Somali guy tells me I would be perfect if I was a virgin

[Kanye]

What she does with her vagina is her business and she is not required to disclose anything to you.

Do you think it's acceptable for a woman to enquire a man on his finances? I'd genuinely like to know.

 

[Vision]

Not if women stopped excusing men from asking such ridiculous questions. What kind of a grown woman thinks it's a "normal" question for a man to ask. I wouldn't want to be with someone who only wants to be with me because I'm a virgin. I would want the man who would stick by me regardless. So please to all the women allowing these Somali men to get away with surface level conversations about virginty ... please stop the nonsense...don't allow a man to question your vagina.

Well, good luck to you and those women

And good luck to us and the ones that have no problem proudly answering that appropriate question during marriage talks

 

[Angela Davis]

You went from a woman who wasn't a virgin to a woman who gets abortions. You can have sex and not get pregnant. Have you heard of birth control? Condoms? By the way contrary to the bullshit you guys write on this blog... Somali men love single mothers so the I love virgins shenanigans is a lie. And for your information whether or not a woman had an abortion is her business. You don't have the "RIGHT" to know. Sorry sir but good luck finding a dimwit Somali girl who allows you to control her body.

If she wants to get married to me, best believe it is my right to know where the puss been.

Ain't nobody want they child growing in a womb haunted by the ghosts of aborted children.

 

[Bahal]

You went from a woman who wasn't a virgin to a woman who gets abortions. You can have sex and not get pregnant. Have you heard of birth control? Condoms? By the way contrary to the bullshit you guys write on this blog... Somali men love single mothers so the whole I love virgins is a lie. And for your information whether or not a woman had an abortion is her business. You don't have the "RIGHT" to know. Sorry sir but good luck finding a dimwit Somali girl who allows you to control her body.

Lol, every single Somali male in the world will ask you that question unless he's a cuck.

If you don't like it, you're free to shack up with Tyrone and/or Roger.

Alhamdulilah for Islam

 

[Angela Davis]

Questions about virginty is not the same as questions about finances. If I am trying to build a life with a man and I'm trying to purchase a home for example it's important that we discuss that. His finances may get in the way of us building a life together unless we work together and find a solution. Whether or not someone had sex before won't hinder the relationship going forward. If he filed for bankruptcy for example it's good to know so that we don't apply for a loan under his name. The two aren't comparable.

Do you think it's acceptable for a woman to enquire a man on his finances? I'd genuinely like to know.

 

[Angela Davis]

Learn about Islam. A practicing Muslim never asks questions like that.

Lol, every single Somali male in the world will ask you that question unless he's a cuck.

If you don't like it, you're free to shack up with Tyrone and/or Roger.

Alhamdulilah for Islam

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[Mohamud]

Lol, every single Somali male in the world will ask you that question unless he's a cuck.

If you don't like it, you're free to shack up with Tyrone and/or Roger.

Alhamdulilah for Islam

they'll probably end up doing that sxb if the cognitive dissonance doesn't stop

 

[Vision]

Learn about Islam. A practicing Muslim never asks questions like that.

Can i ask you, do you think sex before marriage is ok? for both genders. What about abortion?

 

[Bahal]

Learn about Islam. A practicing Muslim never asks questions like that.

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What?

Islam explicitly condemns premarital sex and clearly states fornicators will end up with fornicators and the chaste with the chaste.

If two people do not share the same moral values, that relationship is doa. I personally would not feel comfortable with my hypothetical daughters being raised by a goddamn . You probably would be a ok with your daughters getting piped since it's their body apparently.

 

[gurey]

@Bahal she probably dont view sex outside marriage as shameful and disgusting act. To her its an individual act and its nobodies business. Thats feminism in a nutshell. Nothing if shameful or disgusting or sin if a woman wants to do it.

 

[Angela Davis]

"Islam explicitly condemns premarital sex and clearly states fornicators will end up with fornicators and the chaste with the chaste."

Are you Allah? Show me a Quran Ayat or Hadith that states men can and should ask prospective partners about their virgin status. Tell me one saxaabah who asked his prospective partner that question? Give me an example of the prophet asking that question. Now a days these so called "fake" Muslim brothers ask their so called "wife to be" the most ruthless questions so they could get off later on because they've been deprived of sex. They'll ask would you give head when we get married? I swear it's so disgusting. I put conversations about virginty on the same level as the fake Muslim brother asking about giving head. There are more important questions to ask and I refuse to answer questions from horny little men.

What?

Islam explicitly condemns premarital sex and clearly states fornicators will end up with fornicators and the chaste with the chaste.

If two people do not share the same moral values, that relationship is doa. I personally would not feel comfortable with my hypothetical daughters being raised by a goddamn . You probably would be a ok with your daughters getting piped since it's their body apparently.

 

[Angela Davis]

what's shameful is a man asking about my vagina while he rubs his beard.

@Bahal she probably dont view sex outside marriage as shameful and disgusting act. To her its an individual act and its nobodies business. Thats feminism in a nutshell. Nothing if shameful or disgusting or sin if a woman wants to do it.

 

[Kanye]

Questions about virginty is not the same as questions about finances. If I am trying to build a life with a man and I'm trying to purchase a home for example it's important that we discuss that. His finances may get in the way of us building a life together unless we work together and find a solution. Whether or not someone had sex before won't hinder the relationship going forward. If he filed for bankruptcy for example it's good to know so that we don't apply for a loan under his name. The two aren't comparable.

I'm not exactly trying to compare, I was actually genuinely curious since finance was (is -ish) a roadblock for men to get married, similarly to virginity for women. The best comparison to that question is literally the question mirrored and I think women have just as much of a right to enquire about it as men do. If a woman ever asked me that question I'd give her the truth straight to her face, whether she likes the answer or not is entirely up to her. If you're genuinely planning to share your life with someone I think there are very few questions that are not acceptable to ask.

As for the finance hindering your life with him, not necessarily. What if he makes just about enough to get by and care for himself? It shouldn't hinder your life with him. Technically all you need know is that he can take care of himself financially. I'm definitely oversimplifying it but you don't lose anything by marrying him.

 

[Angela Davis]

I'm not saying it will prevent me from being with him but it's something I would like to know before I tried applying for a loan under his name. When two people are in love and want to be with each other, I doubt any circumstance can get in the way of them being together. If I am getting to know you and I'm asking you about your finances the first few dates...that's a problem. But finances definitely more then virginity can hinder what you can and can't do together and whether or not you can achieve certain goals. I can't see how my viriginty or lack there of can hinder future goals.

I'm not exactly trying to compare, I was actually genuinely curious since finance was (is -ish) a roadblock for men to get married, similarly to virginity for women. The best comparison to that question is literally that and I think women have just as much of a right to enquire about it as men do. If a woman ever asked me that question I'd give her the truth straight to her face, whether she likes the answer or not is entirely up to her. If you're genuinely planning to share your life with someone I think there are very few questions that are not acceptable to ask.

As for the finance hindering your life with him, not necessarily. What if he makes just about enough to get by and care for himself? It shouldn't hinder your life with him. Technically all you need know is that he can take care of himself financially. I'm definitely oversimplifying it but you don't lose anything by marrying him.

 

[Kanye]

I'm not saying it will prevent me from being with him but it's a question I would know before I tried applying for a loan under his name. When two people are in love and want to be with each other, I doubt any circumstance can get in the way of them being together. If I am getting to know you and I'm asking you about your finances the first few dates...that's a problem. But finances definitely more then virginity can hinder what you can and can't do together and whether or not you can achieve certain goals. I can't see how my viriginty or lack there of can hinder future goals.

Likewise with virginity, most people don't view the world in black and white. It's one thing if a girl tries to enter a committed relationship at 16 and it doesn't work out and an entirely different thing if a girl has slept with every Tom, Dick and Harry in my circles. I vastly prefer one over the other and I think it's unfair to expect me to ignore that.

 

[Angela Davis]

The girl sleeping with every Tom, Dick and Harry obviously has mental health and self-esteem issues. The question at that point isn't virginity, it's beyond that.

Likewise with virginity, most people don't view the world in black and white. It's one thing if a girl tries to enter a committed relationship at 16 and it doesn't work out and an entirely different thing if a girl has slept with every Tom, Dick and Harry in my circles. I vastly prefer one over the other and I think it's unfair to expect me to ignore that.

 

[Kanye]

The girl sleeping with every Tom, Dick and Harry obviously has someone mental health and self-esteem issues. The question at that point isn't virginity, it's beyond that.

Maybe she's just having fun and after instant gratification. My point is it's entirely subjective, some draw the line closer than others

 

[Bahal]

"Islam explicitly condemns premarital sex and clearly states fornicators will end up with fornicators and the chaste with the chaste."

Are you Allah? Show me a Quran Ayat or Hadith that states men can and should ask prospective partners about their virgin status. Tell me one saxaabah who asked his prospective partner that question? Give me an example of the prophet asking that question. Now a days these so called "fake" Muslim brothers ask their so called "wife to be" the most ruthless questions so they could get off later on because they've been deprived of sex. They'll ask would you give head when we get married? I swear it's so disgusting. I put conversations about virginty on the same level as the fake Muslim brother asking about giving head. There are more important questions to ask and I refuse to answer questions from horny little men.

الزَّانِى لاَ يَنكِحُ إِلاَّ زَانِيَةً أَوْ مُشْرِكَةً وَالزَّانِيَةُ لاَ يَنكِحُهَآ إِلاَّ زَانٍ أَوْ مُشْرِكٌ وَحُرِّمَ ذلِكَ عَلَى الْمُؤْمِنِينَ ﴾

(The Zani marries not but a Zaniyah or a Mushrikah; and the Zaniyah, none marries her except Zani or a Mushrik. Such a thing is forbidden to the believers.)

 

[VixR]

The girl sleeping with every Tom, Dick and Harry obviously has mental health and self-esteem issues. The question at that point isn't virginity, it's beyond that.

How would you differentiate someone who's vetting against this first type of girl and one who's making a virginity based inquiry.

Unfortunately, asking the latter is an extreme form of avoidance of the first.

 

[Angela Davis]

I said show me where it states it's permissible for you to ask and give me examples from the sunnah.

الزَّانِى لاَ يَنكِحُ إِلاَّ زَانِيَةً أَوْ مُشْرِكَةً وَالزَّانِيَةُ لاَ يَنكِحُهَآ إِلاَّ زَانٍ أَوْ مُشْرِكٌ وَحُرِّمَ ذلِكَ عَلَى الْمُؤْمِنِينَ ﴾

(The Zani marries not but a Zaniyah or a Mushrikah; and the Zaniyah, none marries her except Zani or a Mushrik. Such a thing is forbidden to the believers.)