Marital rape, a hidden problem

[Samaalic Era]

@Finesse @Samaalic Era
Is it fair to divorce someone if they no longer are able to fulfill your sexual needs in the relationship? Whats the islanic view on this issue?

Intimacy is a right for both parties and neither should rush to divorce without trying to resolve it with wisdom. A woman can request khula if the husband can no longer fulfill her in regards to intimacy. The man can marry a 2nd wife if he can afford it

Divorce should be last option

 

[Helios]

@Muji's man begging for respite when the tanks empty

 

[Omar del Sur]

Marital rape doesn't exist in my opinion.

It's not a matter of opinion. It's a fact. It's an oxymoron.

 

[Mimir]

This is a controversial subject but it's one that needs to be discussed and not brushed under the rug.

For all the men, remember, you may be blessed or have a daughter, would you want her to be brutalised? If not, please read on.

There is a hadith that people often quote, the one about the husband who calls his wife but she refuses and the angels curse her.

Now, this hadith is controversial and often disputed. To women, the most rational explanation and reason is that the husband calling his wife doesn't have to mean for sexual reasons, it could have been to resolve or reconcile a problem.

As you all know the male and female anatomy is not the same, for a woman to enjoy intimacy or not to be in pain, she needs to be lubricated, therefore, she needs to be in a state of pleasure/relaxation.

Imagine your wife is tired/sick/not in the right head space, her body is also going to reflect her mood.

Some "men", still insist on mounting their wives and doing their deed without any account for her comfort.

Is this normal?

If you ignore a "NO" and force yourself on another person this is called "RAPE".

Let me give you an example for how the scenario would be the other way around:


1. You come home tired, or you are injured, your wife tries to have sex with you but you turn her down, she just jumps on you and gets "hers" anyway.
2. You have some discomfort in your genitals and you cannot "perform", your wife snatches your genitals and just jumps on it anyway.



DISCUSS

I wouldn't want to be selfish when it comes to sex. I would want my wife to enjoy it as well.

It's simple. If she doesn't enjoy it then I don't as well

There is a great sense of pleasure you feel when you know you satisfied her needs as well

 

[Mimir]

She's always in the mood. She has a very high sex drive.

You do know that the husband is not allowed to refuse sex if the wife demands it, right? The husband may not be in the mood but if the wife is really horny. He is still obligated to satisfy his wife.

This

Most of the faraxs here think that it's only one way.

 

[Shmurda]

I wussed a shordy when I had the flu so ion wanna hear no excuses

 

[Luciddreamer]

Some women use sex as a weapon and a leverage, withholding it to get what they want and that's what the Hadith is warning against.

Ofcourse no male will bother his Mrs if she genuinely isn't up for it, you have to understand each others bodies.

This.

 

[Helios]

Fundamentally If my wife isn't feeling it then I'll respect that but the opposite must be true*
i dont think i will ever turn down some halal goodness*

 

[Timo Jareer and proud]

Is it hard to smash when everyone wants to?

 

[Abdisamad]

I wussed a shordy when I had the flu so ion wanna hear no excuses

 

[psyche]

I wussed a shordy when I had the flu so ion wanna hear no excuses

 

[AhmedSmelly]

Some women use sex as a weapon and a leverage, withholding it to get what they want and that's what the Hadith is warning against.

Ofcourse no male will bother his Mrs if she genuinely isn't up for it, you have to understand each others bodies.

For the first time I see someone who is knowledgeable on Islamic texture.

Where were you hidden, the last time this idiots made 16 pages on martial rape.

This westernized dogs are either too liberal(mostly women) or too conservative(mostly men).

Yes I called you dogs, you mindless creatures .

Get this straight. Rape of wife is a Western concept. But that doesn't mean the women has no rights in Islam. She can go to a judge and ask for her rights. If he had sex with her while she couldn't. Examples: psychological, someone she was related to had just died. Or physical problems she had, maybe it was her period. Or the doctor told her.

If the man doesn't doesnt care about the wifes boundaries, she could be compensated with money from him. Or a divorce will be allowed. Or both

 

[a y a n]

if the woman isn’t feeling it, don’t jump on her
if the guy isn’t feeling it, don’t jump up on him
but if it’s not over 4/5 times a week it was a waste

 

[Macalin M]

factz if you knew half of the stuff Somalis in the U.K. get up to I’m no longer shocked about anything. Lol.

Spoiler

You don't have permission to view the spoiler content. Log in or register now.

What do you mean the stuff uk Somalis get up to :O :O

 

[Muji]

What do you mean the stuff uk Somalis get up to :O :O

Ask @Jaydaan

 

[Exodus]

Some of you guys need to learn self-control, is it so hard to have sex when both people want to?

 

[Macalin M]

Ask @Jaydaan

Nah he (or she, I think she) scares me a bit. She reminds me of my primary school dinner lady....

 

[NotMyL]

That is why I always tell people before marriage discuss about sexual topics without flirting. Talk about how many times you want in a day or week. You might want it every day but he might want it a couple times of week then you just dodged yourself a bullet.

That's how I got comfortable marrying my wife.

Lol everyone has high sex drive during the shukansi stage, couples go in thinking they will do it every day then reality sets in, after hard day of work and having washed your hair last night the last thing on your mind is sex. Married couples need to be honest and stop misleading people

 

[Finesse]

I wouldn't want to be selfish when it comes to sex. I would want my wife to enjoy it as well.

It's simple. If she doesn't enjoy it then I don't as well

There is a great sense of pleasure you feel when you know you satisfied her needs as well

Thank you so much.

I don't understand how men can enjoy sex when a woman is just laying there in pain/boredom/disgust.

 

[Macalin M]

Isn’t sex without foreplay haram? Don’t quote me I’m just asking