No, in our culture it isn’t overlooked. A woman that doesn’t tend to the house would be called Basari, and men who chew qat and don’t provide are often still married. We have to be honest here. Not providing isn’t a social stigma but refusing to clean as a woman is. You’re called dirty since the house chores are on you, not your man.who are they getting married to? Women from back home, in other words they provide value for those women. While you’re right that women are expected to cook and clean etc, this isn’t their strongest value and men will overlook women who don’t do these things cause women are most valued for their ability to give birth and make men less lonely, housework is a nice +
Your points only work if you’re going to argue that men that don’t provide are ostracized. They’re not. Everyday we have single mothers from Xamar to Hargeisa to the West crying that their ex doesn’t give them money. We even have married women are abandoned and are crying that they don’t get money from their husbands. Are those men ostracized? No they’re not. They’re free to go about their lives and marry again
Yes, they would be slandered. At this point you’re disagreeing for the sake of it. A mother that abandons her children is looked down upon far and I mean far more than a father that abandons his kids. In fact the latter is normalized.Here’s the difference most men are ignored while most women are valued if they don’t do certain things, most women aren’t ostracized and slandered whereas most men will be ignored if they don’t fix up, men have to gain, women will lose overtime and it’s obviously harder to gain something than it is to lose it.
You know it and I know it. Men are not ignored for abandoning their kids. That’s a massive lie and a cope. But simply marry again.
They don’t marry the rich ones. Seriously? Have you been living under a rock? Men have used women for citizenship for decades now. Everyday they’re crying on TikTok for it. I think you’re pretty sheltered for you to think women don’t marry fobs.Don’t believe this at all, warlords who’ve committed atrocities, only get away with it cause they have power, as soon as they lose that power it’s over for them, there’s no turning a new lead as the newest warlord ends the last guys life
This is just dishonest, how likely are women gonna be interested in poor desperate men from back home, almost zero women from the west. The ones who do marry men from back home grew up there anyway and don’t relate to western abdi’s, they also marry the rich ones or ones who have something going for them back home
Men marry women for passports all the time as well. So what’s your point? I know so many cases of women who’ve been left once their husband got passports.They have passports that’s makes them very useful to the women that try to be with them, it gives them a chance of a better life
Of course it’s better to be male. There is not denying. And I’m not denying that on an individual level, women can haveshouldn’t use the term inherent value, when it comes to people valuing each other. Again passport
This has everything to do with gender, women aren’t interested in Faraxs back home for them most part and you know it
We’re just circling the drain at this point, you’re failing to recognise the benefits of being female while ignoring the disadvantages of being male, while I recognise there advantages and disadvantages to both being male and female and that it’s still generally better to be male on average.
It does make sense since you’re trying to change the goal post. We’re looking at the reasoning for divorce and it’s men who divorce women more for sickness than the other way around.omen initiate divorce more than men so it’s actually women who leave more than men do, your point literally doesn’t make sense.
Two things can be the same at the same time. Women divorce more, but divorce less for the reason of sickness.
You’re adding in your own personal interpretation tbh and a disingenuous one at that. If you have differences with your friend and you feel like they’re rude, or don’t help you or treat you well, does that mean you don’t value them or you don’t feel valued by them?Women leave men more than men leave women in divorce, most of the time it’s Irreconcilable differences, which usually translates to personality problem or didn’t provide enough value to me
I was watching a divorce lawyer talk about a lot of the cases of irreconcilable differences, and he argued that most cases was because the wife was overworked. Not only did she do most of the cooking and cleaning but also earned money and paid 50% of the bills. Obviously a woman who does all of that whilst not being helped isn’t going to feel valued.
Add in the fact that leaving spouses upon illnesses is more common for men, it is clear as day that women’s usefulness is just as important if not more in a relationship in this day and age.
If they weren’t considered a lot of Somali men wouldn’t have been able to marry. I literally know of couples in which the father never worked and spend his days arguing about Qabil at his local cafe whilst the kids were raised on benefits.This is literally a lie, men that aren’t useful aren’t even considered, let alone be left by someone, and on top of that women leave men than men leave women.
You can maybe argue that with regards to other communities, but unfortunately not our own. I’ve seen far too many issues of that nature for me to take your argument seriously.
Fair enough.I never said women are useless, what I said was they have a certain value men don’t have and there are obviously other values they can provide on top of that
You really don’t understand my point do you? I think it flew over your head. Women do provide, just as much if not more. But it’s capitalism that thinks a mother of 6 who cooks, cleans, teachers her children, bathes them, breastfeeds, births and the list goes on isn’t as useful as me a woman who is sitting in an air conditioned office earning $ to work 5 hours.Women don’t need to provide as much as men not due to capitalism lol. Women are the ones who make men fight for them and provide for them, not capitalism, it’s simple female preference, whereas males prefer women who are chaste, not already taken and preferably attractive.
Between me, someone who even works remote and does only a few hours but gets $ or a mother who works around the clock, who is more useful? Capitalism and men who aren’t clued up would say I’m more useful, yet if that mother decides to leave and another woman isn’t willing to do it for free, the husband would have to spend $$$ to get the same service that the mother offers.
Right now, I’m at work. It’s a computer based job. Do you think I’d be able to type essays if I was a mother with many kids under 10?
You’ve misunderstood my whole point, but read the paragraph above carefully and let it sink in.All these preferences existed way before capitalism and is literally in our scripture. It seems like you’re looking at things from a very narrow lense.
A simple argument trumps your points. If women had the same value or more than men, we wouldn’t be having several cultures around the world that engaged in female infanticide. From the Ancient Arabs in which baby girls would be physically buried to modern day Indians who have the highest abortion rates of killing girls in the womb to such an extent that government has made it illegal to screen for gender.Yes, women how can’t give birth and don’t provide any other value aren’t seen as valuable by society, that’s fair but this is a minority of women and you can’t use a minority to explain the majority cause I could just point to disabled men who can’t do anything in the same way but that’s dishonest cause a reasonable amount of men will become valuable enough for at least a decent portion of people to care about them.
In several cultures around the world, girls aren’t even seen as being worth life itself. If you’re honest, that should tell you that men and women aren’t valued the same! If we’re worth protecting more as you claimed, why are baby girls murdered the most?