My dad left me as a child

[IftiinOfLife]

There’s nothing worse than a gaalo dad I’m thankful for that too
I can relate to that so much. I’m a complete savage and for the longest time felt no pain to physical and emotional stuff
but how did your dad survive that fall?
I’m sorry you went through what you did as well, glad you’re sharing it here

He passed out at the end of the stairs, and it wasn't a full staircase, it was like 8-11 steps.

but he fucked his leg up for a few weeks. But I got in trouble after, a few beatings whatever. He shortly left us afterwards. It became a running joke in my family tho lol, that ill push someone down the stairs.

Yeah my upbringing made me a complete emotional savage, the only thing that hurts me emotionally is what my mom thinks of me, thats basically it. Everything else I don't care about. The only thing keeping me a good person during my dark days was my love and belief in Allah swt.

 

[Umm-al-Dhegdheeriyaa]

He passed out at the end of the stairs, and it wasn't a full staircase, it was like 8-11 steps.

but he fucked his leg up for a few weeks. But I got in trouble after, a few beatings whatever. He shortly left us afterwards. It became a running joke in my family tho lol, that ill push someone down the stairs.

Yeah my upbringing made me a complete emotional savage, the only thing that hurts me emotionally is what my mom thinks of me, thats basically it. Everything else I don't care about. The only thing keeping me a good person during my dark days was my love and belief in Allah swt.

I feel bad for laughing at that, your dad must’ve been so traumatised to the point of giving up and leaving
We’re so similar, believing in Allah swt helped me get to where I am today, never lose hope sis

 

[TheAnswer]

Your dad's alcoholism, cruelty, and inability to stay in one place all indicate he may suffer from antisocial personality disorder (psychopath). If you find and confront him, like the typical psychopath he will deny responsibility, gaslight you, and try to emotionally manipulate you. Don't fall into his trap. Erase him from your heart and mind and through the great life you lead send him a big middle finger.

 

[IftiinOfLife]

I feel bad for laughing at that, your dad must’ve been so traumatised to the point of giving up and leaving
We’re so similar, believing in Allah swt helped me get to where I am today, never lose hope sis

at least i gave him a fucked up leg

Without God we have nothing Im glad you recognize that as well.

I'm glad you kept your faith, we can overcome our pasts sis and make fruitful realities and futures.

I'm glad your survived too, they won't understand our lives, so I never talk about this shit.

 

[IftiinOfLife]

Your dad's alcoholism, cruelty, and inability to stay in one place all indicate he may suffer from antisocial personality disorder (pscyopath). If you find and confront him, like the typical psychopath he will deny responsibility, gaslight you, and try to emotionally manipulate you. Don't fall into his trap. Erase him from your heart and mind and through the great life you lead send him a big middle finger.

The funny thing is, me and him are mirror images , but I'm just choose not to be a abusive asshole , no sympathy for old loser abo.

I need to show him how Im better so he can feel more pain in his heart , get some revenge for hoyo

 

[IBRAHIM.]

Like the title explains.

I am now around same age he was when he emigrated to the west, and I made more money this year, then he did his entire life.

Is Karma real?





But it hit me, I am the same age range, he was when he went to start a new life and I'm miles ahead of him Deep feels.

I guess your mom has a taste for losers.

 

[IftiinOfLife]

I guess your mom has a taste for losers.

So does yours for birthing you.

 

[Leila]

He moves around a lot to escape responsibility, which is sad, and I haven't seen him since I was 11.

I'm not angry and him, I'm just disappointed in our somali system that tolerates such fuckery, since he is getting supported in his world wide fuckery and getting escape tickets when shit gets hot.



I want to see him, but my mom said if i do, she will disown me which i understand,

but I just need to roast him 1 once before I die, so he knows before he goes to hell, how much I had to grind/give up my youth to make up for his fuckery to save our family from poverty and abuse

It sounds like had his own personal issues, not that it gives him the right to abandon you. It would be good to contact him and hear his side of the story so that at least you find some closure.

Your mother is responding like that because she is hurt , understandably. But you have the right to at least see him and ask him questions.

 

[VantaBlack]

He moves around a lot to escape responsibility, which is sad, and I haven't seen him since I was 11.

I'm not angry and him, I'm just disappointed in our somali system that tolerates such fuckery, since he is getting supported in his world wide fuckery and getting escape tickets when shit gets hot.



I want to see him, but my mom said if i do, she will disown me which i understand,

but I just need to roast him 1 once before I die, so he knows before he goes to hell, how much I had to grind/give up my youth to make up for his fuckery to save our family from poverty and abuse

Not that I am making excuses for your father, but you can never know what people have been through or going through mentally until you have walked in their shoes from their perspective.

Better to just forgive and forget, believe me holding on to grudges or trying to prove a point will only hurt you in the end.

 

[Wiil_Facaye]

He moves around a lot to escape responsibility, which is sad, and I haven't seen him since I was 11.

I'm not angry and him, I'm just disappointed in our somali system that tolerates such fuckery, since he is getting supported in his world wide fuckery and getting escape tickets when shit gets hot.



I want to see him, but my mom said if i do, she will disown me which i understand,

but I just need to roast him 1 once before I die, so he knows before he goes to hell, how much I had to grind/give up my youth to make up for his fuckery to save our family from poverty and abuse

Are you sure your dad is Somali? Cause I have never seen or heard a Somali father running away from their kids wtf

 

[IftiinOfLife]

Are you sure your dad is Somali? Cause I have never seen or heard a Somali father running away from their kids wtf

This is why I hate the somali community

 

[Abdalla]

So during my entire destroyed family saga, I would observe the Somali community

• not help us
• berate us
• look down on us

This is actually very sad. Which community is that? The Somali community here is very tight and they help each other?

What about your uncles, someone who could fill the void?

 

[Abdalla]

I make a lot of money why do you all think I'm so happy. My mother and family live very... comfortably.

More than me?

https://www.somalispot.com/threads/how-much-do-you-earn.66624/

 

[IftiinOfLife]

This is actually very sad. Which community is that? The Somali community here is very tight and they help each other?

What about your uncles, someone who could fill the void?

Estranged family beef, too dramatic to discuss, here, but short answer is no.

but I tasted

• poverty
• oppression
• racism

and over came it. I haven't seen my paternal uncles in over 12-13 years. Nor do they call or ask about me, completely forget my first cousins names since I haven't seen them in forever. Terrible shit.

I'm totally team reer hoyo, I know her side like the back of my hand, just the way it goes sometimes

I'm gonna double up my money in the next 2-4 years and I know those fuckers will find my digits and hit me up with some iska warans, lacag isii bullshit.Broke ass es.

 

[IftiinOfLife]

More than me?

https://www.somalispot.com/threads/how-much-do-you-earn.66624/

What should I do in that thread, post a paystub lol? Show stacks of cash?

I'll do that and try to avoid evil eye.

 

[VixR]

You have a pretty bad view of him yourself, and you were a child so your mom is bound to have reasons to forbid you seeing him that you can’t fathom. I would respect her wishes.

Kudos to you for being able to shoulder your family as a child and still today.

 

[Abdalla]

Estranged family beef, too dramatic to discuss, here, but short answer is no.

but I tasted

• poverty
• oppression
• racism

and over came it. I haven't seen my paternal uncles in over 12-13 years. Nor do they call or ask about me, completely forget my first cousins names since I haven't seen them in forever. Terrible shit.

I'm totally team reer hoyo, I know her side like the back of my hand, just the way it goes sometimes

I'm gonna double up my money in the next 2-4 years and I know those fuckers will find my digits and hit me up with some iska warans, lacag isii bullshit.Broke ass es.

The only families that are voided are the troublemakers with lots of dramas. But walahi in my experience, families going through poverty and abuse are helped. Our Somali neighbour use to have abusive husband. She use to run to our house when shut hit the fan. Families that were struggling to pay the rent were helped by collecting money.

What should I do in that thread, post a paystub lol? Show stacks of cash?

I'll do that and try to avoid evil eye.

I'm interested to know your hustle. Make a YouTube channel and give tutorials there.

 

[Bohol]

Could this explain why many young halimos in the west resent farahs? cause their fathers were deadbeats. Very interesting thread OP.

 

[Halimo-2018]

Like the title explains.

I am now around same age he was when he emigrated to the west, and I made more money this year, then he did his entire life.

Is Karma real?





But it hit me, I am the same age range, he was when he went to start a new life and I'm miles ahead of him Deep feels.

It really doesn't matter. Maybe he left because of your mom nothing to do with you. Either way forgive him he is your dad. Support him as much as you can if mom gets mad at you hide it from her. People Wrong Allah let alone humans. The cycle could continue if you don't stop it your kids will do it to you too because they will hear about it and become desensitized to it.

 

[Younes Osman]

@IftiinOfLife ’s dad after he finds out she’s making that bread
Waktiga Gossal maha, wa real life situation wa yan ninyo