''sorry for the bad grammer/spelling. i live in the Netherlands so my english sucks.
So i am in a relationship and i really love my boyfriend. I have been dating him since 2015. I am muslim and i know dating is forbidden but we love each other and we dont go that far, just holding hands, cuddling, hugging ok we kiss/make out too but we never done anything more than that. i have been pretending to wear hijab since i started dating him but actually i take it off when i go on a date with him. i dont belief in Islam that much but i belief there is a God and that mohamed was a prophet pbuh. i do pray 5 times a day and i fast.
so the whole story starts when my bf parents found that he loves a somali muslim girl.* his parents were mad that he was dating me. his family have married only white for generations. they are christians and they totally hate muslims. lol my luck. he is 19 and they cant boss him around because he lives alone.
but here is the real problem.
a week after his parents found out:
a somali saw me kissing my bf in his car and told my sister, my sister told my other sister, my other sister told my brother and my brother yelled at me called me names and was so mad. then my parents found out and hell broke out. my mother kept saying that i am a shame. my father did not even speak to me. then out of nowhere my mother asked me what race/ethnicity he is and i said white Dutch every thing went crazy. they all started shouting saying we will go back to somalia/somaliland cause i need to learn our culture.i told them that we are serious and that we will even get married if they want to. my father asked if my bf is a muslim and because i was scared i told them the truth that my bf is a* non muslim then my father slapped me and my mother hitted me with her slipper and kept throwing things on me.
i love my mother but what she did was really bad and broke my heart. she took me to my room and she made me take off my clothes, i refused but she threatened me to hit me if i dont shut up. i really never knew they were like this. she checked my body like she can know whether i lost my virginity or not. can she ? or maybe she was searching for a hickey i dont know but she said " i regret not performing fgm on you"*
and that she should have cut me so i will not become the i am now. what ? i am still virgin and he is my first bf. .
at least they did not take my phone away so i massaged my bf to tell him everything. then after a 2days my bf came to our house, he was so worried. he wanted to talk to my parents but they refused and they were rude to him. my sisters threw water with oil on him, who does that? my brother wanted to jump him and punch but my father stopped him. for gods sake what did my bf do to them?
my bf kept trying to speak to my father but my father never gave him a chance.
that was a month ago, now they want me to marry a somali guy who is 7 years older than me. he is my brothers friend. i am not attracted to somali guys, i like blond guys with green eyes= my bofriend. i am already in love with my bf. i feel like i am in some sort of tv serie. they are going too far. they keep bringing this somali dude home and he is creepy, he keeps staring at me. my mother keeps calling me to talk to him in the living room. lol his jokes sucks and he is ugly and has a big belly eww and smells. i hate him. seriously do they hate me that much?. i have to stay in my room the whole day because he is in the living room.
i am 17 (my boyfriend is 19), i will become 18 in 29 november and they are planning to marry me off in 30 november like do you belief that? i think they have watched too much tv dramas.
i dont know why they did not take my phone away. i feel embarrassed by what they are doing. i mean we are living in the 21 century. my bf is worried to death. he thinks they will kill me (they will not go that far). he keeps telling me to call the police but how can i call the police on my family, i still love them.
i did not belief them when they said we will go back to somalia but they really got a ticket to Hargeisa Somaliland/Somalia. they want me to go with them after tomorrow. by the way that creepy is going with us too.
i really dont know how to feel about all this. why do they want me to go to Hargeisa? what if they are planing to cut me/fgm there? that thought is terrifying. i still did not tell my bf that they got the tickets and that they are serious, should i tell him? i though they were not serious now its quit scary. should i run away? omg.
. i have been in love with my bf for 4 years now. he loves me more than anything, he is ready to even convert to islam and marry me but my family dont want to give him a chance. i only want to marry him.
i keep thinking what if i go there and they force me to get cut and then they force me to marry that creepy and he rapes me. now i regret not having sex with bf. if i had sex with him at least i would have lost my virginity to someone i love.
thanks for reading i really needed to get it off my chest.''
https://www.thestudentroom.co.uk/showthread.php?t=5494798
So i am in a relationship and i really love my boyfriend. I have been dating him since 2015. I am muslim and i know dating is forbidden but we love each other and we dont go that far, just holding hands, cuddling, hugging ok we kiss/make out too but we never done anything more than that. i have been pretending to wear hijab since i started dating him but actually i take it off when i go on a date with him. i dont belief in Islam that much but i belief there is a God and that mohamed was a prophet pbuh. i do pray 5 times a day and i fast.
so the whole story starts when my bf parents found that he loves a somali muslim girl.* his parents were mad that he was dating me. his family have married only white for generations. they are christians and they totally hate muslims. lol my luck. he is 19 and they cant boss him around because he lives alone.
but here is the real problem.
a week after his parents found out:
a somali saw me kissing my bf in his car and told my sister, my sister told my other sister, my other sister told my brother and my brother yelled at me called me names and was so mad. then my parents found out and hell broke out. my mother kept saying that i am a shame. my father did not even speak to me. then out of nowhere my mother asked me what race/ethnicity he is and i said white Dutch every thing went crazy. they all started shouting saying we will go back to somalia/somaliland cause i need to learn our culture.i told them that we are serious and that we will even get married if they want to. my father asked if my bf is a muslim and because i was scared i told them the truth that my bf is a* non muslim then my father slapped me and my mother hitted me with her slipper and kept throwing things on me.
i love my mother but what she did was really bad and broke my heart. she took me to my room and she made me take off my clothes, i refused but she threatened me to hit me if i dont shut up. i really never knew they were like this. she checked my body like she can know whether i lost my virginity or not. can she ? or maybe she was searching for a hickey i dont know but she said " i regret not performing fgm on you"*
and that she should have cut me so i will not become the i am now. what ? i am still virgin and he is my first bf. .
at least they did not take my phone away so i massaged my bf to tell him everything. then after a 2days my bf came to our house, he was so worried. he wanted to talk to my parents but they refused and they were rude to him. my sisters threw water with oil on him, who does that? my brother wanted to jump him and punch but my father stopped him. for gods sake what did my bf do to them?
my bf kept trying to speak to my father but my father never gave him a chance.
that was a month ago, now they want me to marry a somali guy who is 7 years older than me. he is my brothers friend. i am not attracted to somali guys, i like blond guys with green eyes= my bofriend. i am already in love with my bf. i feel like i am in some sort of tv serie. they are going too far. they keep bringing this somali dude home and he is creepy, he keeps staring at me. my mother keeps calling me to talk to him in the living room. lol his jokes sucks and he is ugly and has a big belly eww and smells. i hate him. seriously do they hate me that much?. i have to stay in my room the whole day because he is in the living room.
i am 17 (my boyfriend is 19), i will become 18 in 29 november and they are planning to marry me off in 30 november like do you belief that? i think they have watched too much tv dramas.
i dont know why they did not take my phone away. i feel embarrassed by what they are doing. i mean we are living in the 21 century. my bf is worried to death. he thinks they will kill me (they will not go that far). he keeps telling me to call the police but how can i call the police on my family, i still love them.
i did not belief them when they said we will go back to somalia but they really got a ticket to Hargeisa Somaliland/Somalia. they want me to go with them after tomorrow. by the way that creepy is going with us too.
i really dont know how to feel about all this. why do they want me to go to Hargeisa? what if they are planing to cut me/fgm there? that thought is terrifying. i still did not tell my bf that they got the tickets and that they are serious, should i tell him? i though they were not serious now its quit scary. should i run away? omg.
. i have been in love with my bf for 4 years now. he loves me more than anything, he is ready to even convert to islam and marry me but my family dont want to give him a chance. i only want to marry him.
i keep thinking what if i go there and they force me to get cut and then they force me to marry that creepy and he rapes me. now i regret not having sex with bf. if i had sex with him at least i would have lost my virginity to someone i love.
thanks for reading i really needed to get it off my chest.''
https://www.thestudentroom.co.uk/showthread.php?t=5494798
