Your Mehr

[HiraanBorn]

The best dowry is the most easy one. Anything can be a dowry in Islam as long as it has some value to it e.g clothing, items, money etc. People who ask for a high amount of dowry are making things difficult for others.

One of the purposes of marriage is to reduce zina (fornication) in the community. Making it difficult for people by demanding a high dowry encourages people to go towards bad things.

 

[Abdi sensei]

5-10k max.

If they want any more I will drop the marriage.

 

[Lostbox]

I'm not sure why your average Muslim london girl that is living in the a global economical hub usually have mahr less then 5k. Most going below 3k

Yep

 

[El Nino]

5-10k is the average amount, I will pay max 10k if I really want to.

 

[Man with a garuun]

Nowadays an apple is very popular. So not sure why would the guys here talk about 80k, 50, 10k, or 5k. We have the apple in in one of our house's backyard. It gives good apples during the spring. So any of you guys who are getting married soon, let me know I get free apples grown in our yard that I am willing to share. N.B. It is organically grown and no pesticides involved.

On a serious note, mehr should be based on something that is valuable and can withstand an inflation (i.e., gold, etc).

 

[Malik_N_Tea]

Fellas, in all honestly how much mehr would you want your sister or daughter to get?

I won’t lie I already told my sisters they’re expensive. Some may not like this but if he’s not paying up he’s either greedy or even disinterested. If she’s a virgin she’s entitled. That’s what believe. I wouldn’t even question her mehr. She can choose whatever she desires and I would pay.

 

[Boujie]

my meher would be 50 billion dollars if i was a girl, how come jeff bezoses wife got that much from divorcing him?

 

[Qeelbax]

Mehr is a little tricky. I used to have hajj as my top choice but I think it would be more meaningful if I pay for it myself. Also I don’t want to wait until Im married to go to Hajj. You should go as soon as you have the means to. So now I think I would require gold and a nice honeymoon.

Honeymoon? Y’all using that as mehr? That’s automatic in 2022

 

[Qeelbax]

My mehr will be between 50-75k as I don’t mess with dusty broke nigga and men who know it’s for stability in case of divorce/death of the husband and the money I’d need to take care of myself and children.

 

[NordicSomali]

I will be the mehr itself, she’s lucky to marry such a gifted man

 

[Qeelbax]

my meher would be 50 billion dollars if i was a girl, how come jeff bezoses wife got that much from divorcing him?

That’s not mehr. That’s what happens when you get legally married and don’t have a prenup, cause legally y’all share your income regardless if one makes everything while the other doesn’t make a cent. Lol.

 

[Qeelbax]

I will be the mehr itself, she’s lucky to marry such a gifted man

I didn’t know being a th0t was a gift. That’s one area god has not blessed me in

 

[Qeelbax]

Haven't seen anything more than 30k in the west and that was basically a scandal lol.

Mehr is meant to be security for a wife in case of a divorce from what I understand. Nowadays both parties are working and the times are different, not sure why it's relevant to pay crazy amounts.

Have you seen arabs and Pakistani

 

[NordicSomali]

I didn’t know being a th0t was a gift. That’s one area god has not blessed me in

bro when she sees me she will give me a mehr instead

 

[Qeelbax]

Because the what's mine is yours argument is actually a myth. Technically it isn't true. You're required to provide for her and everything else is indeed yours, from the house the car you name it. Islamically a Muslim woman isn't entitled to alimony and a woman could be contributing, cooking, cleaning and even buying furniture in her husband's house for the last 20 yrs and even though its morally grey/wrong he can talaq her on the spot and she'd have to go in 3 months with 0 claims to a house she literally put all her energy into for 20 years. If she doesn't have any saving? Tough luck.

Mehr is no where near enough as after all of these years the money wouldn't be there, but for housewives in particular you can see why mehr would be a real concern for them. Maybe as a society we need to think of Islamically acceptable ways of helping women as despite all of this, Muslim women are routinely told that they should aim to stay home, even though they're putting everything into a home that is not there's unless they financially contributed and have clear evidence.

I want to talaq my husband for fun once

 

[Qeelbax]

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R u not gay? For love? Nigga I thought you only orgasmed for nimaan, how you got kids?

 

[Abba Sadacha]

5 to 10 K, tops,

 

[Nilotic]

My half sister (same father) got married for around 83k; her husband is a professional, a wonderful man and happens to be my mother's cousin; that last part is a bit strange, but he's not related to my sister.

 

[Sophisticate]

True. you ain't lying. The problem is, if you don't pay a lady anything over 10k it's an "Asslamu Alaykum" for you.



On less, of course, you're over the age of 30 (if you know, you know)

What makes you think a 30-year-old woman would reduce her standards? This is what I realized never make any assertions about the type of person a woman can attract regarding their level of success or tax bracket when you do not know the circles she runs through or the type of men she has access to. Your ageism is something else. You also suffer from selection bias kido. 10 K is peanuts and I'm sure even you near broke fresh out of uni/college 20-somethings on the verge of insolvency can afford some more.

 

[GemState]

Mehr is outdated, misogynistic and a relic of the patriarchy.