This wedding in Atlanta, GA, this flight13 guy was so into this girl that he didn't discuss the amount of meher that she wanted before the nikaax event. She was in Europe, so her brother was presenting her in the nikaax. He announced his sister wanted $20,000 USD for meher. The new flight13 guy almost froze to death. When the sheikh asked him if he accepted the meher amount that the lady requested, the flight13 guy couldn't return a word. People kept asking if he accepted the mehr, and he remained silent. Eventually, everybody looked at him, and he accepted it in a defeated voice.
Moral of the story, to all of the young men out there, make sure you have the discussion on the amount of meher that the woman that future wife wants. You should then communicate to her if the amount is too much. There can be a situation where the lady will avoid to tell you how much mehr that she wanted ahead of time. Some of them are clever and will tell you don't worry I won't make it hard for you.
In the Somali culture, if the man argues about the amount of meher during the nikaax, it is regarded as shame and he would be seen as what Somalis call "qorqode". Therefore, instead of finding yourself in a situation where you would accept a nikaax amount that is much more than your finances, you gotta have the discussion ahead of time and make sure it is something that you can afford.
Furthermore, the meher is due as soon as you accept it. That is the Islamic way. In our culture, we tend to delay it, and many Somali guys don't even pay the meher. So make sure you understand the rules around the meher. ***Keep in mind you can't go to hajj unless you pay your wife's or ex-wife's meher***.
Moral of the story, to all of the young men out there, make sure you have the discussion on the amount of meher that the woman that future wife wants. You should then communicate to her if the amount is too much. There can be a situation where the lady will avoid to tell you how much mehr that she wanted ahead of time. Some of them are clever and will tell you don't worry I won't make it hard for you.
In the Somali culture, if the man argues about the amount of meher during the nikaax, it is regarded as shame and he would be seen as what Somalis call "qorqode". Therefore, instead of finding yourself in a situation where you would accept a nikaax amount that is much more than your finances, you gotta have the discussion ahead of time and make sure it is something that you can afford.
Furthermore, the meher is due as soon as you accept it. That is the Islamic way. In our culture, we tend to delay it, and many Somali guys don't even pay the meher. So make sure you understand the rules around the meher. ***Keep in mind you can't go to hajj unless you pay your wife's or ex-wife's meher***.