The rise of the unmarried late 20s - early 30s Somali diaspora woman

[GeKo]

It's not only the diaspora community, I heard it's happening back home in Hargaysa as well. It's not a Somali women only thing, though. Across the globe, the number of single/unmarried women are increasing.

I think it has to with the gender roles, as more women are getting more educated and independent on their own they feel less need to depend on men, their standards are getting higher, it's hard to find someone compatible etc. The reasons are many, really.

I also think a lot of women choose to stay single because we feel happier that way. I say 'we' because I fall into this category.

Its definitely happening everywhere.
But most women in their 30s usually want a child by that time, maybe not a relationship.

 

[Slickback]

f*ck cats aa? Abaha was!

wash your mouth out

Cats are selfish- It's true what they say. Dogs have masters, cats have staff. I intend to get a dog one day. Just need to move my ass somewhere warm so I can keep it in H A L A L conditions

 

[SumMo]

wash your mouth out

Cats are selfish- It's true what they say. Dogs have masters, cats have staff. I intend to get a dog one day. Just need to move my ass somewhere warm so I can keep it in H A L A L conditions

Talk about my babies like that one more time, I swear...

 

[Shibbane]

Worse than way y'all are discussing is the 24yr old garoob epidemic in Africa. Married at 23, left with a child by some pathetic Faarax a year or two later.

Very sad.

 

[Hilaac]

I'm not saying you're wrong, quite frankly I think you're half-way correct (most likely for different reasons though)- but what makes you think Somali men need Somali women?

Men are happier in marriage generally speaking, but with Somali men this is more pronounced

How many times have you seen a married farax calaacalin

 

[Hilaac]

It's still peaceful. You can have your opinion waa caadi

can you answer this if you dont mind
Are you Muslim?
And how old are you?

I'm Muslim

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[PhaedrusHunt]

Men are happier in marriage generally speaking, but with Somali men this is more pronounced

How many times have you seen a married farax calaacalin

Lol, this I can definitely agree with. No ajanabi could ever hope to contend with xalimos in making us happy and content.

 

[Cumar]

The biggest lie going around in our community is the girls are all angels with multiple degrees who've never so much as talked to a man, and the guys are all gang-banging criminals with a rap sheet longer than their resumes.

Those of us who live in reality know what's up though.

 

[GeKo]

Masha’Allah, sow cute. My cats are my babies. I laff them!

Cats are so selfish and ungrateful. Dogs will treat you like a king and are loyal asf
I heard if you die and theirs no food in the house. Cats will happily nibble on your fingers or ears within a few hours.
But with dogs, they'll mourn your death, and would rather starve then eat you.
There are cases where they visited their dead owners grave and mourn for months.
Or rescue their distressed owners.
That's true loyalty and love.

Unfortunately they're dirty in Islam

 

[Slickback]

Men are happier in marriage generally speaking, but with Somali men this is more pronounced

How many times have you seen a married farax calaacalin

Not what I was expecting. lol, are you playing nice?

 

[Cumar]

I'd probably say the same thing if I've never been there. Some places in Africa can look better than you think



Wallahi you're right. A lot of the guys on here will deny this but its the truth. I lowkey lowered the ratio for my own reasons.
Exactly take into consideration that the few that're being hounded would rather choose an uneducated 19/20 year old girl with just a HS diploma. The odds are now even more stacked up against the good, educated, religious girl in her late 20s.

Bro, can you really blame the guys for doing this though? To the average male, higher education in their spouse is not attractive at all and can actually be a turnoff if she makes more money than the male since she wont be able to devote her time to raising the kids. Women's Social Market Value (SMV) and beauty peaks in college, around age 19-22 which is the precise age girls should be taking concrete steps to get wifed up.

I don't blame established Somali guys in their late 20s and early 30s for going of the cream of the crop girls in their early 20s. The older xalimos are just salty they have to compete with their younger counterparts now, since they can't win that battle. You don't here guys complaining of the same when girls in their early 20s marry guys in their early 30s because that is viewed as normal lol.

 

[SumMo]

Cats are so selfish and ungrateful. Dogs will treat you like a king and are loyal asf
I heard if you die and theirs no food in the house. Cats will happily nibble on your fingers or ears within a few hours.
But with dogs, they'll mourn your death, and would rather starve then eat you.
There are cases where they visited their dead owners grave and mourn for months.
Or rescue their distressed owners.
That's true loyalty and love.

Unfortunately they're dirty in Islam

 

[GeKo]

Bro, can you really blame the guys for doing this though? To the average male, higher education is not attractive at all and can actually be a turnoff if she makes more money than the male since she wont be able to devote her time to raising the kids. Women's Social Market Value (SMV) and beauty peaks in college, around age 19-22 which is the precise age girls should be taking concrete steps to get wifed up.

I don't blame established Somali guys in their late 20s and early 30s for going of the cream of the crop girls in their early 20s. The older xalimos are just salty they have to compete with their younger counterparts now, since they can't win that battle. You don't here guys complaining of the same when girls in their early 20s marry guys in their early 30s because that is viewed as normal lol.

I didn't blame the guys, I might just do this too lmao. No where does it say that I blame the guys for doing this. I was just stating facts of the reality and telling her the reality of things. The odds are stacked up against the highly educated older xalimos.

It makes complete sense for a successful man to go for a young, beautiful xalimo who'll be a stay at home wife, which I've stated multiple times in this thread.
He didn't sacrifice his youth and toil away in school for many years to be married to another man.
He needs a woman who'll take care of the house and stay at home not someone who'll be working.

 

[SumMo]

Cats are so selfish and ungrateful. Dogs will treat you like a king and are loyal asf
I heard if you die and theirs no food in the house. Cats will happily nibble on your fingers or ears within a few hours.
But with dogs, they'll mourn your death, and would rather starve then eat you.
There are cases where they visited their dead owners grave and mourn for months.
Or rescue their distressed owners.
That's true loyalty and love.

Unfortunately they're dirty in Islam

My black cat actually stays by my side 24/7 whenever I’m sick, and she comes up to comfort me whenever I cry. She prays with me sometimes too, and loves playing with me. She’s a mommys girl!


The other cat is one lazy fat bastard. But I still love that little devil!

 

[Cumar]

I didn't blame the guys, I might just do this too lmao. No where does it say that I blame the guys for doing this. I was just stating facts of the reality and telling her the reality of things.

It makes complete sense for a successful man to go for a young, beautiful xalimo who'll be a stay at home wife, which I've stated multiple times in this thread.
He didn't sacrifice his youth and toil away in school for many years to be married to another man.
He needs a woman who'll take care of the house and stay at home not someone who'll be working.

Yeah my bad then bro, I saw a lot of confused guys in this thread who praising "career women", mistook them for you.

Lol, you hit the nail on the head with your comments here. It's crazy how many women think emulating men will allow them to be viewed as attractive by men.

 

[Hilaac]

Not what I was expecting. lol, are you playing nice?

What were you expecting ?

It is the opposite for women, they give up more to make it work and hence are happier single. It is not a compliment

 

[Ferrari]

As much as he whines about Xalimos. He still parades himself around me like a boy toy. I politely decline his advances. Very gentlewomanly of me, soomaha.

Luuqa soo gal

 

[Slickback]

What were you expecting ?

It is the opposite for women, they give up more to make it work and hence are happier single. It is not a compliment

I'll leave that for another time insha'Allah.

And I'm well aware it wasn't

 

[Jake from State Farm]

The biggest lie going around in our community is the girls are all angels with multiple degrees who've never so much as talked to a man, and the guys are all gang-banging criminals with a rap sheet longer than their resumes.

Those of us who live in reality know what's up though.

Can't the same thing be said about guys than.

 

[Cumar]

This idea that men are the only party that benefit from and desire marriage is also asinine btw.

If that were the case, we would not have article after article of old women in their 30s crying about how they can't find men to commit to them.