literally the "My wife's son" meme
No, I don't need to understand that because, again, like I've stated multiple times "I'm not going to play daddy to someone else's kid". I knew you were either a woman or a man who was playing daddy wallahi, you seemed too emotionally invested in the topic lol

I can be stingy with my money, I've earned every penny of it and I can dispense how I see fit abti. Chill out with the brow-beating/shaming shit and the "rEaL mAn" non-sense. From an evolutionary and biological standpoint, your actions are the opposite of what a "real man" would do.

Prophet Muhammad (scw) married widows. He is my role model.

Besides, If you love the wife and are married or about to marry her, then her children are your children. It is only teenage years that the boys and girls go through some challenges. But that also includes your children as well.

Let us not forget that your wife could be in a position that she has no choice but take in her siblings, nieces and nephews. Are you gonna deny them as well? Guys, you need to fix up. The goal of getting married is not to worry about your future wife's kids, but are the two of you compatible!

If people were horrible and lack compassion, the Western world wouldn't have let us in and provide all of you kids with ceer/caydh. I don't really understand how anyone can have issues with the children of a woman he was gonna marry. I really don't.

The operative word being widows lol.

 

[Man with a garuun]

Literally the "My wife's son" meme
No, I don't need to understand that because, again, like I've stated multiple times "I'm not going to play daddy to someone else's kid". I knew you were either a woman or a man who was playing daddy, you seemed too emotionally invested in the topic lol

I told you I'm a man who is gonna marry a woman and with a child who is a boy.

I can be stingy with my money, I've earned every penny of it and I can dispense how I see fit abti. Chill out with the brow-beating/shaming shit and the "rEaL mAn" non-sense. From an evolutionary and biological standpoint, your actions are the opposite of what a "real man" would do.

A real man doesn't run away from the children of his wife!! Taking issue with the son of your wife is just fucked up. Besides, you worrying about the first wife and her children, when guys like me are going for the second wife. How dare you compare yourself to me? You can't even get yourself to settle down with 1 wife when men like me are already populating the Horn and the rest of the world with Somali babies! Stop talking about what real men do or aughtta be when you're just a rookie who is just afraid of marrying one woman!

The operative word being widows lol.

The Prophet (scw) married divorced women and also recommended us to marry the widowed and the divorced women. Just read a little bit more.

 

[Amk]

I told you I'm a man who is gonna marry a woman and with a child who is a boy.



A real man doesn't run away from the children of his wife!! Taking issue with the son of your wife is just fucked up. Besides, you worrying about the first wife and her children, when guys like me are going for the second wife. How dare you compare yourself to me? You can't even get yourself to settle down with 1 wife when men like me are already populating the Horn and the rest of the world with Somali babies! Stop talking about what real men do or aughtta be when you're just a rookie who is just afraid of marrying one woman!



The Prophet (scw) married divorced women and also recommended us to marry the widowed and the divorced women. Just read a little bit more.

he never recommended us to marry divorced women he recommended we marry virgins

 

[Man with a garuun]

he never recommended us to marry divorced women he recommended we marry virgins

On the authority of Abu Hurairah (may Allah be pleased with him) who reported that the Prophet (peace be upon him) said, “A woman is married for four things: for her wealth, for her lineage, for her beauty or for her piety. Select the pious, may you be blessed!” (Al-Bukhari and Muslim).

"Our beloved Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) got married to Khadijah who was a widow and he got married to Zainb bint Jahash who has been divorced by Zaid b. Thabit. Zainab (may Allah be pleased with her) had Usamah ibn Zayd who was called the elect of the Prophet, whom he loved so much. The Prophet (peace be upon him), moreover, got married to 11 ladies all of them have previously married with the exception of Aishah (may Allah be pleased with her)."

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[Amk]

Can u please tell m one hadith out of the thousands where marrying widows or divorcees was recommended?

It was narrated that Jaabir ibn ‘Abd-Allaah (may Allaah be pleased with them both) said: “The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) asked me, ‘Have you got married?’ I said, ‘Yes.’ He said, ‘A virgin or a previously-married woman?’ I said, ‘A previously-married woman.’ He said, ‘Why not a young girl, whom you could play with and she could play with you?’ I said, ‘I have sisters and I wanted to marry a woman who could gather them together and comb their hair and take care of them.’ He said: ‘You will reach, so when you have arrived (at home), I advise you to associate with your wife (that you may have an intelligent son).’”

(Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 1991; Muslim, 715)
Shaykh Mustafa al-Ruhaybaani said:

“It is Sunnah for the one who wants to get married to marry a virgin, because the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said to Jaabir, ‘Why not a virgin whom you could play with and she could play with you?’ (agreed upon) – unless there is a reason for which marrying a previously-married woman is better, in which case he should choose such a woman over a virgin, in order to serve that interest.”(Mataalib Uli al-Nuha, 5/9, 10)

 

[Lebron James]

If she has teenagers i would never marry i heard horror stories, as long as the kids are younger than 10 years i would if shes sexy

 

[Nak-Muay-Kru]

I told you I'm a man who is gonna marry a woman and with a child who is a boy.



A real man doesn't run away from the children of his wife!! Taking issue with the son of your wife is just fucked up. Besides, you worrying about the first wife and her children, when guys like me are going for the second wife. How dare you compare yourself to me? You can't even get yourself to settle down with 1 wife when men like me are already populating the Horn and the rest of the world with Somali babies! Stop talking about what real men do or aughtta be when you're just a rookie who is just afraid of marrying one woman!



The Prophet (scw) married divorced women and also recommended us to marry the widowed and the divorced women. Just read a little bit more.

I sussed it out even before you admitted to it adeer lol. There you go again with the "real man" talk. Face it, the time, effort and resources required to raise "your wife's son" fucking lmfao, could be better spent raising your own biological child. No need to get defensive abti, I don't personally care if you marry half the female population in Bosaso, but please just stop coping. Besides, we didn't have that second wife/half-siblings, Jamaican tier shite in my household growing up. It's one man one wife.

Raising another able-bodied man's child is peak cuckholdery, no ifs no buts

 

[Juke]

No, but then again it depends on the circumstance of each man.

What kind of man would choose a less appealing option when a better is available to them? Gotta be pretty desperate.

 

[Man with a garuun]

Can u please tell m one hadith out of the thousands where marrying widows or divorcees was recommended?

It was narrated that Jaabir ibn ‘Abd-Allaah (may Allaah be pleased with them both) said: “The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) asked me, ‘Have you got married?’ I said, ‘Yes.’ He said, ‘A virgin or a previously-married woman?’ I said, ‘A previously-married woman.’ He said, ‘Why not a young girl, whom you could play with and she could play with you?’ I said, ‘I have sisters and I wanted to marry a woman who could gather them together and comb their hair and take care of them.’ He said: ‘You will reach, so when you have arrived (at home), I advise you to associate with your wife (that you may have an intelligent son).’”

(Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 1991; Muslim, 715)
Shaykh Mustafa al-Ruhaybaani said:

“It is Sunnah for the one who wants to get married to marry a virgin, because the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said to Jaabir, ‘Why not a virgin whom you could play with and she could play with you?’ (agreed upon) – unless there is a reason for which marrying a previously-married woman is better, in which case he should choose such a woman over a virgin, in order to serve that interest.”(Mataalib Uli al-Nuha, 5/9, 10)

I never said Prophet recommended marrying divorced women over virgins. I've stated the Prophet recommended to us marrying widowed and divorcee. The topic of virgins isn't something that I argued here.

But did you listen to Mufti Menk's lecture. The recommendation is the extra reward that you're getting by marrying a divorced and windowed women. By earning an extra reward is the recommendation.

 

[Amk]

I never said Prophet recommended marrying divorced women over virgins. I've stated the Prophet recommended to us marrying widowed and divorcee. The topic of virgins isn't something that I argued here.

But did you listen to Mufti Menk's lecture. The recommendation is the extra reward that you're getting by marrying a divorced and windowed women. By earning am extra reward is the recommendation.

If you dont marry a virgin then who else r u going to marry?
Ur saying its got nothing to do with virgins but they are the only other option

 

[Man with a garuun]

If you dont marry a virgin then who else r u going to marry?
Ur saying its got nothing to do with virgins but they are the only other option

Please explain to me why are we getting an extra reward by marrying a divorced or widowed if that is not recommendation?

You need to stop beating the bushes. The claim some guys made was that they won't marry a woman with a kid. I challenged that and part of my reasoning was the recommendation that was given to us through the actions of the Prophet (scw). You asked for a proof, and I provided a whole lecture. So again explain to me, why would a man receive extra reward for marrying a divorced or widowed if that is not recommendation? The Prophet (scw) wanted us to marry the virgin, divorced, and widowed. That is because Islam is just and fair all groups.

The idea that you want to run one hadith in isolation is dangerous. You want to understand the whole context. Prophet (scw) recommended to us marrying virgin, widowed, and divorcee. Which one you choose is your prerogative.