Doomesday or not, that is the reality of a lot of women and the law, yet a lot of Islamic speakers want to placate women by saying his money is yours. It isn't, so therefore as a Muslim community if we're going to try and encourage women to be housewives and sacrifice their youth and hardwork looking after a home they legally don't have a claim to, then we need to think of solutions or they need to stop having issues with career women because at the end of the day, they fare better as at least they have savings in their accounts and they don't need to start over again at 50+ with no marketable skills.That's a doomsday scenario if I've seen one, I guess what I'm trying to say is, I don't like seeing marriages being handled like some business, it's a union of families coming together and completing half your dheen, any guy doing those things to his wife never loved her or is a kalab, it's up to her to exercise due diligence when choosing a partner.
With all due respect, choosing diligently is rubbish advise. You only really get to know someone through extended contact such as either living with them or travelling with them, and Islamically those options are haram. Even if you try to choose diligently, you can't predict people's actions and life throws curve balls. The only thing we can do is control our own actions and put our trust in Allah.