Would you guys marry a single mother ?

[solo_man]

Personally, I wouldn't. Also, some guys that specifically seek out single mothers, that don't have a kid/s of their own already, are incredibly sus.

some guys specifically seek out single mothers to take advantage of them lol those women probably stopped getting attention for a long time so when they see a guy giving them attention they go crazy also they already have a house so the guy doesnt have to really provide and most times the guys want to make them second wives

 

[Angelina]

You are a rare kind. We are too pc.

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[Shimbiris]

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Folks who lack self awareness and xishood like this among men and women always confuse me. I've met overweight young ladies, for example, who for some reason openly admit their partner should be in-shape while snubbing fat saxiibs. Makes no sense. That guy's example is even worse as no woman sets out wanting to be a single mother and it is a sad predicament like his own situation I imagine yet here he is snubbing them.

 

[Angelina]

You see this with both men and women. Take for example the common jokey stereotype of an overweight woman who wants a thin/in-shape partner and who won't sneeze in the direction of a fat man. There is some truth to the stereotype. Some folks have no self awareness or xishood, man or woman.

I might be biased here, but i think women definitely have more self awareness in general, not because they are better people because they are just as messed up, but because society would laugh at the idea of a single mother expecting to be with a never married man, or a non virgin woman demanding a virgin.

Also, historically and even to this day in third world countries, men can make demands all day because they're the providers so an old crusty man with 8 kids can say he wants a never married beautiful virgin and there will be a poor girl who will be forced to marry him. A fat woman making demands is a joke, simply because men being visual will simply avoid her and fat shame her. Men have always had freedom of choice due to finances and that is why some men think being a single father is okay, but not for a woman. Shit is changing though and some can't take it loool.

 

[solo_man]

I might be biased here, but women definitely have more self awareness, not because they are better people but because society would laugh at the idea of a single mother expecting to be with a never married man, or a non virgin woman demanding a virgin. Also, historically and even to this day in third world countries, men can make demands all day because they're the providers so an old crusty man with 8 kids can say he wants a never married beautiful virgin and there will be a poor girl who will be forced to marry him. A fat woman making demands is a joke, simply because men being visual will simply avoid her and fat shame her. Men have always had freedom of choice due to finances and that is why your gender are entitled. Shit is changing though and some can't take it loool.

even in west its same men still dont want a non virgin as a wife especially when its a mans first marriage but the other way round woman doesn't mind even in the west this will never change

 

[Angelina]

even in west its same men still dont want a non virgin as a wife especially when its a mans first marriage but the other way round woman doesn't mind even in the west this will never change

Who told you women don't mind? If women didn't care a lot of men wouldn't be lying about having kids and previous marriages. Believe me, most young women don't want men with baggage and their families don't want them as well. Majority of never married Somali girls marry Somali men that have also never married.

Women have choices now and a farax with an ex and kids is rarely first choice. Its one thing if she falls in love, but the opposite also happens as well with young men falling in love with single mothers.

 

[anonimo]

Who told you women don't mind? If women didn't care a lot of men wouldn't be lying about having kids and previous marriages. Believe me, most young women don't want men with baggage and their families don't want them as well. Majority of never married Somali girls marry Somali men that have also never married.

Women have choices now and a farax with an ex and kids is rarely first choice. Its one thing if she falls in love, but the opposite also happens as well with young men falling in love with single mothers.

I'd disagree about guys with baggage not marrying single women in the West. I have lost count of the number of divorcee men who remarry a single woman who has never been married. I agree the ideal is to marry a man with no History but the truth is that men are freer when they divorce because they do not get saddled with childcare. There are also notorious cases where some single women actively pursue relationships with guys they know are married because they are attractive, made etc.

 

[Angelina]

I'd disagree about guys with baggage not marrying single women in the West. I have lost count of the number of divorcee men who remarry a single woman who has never been married. I agree the ideal is to marry a man with no History but the truth is that men are freer when they divorce because they do not get saddled with childcare. There are also notorious cases where some single women actively pursue relationships with guys they know are married because they are attractive, made etc.

My point was that women do indeed care. Because if they didn't, a lot of men with kids would not have to lie in the beginning and they do. Just ask any Xalimo. I've lost count with the amounts that do lie.

Fact of the matter is, they're not first choice. Most girls want a man that has never been married before. Do they at times give previously married men a chance? Yes of course. But lets not act like women prefer them or see them the same as men with no kids, because we categorically don't.

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[anonimo]

My point was that women do indeed care. Because if they didn't, a lot of men with kids would not have to lie in the beginning and they do. Just ask any Xalimo. I've lost count with the amounts that do lie.

Fact of the matter is, they're not first choice. Most girls want a man that has never been married before. Do they at times give previously married men a chance? Yes of course. But lets not act like women prefer them or see them the same as men with no kids, because we categorically don't.

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Never disputed it is not what they idealised whilst playing with dolls as little princesses but shit happens!

 

[Angelina]

Never disputed it is not what they idealised whilst playing with dolls as little princesses but shit happens!

That is life. Men are notoriously vocal about not marrying single mothers, yet a lot of single mothers remarry and some find Faraxs that have never married.

 

[Shimbiris]

My point was that women do indeed care. Because if they didn't, a lot of men with kids would not have to lie in the beginning and they do. Just ask any Xalimo. I've lost count with the amounts that do lie.

Fact of the matter is, they're not first choice. Most girls want a man that has never been married before. Do they at times give previously married men a chance? Yes of course. But lets not act like women prefer them or see them the same as men with no kids, because we categorically don't.

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Stop all this, Angie. You're a racist. Racist against the unfortunate race that is single aabos. Check your prejudice and call back that poor catch you let go of.

 

[IstarZ]

If you’ve never been married before you should seek out someone with a similar experience. It’s very difficult raising children but even harder when they’re not your own. Not everyone is cut out for that.

 

[anonimo]

That is life. Men are notoriously vocal about not marrying single mothers, yet a lot of single mothers remarry and some find Faraxs that have never married.

Single mothers are indeed sought after by many men especially if they are young and beautiful. Can't deny that.

Anyway, it is a merry go round nowadays among a section of the diaspora. They get married and divorced on a whim. People exchange spouses like Christmas gifts. Might as well open Xalal Swingers' Clubs whilst they are at it.

 

[reer]

Single mothers are indeed sought after by many men especially if they are young and beautiful. Can't deny that.

Anyway, it is a merry go round nowadays among a section of the diaspora. They get married and divorced on a whim. People exchange spouses like Christmas gifts. Might as well open Xalal Swingers' Clubs whilst they are at it.

somalis back home marry and divorce quickly. caadi maaha. its about time the diaspora catches the fever.

 

[anonimo]

somalis back home marry and divorce quickly. caadi maaha. its about time the diaspora catches the fever.

Wallahi I hear some tragically funny shit from relatives back home. Divorced before 20 with a child or two after Jacayl in their teens. They should ban Bollywood and Turkish dramas, and stop free mixing in schools.

The mature guys are benefitting though cause young girls/women now hanker after them because they are more responsible than Ciyaal Waa Ku Jacaalaha Nooh!

 

[Angelina]

Stop all this, Angie. You're a racist. Racist against the unfortunate race that is single aabos. Check your prejudice and call back that poor catch you let go of.

I don't think i'm cut out to be step mum lool.

somalis back home marry and divorce quickly. caadi maaha. its about time the diaspora catches the fever.

And then you have people blaming the West for Somalis divorce rate. I know people back home who've had 3 kids and have been married twice and they're not even 25! Its terrible back home. They all need forced pre-marital classes before tying the knot.

 

[Angelina]

Wallahi I hear some tragically funny shit from relatives back home. Divorced before 20 with a child or two after Jacayl in their teens. They should ban Bollywood and Turkish dramas, and stop free mixing in schools.

The mature guys are benefitting though cause young girls/women now hanker after them because they are more responsible than Ciyaal Waa Ku Jacaalaha Nooh!

A fob once told me with all seriousness 'ninku dhalikaro aa ku dhaqikaro', yep she wanted an old man now as young ones have been irresponsible towards her.

That is when I knew shit is dire.

 

[anonimo]

A fob once told me with all seriousness 'ninku dhalikaro aa ku dhaqikaro', yep she wanted an old man now as young ones have been irresponsible towards her.

That is when I knew shit is dire.

That is an often used proverb but it has an older History.

Your sense of female injustice and warped idealism is delusionary young lady. It is what it is, nothing dire about this Dunya, it is a Test after all. Just be thankful your test ain't as bad as others.

 

[reer]

I don't think i'm cut out to be step mum lool.

And then you have people blaming the West for Somalis divorce rate. I know people back home who've had 3 kids and have been married twice and they're not even 25! Its terrible back home. They all need forced pre-marital classes before tying the knot.

Wallahi I hear some tragically funny shit from relatives back home. Divorced before 20 with a child or two after Jacayl in their teens. They should ban Bollywood and Turkish dramas, and stop free mixing in schools.

The mature guys are benefitting though cause young girls/women now hanker after them because they are more responsible than Ciyaal Waa Ku Jacaalaha Nooh!

folks back home are horny af. they dont mind marrying gabadh or wiil with caruur.

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[Nak-Muay-Kru]

Yes, but only if the kid's father is dead. I'm not feeding and clothing some deadbeat's overgrown nut