They get married again and again. Some have been married to decades whilst their wives got benefits. Do you honestly think those men would have stayed with their wives if didn’t continue cooking, cleaning and sleeping with them?! Are they not also seeking usefulness as well? Those women are with women for their labour just as much as women like men to be useful for their outside labour.People absolutely forget their existence and these are the types of guys who women divorce asap, this is why they aren’t reprimanded, cause no one cares.
Also, is being forgotten about the same as being slandered and ostracized? What’s better, being forgotten about so you can go about your ways or being seen as untouchable and in which your life changes for ever? Those forgetten men are still living their lives and go back home and marry again and again. There are no consequences. No consequence.
A woman isn’t her down below. I think that would be obvious. It’s not inherent if it can be taken or even simple slander can ruin it. A woman isn’t her private parts. It’s messed up and you don’t even see it and say it casually.This literally proves the point about men’s being more valued for what they can provide whereas women are valued more for what they are,
Saxib forget Western gangbangers, Moryaan war lords who’ve killed villagers are able to turns new leaf back home and they offer nothing but ruin and destruction. It’s simply because culturally we don’t hold men accountable. That why our nation is a shit- hole.gangbager abdi’s have western passports, that gives them high status among women (especially desperate women back home,
Your point doesn’t stand. Women get used for passports all the time. Look at TikTok of Somali women crying as their newly arrived fob husbands leave them. It on the rise. Women too provide value as well and your argument only works if we forget that. You’re also forgetting that most men wouldn’t be with a useless woman who does nothing. Men use women’s labor and in traditional Somali culture women back home are treated like maids. They wake up at the crack of dawn to start with the house chores that are hard and ardous. Some are even married to addict khat heads.whereas the women are seen to be inherently valuable due to who they are. If this wasn’t true you’d see an equal level of western Xalimos marrying poor guys from back home but that’s nearly non existent.
He isn’t useful. Most of the time it’s his mother that sends him money. It’s the same for autistic sons and mentally ill sons who get married back home.Except you know that this isn’t true, a son that’s been in prision can still absolutely be useful to a struggling women from the motherland, that passport is worth its weight in gold and you know it, this isn’t inherent value but a status badge that allows the women a better life.
It’s inherent value as his mother who doesn’t benefit from him will marry him off and even pay for him. He’s broke and doesn’t contribute anything, yet such a thing wouldn’t happen with a daughter.
Also, men marry old women as well back home with passport. That has nothing to do with gender. But most wouldn’t marry a girl known to be loose as men are forgiven no matter how useless but women aren’t
It is tied to their worth but that in itself makes them worthless. All it takes is for r-word or even a man slandering her and she’s finished. As a man you can be gang-banger you’d be welcomed back. Why? Because you’re not an object only valued for one thing.Wait so a women’s chastity etc isn’t tied to her worth because women who get r-worded are forced to marry the man who r-worded them? Aren’t you just proving his point, in a very morbid manifestation?
Btw, did you know that women are actually left more when they get cancer and other diseases rather than the other way around? So how can you tell me in the same breath that we are more valued for being when husbands leave them when they can no longer do the domestic chores?!
Most women stay with their husbands when he is ill, more so than men.
Your whole argument falls apart once you realize that women that aren’t useful are left more than men that aren’t useful.
Useless women get left as in the case of a sick one. Women are 6 times more likely to be left. You’re also forgetting that in Somali culture women are rarely ever useless. They’re literally the ones who do everything the house.Yes they are free to be as useless as they can without being condemned people people simply don’t care about useless men so why condemn them? They don’t even get that benefit, that someone cares enough about you that they’ll chastise you.
The only reason why you think a woman can be useless is because you value capitalist metrics of work. In which you think only usefulness is based on money.
Most men aren’t staying with a woman who can’t give birth, can’t look after them and work around the house. That ‘work’ is just as useful as the job I do I outside of the house. It’s no useless that many men will replace their sick wives for one that can be useful. Women’s labour keeps a lot of men.
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