Are you currently in a relationship?

[waranlee]

@EternalLightX Don't take this to heart, but you honestly come across off as a smug self aggrandizing arrogant prick that lives in a fantasy world.

I'm honestly not trying to be rude but that's just what you seem like.

 

[Coulombs law]

Hard to stay away from something that's natural like that for too long, the way young Muslims are expected to nowadays. Muslim parents want their kids to follow all the religious rules such not interacting with the opposite gender unless necessary, not having friends of the opposite gender, and staying a virgin till marriage yet they also delay marriage (which goes against the religious teachings, lol) and expect their kids to stay in school for years. This doesn't work lol.

I agree with you but delaying marriage is almost inevitable nowadays because you have to be independent first and have stable income etc.

A lot of muslims go into relationships saying its hard to stay away from Haram, but in Islam we are given guidelines to follow if we are not able to stay away from fitnah such as fasting and lowering our gaze etc.

While it is hard to stay away from natural instincts it is definitely possible if proper islamic guidelines are followed..

 

[Jeesto]

Why did you broke up fam?

She was the jealous type and a spoiled little brat sxb like those teenage stupid and annoying girls you see in american movies

 

[psychoukhtive]

Hard to stay away from something that's natural like that for too long, the way young Muslims are expected to nowadays. Muslim parents want their kids to follow all the religious rules such not interacting with the opposite gender unless necessary, not having friends of the opposite gender, and staying a virgin till marriage yet they also delay marriage (which goes against the religious teachings, lol) and expect their kids to stay in school for years. This doesn't work.

tbh I dont think its hard to stay away.
you are right though we shouldn't delay marriage (its sunnah!)..but then again most of us are "westernized"/ have adapted to its culture. bit of a clash.

I agree with you but delaying marriage is almost inevitable nowadays because you have to be independent first and have stable income etc.

A lot of muslims go into relationships saying its hard to stay away from Haram, but in Islam we are given guidelines to follow if we are not able to stay away from fitnah such as fasting and lowering our gaze etc.

While it is hard to stay away from natural instincts it is definitely possible if proper islamic guidelines are followed..

You know what..I ve never really quite understood the relationship part, why don't you just marry them ? if you're not financially stable enough to have wedding/celebration then just have a nikkah and wait until you can afford it.

 

[DrippinglyWet]

tbh I dont think its hard to stay away.
you are right though we shouldn't delay marriage (its sunnah!)..but then again most of us are "westernized"/ have adapted to its culture. bit of a clash.





You know what..I ve never really quite understood the relationship part, why don't you just marry them ? if you're not financially stable enough to have wedding/celebration then just have a nikkah and wait until you can afford it.

Its not hard because you're not a man, trust me.

 

[Sarah136]

so with these relationships is it a temporary fling or something potential of marriage or do you see yourself marrying someone better?

 

[cantspeak]

Nah ECE eng, you?

Che Eng.

When you said open up an engineering business in Mogadishu I assumed civil since there's a construction boom in somalia

 

[Coulombs law]

tbh I dont think its hard to stay away.
you are right though we shouldn't delay marriage (its sunnah!)..but then again most of us are "westernized"/ have adapted to its culture. bit of a clash.





You know what..I ve never really quite understood the relationship part, why don't you just marry them ? if you're not financially stable enough to have wedding/celebration then just have a nikkah and wait until you can afford it.

The problem is that Somalis never think to the future and their minds are always fixtated to the present.

You have Somali guys getting into lowkey relationships with Somali girls just because they find them hot or she has a "fat ass" but they have zero intentions of marrying her and just want to have "fun".

The only muslim community I know of that marries off their youth even if they are not stable financially is the Pakistani community which I consider to be the most religious Muslim community here in the west.

 

[Coulombs law]

Che Eng.

When you said open up an engineering business in Mogadishu I assumed civil since there's a construction boom in somalia

The Civil Industry in Somalia right now is booming and there is a good future for it, I think my degree can add a different twist and element to Mogadishu as I can use try designing plans for Solar Panels and other ideas to help with Power and safe electrical powered areas which is definitely needed there.

Are you planning to work in the middle east Oil Fields or you got your eyes on Somalia ?

 

[psychoukhtive]

Its not hard because you're not a man, trust me.

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tru i do not have as much testosterone coursing through me as u males. alxamdulillah

 

[Sarah136]

The problem is that Somalis never think to the future and their minds are always fixtated to the present.

You have Somali guys getting into lowkey relationships with Somali girls just because they find them hot or she has a "fat ass" but they have zero intentions of marrying her and just want to have "fun".

The only muslim community I know of that marries off their youth even if they are not stable financially is the Pakistani community which I consider to be the most religious Muslim community here in the west.

I've noticed that too. Pakistani youths move in with their parents,that itself is considered ceeb in our community. We expect so much of our youth when it comes to marriage.

I rather have my son/daughter marry than commit zina and lose their deen

 

[TheWeekday]

not sure tbh

 

[star]

I agree with you but delaying marriage is almost inevitable nowadays because you have to be independent first and have stable income etc.

A lot of muslims go into relationships saying its hard to stay away from Haram, but in Islam we are given guidelines to follow if we are not able to stay away from fitnah such as fasting and lowering our gaze etc.

While it is hard to stay away from natural instincts it is definitely possible if proper islamic guidelines are followed..

I agree with your first part though, not against that. I just don't get how people are expected to be virgins and live a "halal" lifestyle for that long, and I don't believe they're able to survive on lowering their gaze and fasting either.

 

[cantspeak]

The Civil Industry in Somalia right now is booming and there is a good future for it, I think my degree can add a different twist and element to Mogadishu as I can use try designing plans for Solar Panels and other ideas to help with Power and safe electrical powered areas which is definitely needed there.

Are you planning to work in the middle east Oil Fields or you got your eyes on Somalia ?

Both

I agree with your first part though, not against that. I just don't get how people are expected to be virgins and live a "halal" lifestyle for that long, and I don't believe they're able to survive on lowering their gaze and fasting either.

Would you be surprised if a Muslim male who was 25+ who approached you for marriage was still a virgin?

 

[cantspeak]

The Civil Industry in Somalia right now is booming and there is a good future for it, I think my degree can add a different twist and element to Mogadishu as I can use try designing plans for Solar Panels and other ideas to help with Power and safe electrical powered areas which is definitely needed there.

Are you planning to work in the middle east Oil Fields or you got your eyes on Somalia ?

Yeah planning to get into O&G after I've done my degree.

Inshallah

 

[Coulombs law]

I agree with your first part though, not against that. I just don't get how people are expected to be virgins and live a "halal" lifestyle for that long, and I don't believe they're able to survive on lowering their gaze and fasting either.

So you are saying that it is merely impossible for a Muslim guy to be a virginity till his late 20's?
Interesting..

 

[psychoukhtive]

The Civil Industry in Somalia right now is booming and there is a good future for it, I think my degree can add a different twist and element to Mogadishu as I can use try designing plans for Solar Panels and other ideas to help with Power and safe electrical powered areas which is definitely needed there.

Are you planning to work in the middle east Oil Fields or you got your eyes on Somalia ?

I've noticed that too. Pakistani youths move in with their parents,that itself is considered ceeb in our community. We expect so much of our youth when it comes to marriage.

I rather have my son/daughter marry than commit zina and lose their deen

I understand where the ceebness comes from. most somali families pop out 9 children or more. imagine living with your wife/hubby, siblings, and parents. too awkward.
"Pakistani youths move in with their parents"
Personally, I don't think they should change their living situation. ( if they're still living at home, or with friends, or at dorms, etc- keep living there until an opportunity pops up). tbh though its not that hard to afford rent, unless you live in a major city- in that case..god be you.

 

[star]

Would you be surprised if a Muslim male who was 25+ who approached you for marriage was still a virgin?

No, I wouldn't be. I'm believe plenty are but it may have been difficult for him, which would be normal.

So you are saying that it is merely impossible for a Muslim guy to be a virginity till his late 20's?
Interesting..

No. There are those who remain virgins and keep to that religious teaching but I don't think it's easy for them. I was saying it's not what the religion teaches you either. And I never mentioned men specifically.

 

[psychoukhtive]

I agree with your first part though, not against that. I just don't get how people are expected to be virgins and live a "halal" lifestyle for that long, and I don't believe they're able to survive on lowering their gaze and fasting either.

If the person has strong urges to be with someone/fornicate or whatever then they should definitely seek marriage . I feel like for me and others, we're able to live with that "halal" lifestyle is because perhaps we don't necessarily have strong urges like that, we're preoccupied with other concerns, and/or idk maybe sabr. Not interacting with the other sex is key/fundamental to that..free-mixing is haram( i know most of the time we tend to over look that sin).

how can you enter a haram relationship if youve never had any type of relations with the opposite sex

 

[Mercury]

are any of you currently part of a romantic relationship, and if so with an ethnic Somali or not?, How long etc
Specify as much as you want in your post.
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My fiancé is Somali honestly I never been in a relationship before due to the fact that I never planned to get married until Ive reached My goals.

I always thought to myself Why would I lead someone on If I dont plan to marry them? That and I would like to start fresh No baggage no past relationship Nothing to hide Simple!