This is just post menstrual stress, you can't hold a women to account for her PMS it's foolish, let them have their outburst so all that negative air gets out.
@Rorschach
Don't be deceived that they are not into those dominating men, even the most vile of them is more pleasing to her biologically then effeminate one, that's why big time drug dealers and even the petty ones do far better then the average males.
It's easier for the men back home because society is on their side as it should be but here in the diaspora if your foolish enough to get married to one, you have to calibrate a lot because both the government and the wider society is against you and she knows this.
Even those men back home that have their households together would struggle to replicate this here unless it's a women that has piety who fears Allah, which is why the Prophet advised to select a women for her piety alone, you will simply not succeed otherwise regardless how strong you are as a person in this western world.
You can shoulder the burden of a bad wife easily back home and there are many incentives for her not to be such a women because no one else would want her and even the other women as well as the entire community shuns her.
But such men as you pointed out deserve that kind of society collectively which they have, but we in our absolute pathetic current state don't deserve this at all.
