My dad left me as a child

[IftiinOfLife]

Like the title explains.

I am now around same age he was when he emigrated to the west, and I made more money this year, then he did his entire life.

Is Karma real?





But it hit me, I am the same age range, he was when he went to start a new life and I'm miles ahead of him Deep feels.

 

[Abdalla]

Are you in contact with him? Or know about his whereabouts?

I hope you find closure with no resentment whatsoever.

 

[Jaydaan]

Sorry to hear that. his loss I would say

 

[IftiinOfLife]

Are you in contact with him? Or know about his whereabouts?

I hope you find closure with no resentment whatsoever.

He moves around a lot to escape responsibility, which is sad, and I haven't seen him since I was 11.

I'm not angry and him, I'm just disappointed in our somali system that tolerates such fuckery, since he is getting supported in his world wide fuckery and getting escape tickets when shit gets hot.



I want to see him, but my mom said if i do, she will disown me which i understand,

but I just need to roast him 1 once before I die, so he knows before he goes to hell, how much I had to grind/give up my youth to make up for his fuckery to save our family from poverty and abuse

 

[Gibiin-Udug]

I want to see him, but my mom said if i do, she will disown me

This is the problem I’ve with some Somali women, why would she disown you? What if your dad tried to reach out to you when you were younger but your mom blocked him?


OP please find your dad and talk to him, atleast get his side of the story.

Somali women should stop banning men from seeing their kids, he divorced you and not his kids.

 

[Younes Osman]

Like the title explains.

I am now around same age he was when he emigrated to the west, and I made more money this year, then he did his entire life.

Is Karma real?





But it hit me, I am the same age range, he was when he went to start a new life and I'm miles ahead of him Deep feels.

That's kinda sad, I guess there is such thing as "abbo troubles" and "deadbeat abbos" who waste their time in the makhyada and meffreesh eating khat. But, alhamdullah my abbo was and is in my life. Furthermore, I hope you and your dad stay in contact with each other inshallah because he might be a changed person and wants to repair the father and son relationship.

 

[IftiinOfLife]

This is the problem I’ve with some Somali women, why would she disown you? What if your dad tried to reach out to you when you were younger but your mom blocked him?


OP please find your dad and talk to him, atleast get his side of the story.

Somali women should stop banning men from seeing their kids, he divorced you and not his kids.

There is no sides wallahi

He's actually an abusive alcoholic loser who destroyed my family and used to beat on my mom, and I saw it, so I understand her reasoning.

I had to stop him from beating us during his drunken tirades wtf

But I've been randomly thinking of him lately, so maybe we will cross paths in the future.

I made this thread even though its fucking embarrassing, to show our community, this shit is a reality, and it needs to stop.

 

[Gibiin-Udug]

There is no sides wallahi

He's actually an abusive alcoholic loser who destroyed my family and used to beat on my mom, and I saw it, so I understand her reasoning.

I had to stop him from beating us during his drunken tirades wtf

But I've been randomly thinking of him lately, so maybe we will cross paths in the future.

I made this thread even though its fucking embarrassing, to show our community, this shit is a reality, and it needs to stop.

Omg I’m so sorry you had to witness that as a child.


Edit:

@IftiinOfLife find closure by contacting your dad, who knows he might have sobered up and changed his ways.

 

[IftiinOfLife]

Omg I’m so sorry you had to witness that as a child.

Fcuk him then.

He's the reason I laugh at violence

But I sincerely hope we cross paths soon wallahi, I need to show him I did his job and did it 30 times better. I don't need the closure but, it would be a great final chapter for our relationship. Like the end of a great movie


So during my entire destroyed family saga, I would observe the Somali community

• not help us
• berate us
• look down on us

that's when I knew the community is fake and garbage, and I need to focus on my family,goals, and Allah swt.

Anytime I see somalis talk about " single mother hood is a fake stereotype" I just laugh this shit is real.

 

[IftiinOfLife]

That's kinda sad, I guess there is such thing as "abbo troubles" and "deadbeat abbos" who waste their time in the makhyada and meffreesh eating khat. But, alhamdullah my abbo was and is in my life. Furthermore, I hope you and your dad stay in contact with each other inshallah because he might be a changed person and wants to repair the father and son relationship.

Im a girl but thanks.

 

[Waaqo of Punt]

@IftiinOfLife ok now your previous responses to me in the other thread are clearer. I'm not gonna feel pity or say 'I know how u feel' cus I really don't but I hope u have a real conversation with ur dad once u can contact him again. Give it a try.

It's better to believe and be disappointed rather than doubt and feel regret...u agree?

 

[Abdisamad]

No matter what happened in the past try to forgive him....It could be your father had a psychological problem which lead him to a destructive path.. Did you ever ask yourself why did he need to drink? Why was he always running from place to place?

 

[Killua]

Alhamdulillah my father is present in my life but I feel like most Somali father's play an active role in their child's lives.


One problem we have however is that unlike other cultures, the mother has the most power in the household. The father isn't a position to make portant decisions etc so his power is diminished. That's probably the biggest con of marrying a Somali women-they don't know how to be women

 

[World]

Your father is ten times the man you will ever be.

 

[IftiinOfLife]

No matter what happened in the past try to forgive him....It could be your father had a psychological problem which lead him to a destructive path.. Did you ever ask yourself why did he need to drink? Why was he always running from place to place?

I suspect this and he may have passed it on to me, but still i'm not a loser like he was.

I just see it as a test from god my family over came, and now we're rich. Can't get the rainbow without seeing the storm first, right

@IftiinOfLife ok now your previous responses to me in the other thread are clearer. I'm not gonna feel pity or say 'I know how u feel' cus I really don't but I hope u have a real conversation with ur dad once u can contact him again. Give it a try.

It's better to believe and be disappointed rather than doubt and feel regret...u agree?

It's all good, I'm gonna maybe see him in a few years, and he'll probably ask for money but i just need 30 mins to roast him, and i'm good for the rest of my life. i actually don't give a shit about that loser wallahi.

 

[World]

Even if my father was a drunkard, I would never disrespect him or talk badly about him. I am his son, and he has rights over me. I would advice him and try take him to the mosque.

 

[IftiinOfLife]

Even if my father was a drunkard, I would never disrespect him or talk badly about him. I am his son, and he has rights over me. I would advice him and try take him to the mosque.

How can you take someone to the mosque who runs away lock his ass up, and I want my child support money too. if this was an islamic court system he would be locked up.

 

[AdoonkaAlle]

@IftiinOfLife

May Allah ease your halgaan walaal

Ameen thumma Ameen

 

[Waaqo of Punt]

I suspect this and he may have passed it on to me, but still i'm not a loser like he was.

I just see it as a test from god my family over came, and now we're rich. Can't get the rainbow without seeing the storm first, right




It's all good, I'm gonna maybe see him in a few years, and he'll probably ask for money but i just need 30 mins to roast him, and i'm good for the rest of my life. i actually don't give a shit about that loser wallahi.

I think this is u right now...?

:siilaanyosmile:

but in all seriousness, just try and talk to him. Where it goes from then on is all up to u. Just free urself from whatever shit u wanna ask him and don't say u don't wanna say anything cus u def do. lol.

It's ok

 

[ThreeTwentyOne]

I want to see him

He's actually an abusive alcoholic loser who destroyed my family and used to beat on my mom, and I saw it,

I want to see him