This is not just Somali women but ALL women, what she says she wants and what she really wants is two different things
It doesn't matter whether she is religious, irreligious or a , it's part of their basic biological predisposition and she is not lying at all despite the gross contradiction in statement and action.
Her statements is the 'logical' parts of her brain speaking but the emotional side off her brain is much more powerful which results in most cases the complete opposite to transpire.
The males are the complete opposite of this, their logical side of the brain is more powerful then their emotional side, hence why your baffled. (this is why all mass murders in history have been males)
This creates a perfect balance & harmony in a couple because both dispositions compliment each other, emotional intelligence is vital for child rearing and early psychological development of children.
I have met very few women who are the exception to this, these are your tom boys or highly masculine types of women who any masculine male should avoid at all cost.