WHY are Somali men between 30-34...

[Inquisitive_]

Imo I'd say the adeer look is better than the metrosexual look

She posted images of straight s with skinny jeans and the types of males that spend more time behind a mirror then most females, yet in the same sentence spoke about masculinity.

It goes to show the kind of mindsets they have, all these women hitting late 20's early 30's unmarried while they were young were repeatedly warned about their careerism and kibir, and how they will turn into barren spinsters but they never heeded such advice which is now coming to bite them in the ass very hard.

They never learn from each other either, the amount of times I seen some single mother giving very solid advice to some young teen chick but fell on deaf ears is shocking.

That same teen would then become a single mother a few years later and dish out the same kind of advice she never heeded herself, and that hamster wheel just keeps on spinning endlessly.

 

[Lsma]

She posted images of straight s with skinny jeans and the types of males that spent more time behind a mirror then most females, yet in the same sentence spoke about masculinity.



They never learn from each other either, the amount of times I seen some single mother giving very solid advice to some young teen chick but fell on deaf ears is shocking.

That same teen would then become a single mother a few years later and dish out the same kind of advice she never heeded herself, and that hamster wheel just keeps on spinning endlessly.

Another quality post by @Inquisitive_ .. Ladies and gentleman...give this man a round of applause.
you are funny dawg!

It goes to show the kind of mindsets they have, all these women hitting late 20's early 30's unmarried while they were young were repeatedly warned about their careerism and kibir, and how they will turn into barren spinsters but they never heeded such advice which is now coming to bite them in the ass very hard.

Lol@ Kibir. I'm not gonna deal with that. I can always book a flight to Somalia and get a young 17 yrs old xalimo who will treat me like a king and then proceed to give these Western raised xalimos a middle-finger while they stay single into their late 20s and early 30s. They don't know man like me isn't gonna tolerate the games they play on me. I have no time for drama.

 

[World]

I don’t see how posting young white guys under 25 relates to this topic either? They are way out of your league.

 

[Gambar]

This isn’t advice necessarily for anyone in particular but just in general for Somali girls.

You shouldn’t wait for marriage, once you are 22 you find a partner and get married. If you want, wait a few years and have kids.

Most good looking guys in that range that have their shit together are married or going to get married to someone. Ask your family to hook you up, there’s no shame in that. My family did that for me and my siblings.

And don’t buy into western mumbojumbo, you should have a kid in your twenties because after that your fertility drops more and more until it’s too late.

I would also suggest taking vitamins, working out, resting, and finding a good group of encouraging friends who encourage you to do good things. Some Somali girls have dhocil minds and engage in nonsense with their friends ma ba weynadaan. Make sure you don’t have those kinds of friends.

 

[MadNomad]

You people need to chill lol. It's not like she's wrong, and she has her own standards. Nothing odd with that, don't take it so personal.

 

[Gambar]

Teeda kale waa maxay hot dudes reading?

 

[Periodicbrilliance]

She posted images of straight s with skinny jeans and the types of males that spend more time behind a mirror then most females, yet in the same sentence spoke about masculinity.

It goes to show the kind of mindsets they have, all these women hitting late 20's early 30's unmarried while they were young were repeatedly warned about their careerism and kibir, and how they will turn into barren spinsters but they never heeded such advice which is now coming to bite them in the ass very hard.

They never learn from each other either, the amount of times I seen some single mother giving very solid advice to some young teen chick but fell on deaf ears is shocking.

That same teen would then become a single mother a few years later and dish out the same kind of advice she never heeded herself, and that hamster wheel just keeps on spinning endlessly.

Why must you come into this post with such chauvinistic vitriol and homophobia. I know physical appearance is one of your triggers and/or sore spots. I commiserate with you as I know people who have been obese and have struggled to maintain a healthy weight.

But physical attraction is important. As you’ve stated on numerous occasions whilst on one of your unprovoked fat-shaming misogynistic rants. Just as you are not attracted to obese slovenly women despite being almost 300 pounds. I am not attracted to obese men. I am 5’7.5 and 120 pounds. I am slim, fit and presentable. Asking the same of my partner is not egregious.

Raising a family is almost impossible in the West on a single income and cost of living continues to increase. On previous occasions you have urged Somalis to marry young and procreate.

I know you live in a socialist-welfare state and a good deal of Somalis in the uk eschew working for government assistance and subsidized housing. This behaviour though normalized is disgusting and unislamic. I come from a family where education is expected and lauded. My parents raised me to a productive, contributing member of society and to bring pride to my family name and wider ethno-cultural community. Not to be a drain on social supports and the public purse. As you suggested Somalis ought to be.

I would not encourage any woman to marry young as all the Somali girls forced or bullied into such a course of action I know have ended up divorced and/or divorced single mothers.

To all the young women reading this post. Forum members or not, I would strongly suggest you disregard this man post. He hates women and he hates the West. He is seeking to return to Somali to marry and live out his remaining years becaus he has failed to make something of himself in the West despite the myriad of opportunities presented him. Somali women are the backbone of our community. We are the thankless mules of the Somali community. I understand why some of you may want to divest from Somali men but I promise you this man is not representative of all Somali men!

This man hates women because he is obese and I believe he has been continuously rejected for the reason. Do not take his hate to heart!

 

[Inquisitive_]

This isn’t advice necessarily for anyone in particular but just in general for Somali girls.

You shouldn’t wait for marriage, once you are 22 you find a partner and get married. If you want, wait a few years and have kids.

Most good looking guys in that range that have their shit together are married or going to get married to someone. Ask your family to hook you up, there’s no shame in that. My family did that for me and my siblings.

And don’t buy into western mumbojumbo, you should have a kid in your twenties because after that your fertility drops more and more until it’s too late.

I would also suggest taking vitamins, working out, resting, and finding a good group of encouraging friends who encourage you to do good things. Some Somali girls have dhocil minds and engage in nonsense with their friends ma ba weynadaan. Make sure you don’t have those kinds of friends.

You have been raised well, this is the first time I seen you give advice to these dhocilo without your usual holding back, you should do this more often and not worry about whether you would offend someone or not, the truth is more important then people's ego's, because your defeaning silence is consent.

 

[Gambar]

You have been raised well, this is the first time I seen you give advice to these dhocilo without your usual holding back, you should do this more often and not worry about whether you would offend someone or not, the truth is more important then people's ego's, because your defeaning silence is consent.

In another topic you’ll go back to saying I’m bila xishood iyo dhaqan, my clan is the reason for it, and I’m an infidel.

 

[XamarCade]

This isn’t advice necessarily for anyone in particular but just in general for Somali girls.

You shouldn’t wait for marriage, once you are 22 you find a partner and get married. If you want, wait a few years and have kids.

Most good looking guys in that range that have their shit together are married or going to get married to someone. Ask your family to hook you up, there’s no shame in that. My family did that for me and my siblings.

And don’t buy into western mumbojumbo, you should have a kid in your twenties because after that your fertility drops more and more until it’s too late.

I would also suggest taking vitamins, working out, resting, and finding a good group of encouraging friends who encourage you to do good things. Some Somali girls have dhocil minds and engage in nonsense with their friends ma ba weynadaan. Make sure you don’t have those kinds of friends.

You've changed

 

[XamarCade]

It all makes sense now, this thread was supposed to be taking shots at @inquisitive after he did the fat shaming last week :siilaanyolaugh:

 

[Periodicbrilliance]

This isn’t advice necessarily for anyone in particular but just in general for Somali girls.

You shouldn’t wait for marriage, once you are 22 you find a partner and get married. If you want, wait a few years and have kids.

Most good looking guys in that range that have their shit together are married or going to get married to someone. Ask your family to hook you up, there’s no shame in that. My family did that for me and my siblings.

And don’t buy into western mumbojumbo, you should have a kid in your twenties because after that your fertility drops more and more until it’s too late.

I would also suggest taking vitamins, working out, resting, and finding a good group of encouraging friends who encourage you to do good things. Some Somali girls have dhocil minds and engage in nonsense with their friends ma ba weynadaan. Make sure you don’t have those kinds of friends.

I’m glad early marriage has worked out for you. Unfortunately, as I’ve said in my previous post you seem to be in the minority. The majority of Somali girls I know who married prior to 25 are no longer married.

It was a poor life choice for them and has led to entrenched poverty. I know you did not grown up in TCH but these girls are now unfortunately raising the second-generation of their families in subsidized housing.

Somalis in Canada overwhelmingly constitute the working poor. If we were on par with the Pakistani Canadian community in terms of social status and educational attainment. And had the same ristha process. I would not be opposed to girls marrying that young.

As it is, these girls marry uneducated men (the Somali-Canadian community has the second highest drop out rate in the TDSB) with poor employment prospects. Struggle begets struggle.

 

[lone]

Nothing beats youth. Wallah I feel for you older heads.

 

[Lsma]

OP probably looks like this: (left or right)

Expects to get a Somali guy like this....

 

[Periodicbrilliance]

OP probably looks like this: (left or right)

Expects to get Somali guy like this....

I don’t currently wear hijab so...
And before anyone goes on a religious rant. I’ve been physically accosted and almost assualted by a 6 foot + man while wearing hijab. For my personal safety, I choose not to wear it again until after I marry.

 

[gurey]

@Lsma a girl can only dream

 

[gurey]

I don’t currently wear hijab so...
And before anyone goes on a religious rant. I’ve been physically accosted and almost assualted by a 6 foot + man while wearing hijab. For my personal safety, I choose not to wear it again until after I marry.

You saying your man will be with you always? Your reasoning doesnt make sense

 

[Periodicbrilliance]

There is something pathological about Somali men and their need to put down their women. To hurt them. Make them feel less than. You guys continuously go on about Somali women choosing to marry out. Just look at the age-shaming, body shaming, and chauvinism in this thread alone. I’m glad I do not have any brothers or close male relatives. I can see why Somali women are choosing to divest from your toxicity.

 

[Gambar]

You've changed

I’m honest. Been ma uu sheegaa?

Plus grandparents can always help you raise your children. Waa wax fiican. They keep the culture, language, dhaqan iyo deen, and they smarten up.

I’m glad early marriage has worked out for you. Unfortunately, as I’ve said in my previous post you seem to in the minority. The majority of Somali girls I know who married prior to 25 are no longer married.

It was a poor life choice for them and has led to entrenched poverty. I know you did not grown up in TCH but these girls are now unfortunately raising the second-generation of their families in subsidized housing.

Somalis in Canada overwhelmingly constitute the working poor. If we were on par with the Pakistani Canadian community in terms of social status and educational attainment. And had the same ristha process. I would not be opposed to girls marrying that young.

As it is, these girls marry uneducated men (the Somali-Canadian community has the second highest drop out rate in the TDSB) with poor employment prospects. Struggle begets struggle.

Just because you know it hasn’t worked out for them doesn’t mean early marriage is something Somali girls should run away from. They probably did not take marriage seriously. You will never know the true reasons. Teeda kale, they can get married again.

Divorce is not a death sentence, being a single mother is not a death sentence. Looking down on such women is a poor cultural practice that is contrary to the deen. I’ve said before that during the time of the nabi saw a lot of Muslim men died in battle leaving many women single mothers. Guess what? They were remarried. Divorced women married again. Waa qadr. You learn from it and you do better inshallah in your next marriage. It keeps a family intact with a father present in the household.

I think the rat race career life that some Somali girls have bought into is laughable to me. Look at all the sexual harassment cases coming out? You work in a toxic environment toiling away day in and out, away from your children, your husband, your home only to be surrounded by disgusting predatory men who your husband cannot protect you from. Every younger Somali girl I come across, I encourage them to work around women or start their own business. They will pass down wealth, set their own hours and be their own boss, and don’t have to worry about working in a toxic setting filled with greasy nasty men!

I don’t think it’s good advice you’re giving honestly. One extreme to the next is not good. Just because things happen, doesn’t mean it should sway you from marriage. There’s a reason it’s half of faith.

 

[Lsma]

I don’t currently wear hijab so...
And before anyone goes on a religious rant. I’ve been physically accosted and almost assualted by a 6 foot + man while wearing hijab. For my personal safety, I choose not to wear it again until after I marry.

And this is why you can't find a decent Somali man. Wallahi you don't any leg to stand on. You couldn't find a man or find a decent man in real life..so you decide to join dating websites to find your "soulmate".

As I said before... Most MEN want good looking young women. And I don't think you fit that criteria.

P. S If you had faith in Allah and the religion you would wear the hijab