This should be indelibly etched into every girls head (those that want to circumvent spinsterhood at least). I would take a girl from baadiyo let alone Somalia and we can live peacefully & more compatible than a Somali sister from my city who we share the same TV shows, social media friends, work similar jobs, etc. We arenât searching for a friend, Alhamdullilah my guy friends can provide 10x more humour, entertainment, insight, logical advice than any girl.
Wallahi, Iâm so confused. Do you even
like women? Why would any woman want to settle down with a man who doesnât even like her presence and would rather give his happiness and laughter
only to his boys?
Basically you only value men. That is it. What sane woman who isnât desperate for resources would put up with that?
No one wants to be around someone that doesnât
like them,
value them or even wants to have
good memories with them.
With your point itâs obvious that your love, laughter and overall value is only for your boys.
That is contrary to any happy marriage. Since you like to portray yourself as a traditionalist. Take on the tradition of the Prophet s.a.w and look at how he used to laugh with his wives particularly Aisha. Look at how he used to take the advice and wisdom of Umm Salamah and look at how Khadijah was the woman who he valued immensely.
What I am looking for is someone who knows her role as a wife - only then will there be harmony as spouses. I postulate that lots of females struggle to understand this as it is well known women tend to struggle with having long term friends usually so they look for the âbest friendâ husband, while guys simply just want a competent wife who knows her duties.
Also, are you that
delusional? How do you even benefit any girl that actually doesnât need you to survive? What can you offer if you canât even offer companionship, friendship and actual an actual loving relationship? Can you canât even be bothered to actually try and like the person you want to marry Authobillah.
Seriously the bar is in hell.
No girls with actual means or options of being able to provide for themselves would want to
condemn themselves to a life without someone to enjoy and laugh with. It simply doesnât benefit it us
Life is a
trade off, a girl back home would
take that deal because she gets a
roof over her head and consistent money coming in. If I have all of that already, why wouldnât I seek companionship and love? Also, luckily for us most guys donât think like you.
Spinsterhood or divorce is a better fate than a soulless marriage that is there to benefit
one party and
one party alone. You donât even understand that the joys of marriage is having that person who is there for you and that a union filled with laughter, love and compassion is the cornerstone of a happy marriage.
You need to understand that if you canât even offer friendship, love and understanding, then youâre useless unless the woman is poverty stricken or needs your finances. Youâll forever be a
glorified ATM. Women in the West have no use for you, because they can do just fine without a dead weight man that will simply make them miserable as he doesnât even
like them enough to want to have a friendship with them. Also, youâre not even wealthy enough for a woman to put up with it as at least then she can busy herself with living a life of luxury. So all in all? You offer nothing.
You need to get that through that head of yours and many men donât which is why singledom is more of an issue for guys in the West than it is for women overall, unless you go back home.