Free my girl Jodi!
This is the thing why in Somali culture is doing household chores synonomous with wifes duties?
Its not its even Sunnah to help your wife with those things and thats what I follow
These people would call the rasuul saws 'cucked' astagfurillah. Even my grandfather helped out in the home. The vast majority of responsible men view marriage as a team and a family, not a competition to prove authority and manliness. Uff
You are not alone with your views mercury, in the real world. If you want to keep your marriage in tact and raised law abiding respectful citizens; a father can not only provide money he also has to help in raising and educating the child. That's your Islamic duty.