Well, of course, but that’s the whole point. I think it’s perfectly normal and common to love someone, and benefit from a one-off here and there, for lack of a better term.
I’d say that’s the default for most people, and I really think if it were the practice, longevity would improve in couples. Instead, what usually happens is 1) either engaging in those needs non-consenually, thereby causing a lot of pain through infidelity, or 2) just waiting it out until you’ve lost all interest in the person you’re with, only to monkey bar into another relationship where the same happens.
The problem is, you recognize that need in yourself, but you don’t recognize that for the other party. That’s why I think it takes a lot of growth to work up to that point where you’re not as selfish.
This is all in theory, of course. I haven’t practiced it. I don’t think I’m mature enough yet. I’ve been in love before, but I sorta think I have to be cheated on first to experience the negative pitfalls of relationships.