I haven't seen or remember any of the brothers saying "a wife loses value/desire is disturbing tbh". Men should cherish their wives and always remember good and tough times they went shared, and should look forward to many more happy days.
I usually give an upvote to a comment when I agree with the conclusion of the comment. I haven't seen anyone who stated "a woman loses value". I wouldn't give an upvote to a comment that has that language.
I think you and several others are up in arms because you oppose polygamy. And when you see others who agree with us, especially ladies, you're attacking them. You're even calling sister
@Pandora a "farah" simply because she doesn't follow your mindset. I gotta advise you sister that you need to let your current or future husbands take more wives provided they have the financial means to do so.
Just think about the Somali community in the diaspora. We have more sisters who are looking for Somali husbands but because we don't have enough men available for them, they tend to marry an ajnabi or remain single for a long time.
Had you all been accepting your men to take second wives, you would've had many sister wives, and the loves you, as sister wives, have for each other would've been much better.
I suggest to any of you sisters who oppose polygamy visit single Muslim match-making sites. The largest number of women who post their profiles are Somali women. I feel bad when I see all of these sisters who had to resort to post their profiles online because they couldn't meet suitable husbands in our community. And amongst the Somali women who post their profiles online, majority come from UK or Canada.
Polygamy is a solution to this problem. Had you all been accepting polygamy, you wouldn't need to post your profiles on online Muslim matchmaking sites, and look for husbands through that way. It is pretty darn another level when our women do that in order to find suitable husbands. Just accept polygamy and we have the countless single Somali women epidemic resolved.