I don't get annoyed by online messages, If I did I would chuck my laptop out of my window for wasting mental energy on something that is not importantDeep inside?So you can read people's internal states. If your goal is to take a dig at me, kid, it won't work. But since it's getting on your nerves, I will be more hyperbolic and over the top next time.
If it means you're bothered by it. I'd consider it a pleasure to annoy you and serve as a nice little foil to this austere persona you've crafted.
So I am 32 years woman old pushing 33 soon.
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Doesn't mean anything to me really as it's all online talk.
I agree! I think it’s the hardest part of being a single woman is the harassment.
When am I supposed to feel desperate for husband? Lolwhen does it suppose to kick in? The older i get the more I enjoy my freedom
I'm getting some mad self-deprecating vibes from you.seriously need to sort out mentality and mindset asap guys can smell desperation from a mile away.+ Too much pressure on having kids right away.
Hmm, that’s your opinion sir/man have a great day!
You will never feel desperate for a husband. That will only happen if you start to lose your shine. Never let yourself go.
But a man is worth at least financially using for a second income and children. I have some Abdis in my back pocket who are decent enough prospects and appear to be receptive to me.
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@Ladylike
The vast majority of women who grow old without a partner and, more importantly, without children end up miserable:
www.theguardian.com
And while epidemiological data should never be used to make conclusions it should still be food for thought that unmarried women have a 50% higher mortality rate than married ones and despite all the screeching banshee shit you hear about how "marriage mainly benefits men" in reality it only benefits men more but married women do in fact get benefits too according to the studies:
www.vox.com
sciencenorway.no
We are descended from people who for the majority of their 350,000 years as a species lived surrounded by family and friends in a Hunter-Gatherer band, who were normally in monogamous relationships quite young and always had children (otherwise you wouldn't be here). You are fooling yourself, whether as a man or a woman, if you seriously think careerism and material things are a replacement for family and social connections.
Also, just speaking anecdotally, the majority of my much older, single male and female relatives who have no children are pretty loopy and unhappy if you really take a look at them. Something is always off.
The vast majority of women who grow old without a partner and, more importantly, without children end up miserable:
‘The desire to have a child never goes away’: how the involuntarily childless are forming a new movement
One in five British women born in the 60s don’t have children – and the grief many of them feel has rarely been acknowledged. But now they, and men in the same position, are organising with others around the world to gain recognition and comfort
And while epidemiological data should never be used to make conclusions it should still be food for thought that unmarried women have a 50% higher mortality rate than married ones and despite all the screeching banshee shit you hear about how "marriage mainly benefits men" in reality it only benefits men more but married women do in fact get benefits too according to the studies:
A new book says married women are miserable. Don’t believe it.
Many books aren’t fact-checked, and we’re increasingly realizing they’re full of errors.
www.vox.com
Dramatic increase in mortality among the unmarried
Unmarried people die far earlier than those who are married. The disparity has widened significantly in the last 40 years.
sciencenorway.no
We are descended from people who for the majority of their 350,000 years as a species lived surrounded by family and friends in a Hunter-Gatherer band, who were normally in monogamous relationships quite young and always had children (otherwise you wouldn't be here). You are fooling yourself, whether as a man or a woman, if you seriously think careerism and material things are a replacement for family and social connections.
Also, just speaking anecdotally, the majority of my much older, single male and female relatives who have no children are pretty loopy and unhappy if you really take a look at them. Something is always off.
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They all the same when it comes to headache. Don’t feel like you missing out on much sis it’s a headache for us.
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@Ladylike you have a beautiful voice m'A abaayo. And as a guy, I respect the fact that you understand how sacred sex is. It's so important to educate ourselves especially as men on these things prior to getting married. You're appreciated
@Angelina and @Ladylike@Ladylike
The vast majority of women who grow old without a partner and, more importantly, without children end up miserable:
‘The desire to have a child never goes away’: how the involuntarily childless are forming a new movement
One in five British women born in the 60s don’t have children – and the grief many of them feel has rarely been acknowledged. But now they, and men in the same position, are organising with others around the world to gain recognition and comfort
And while epidemiological data should never be used to make conclusions it should still be food for thought that unmarried women have a 50% higher mortality rate than married ones and despite all the screeching banshee shit you hear about how "marriage mainly benefits men" in reality it only benefits men more but married women do in fact get benefits too according to the studies:
A new book says married women are miserable. Don’t believe it.
Many books aren’t fact-checked, and we’re increasingly realizing they’re full of errors.
Dramatic increase in mortality among the unmarried
Unmarried people die far earlier than those who are married. The disparity has widened significantly in the last 40 years.
We are descended from people who for the majority of their 350,000 years as a species lived surrounded by family and friends in a Hunter-Gatherer band, who were normally in monogamous relationships quite young and always had children (otherwise you wouldn't be here). You are fooling yourself, whether as a man or a woman, if you seriously think careerism and material things are a replacement for family and social connections.
Also, just speaking anecdotally, the majority of my much older, single male and female relatives who have no children are pretty loopy and unhappy if you really take a look at them. Something is always off.
It’s interesting cause the many women I know, if not every one eventually admitted to me that they regretted having children. They wished they stuck to one or two and eventually focused on their own happiness and mental health.
Some even admitted they wish they didn’t have children. Literally even wish they had one, and they will know exactly which kid they’ll pick out of the multiple ones they had.
A lot of men don’t know the hardships and mental trauma raising multiple children back to back does to women.
I’m not here to fight or debate, but here’s multiple studies that says the opposite.
Why So Many Single Women Without Children Are Happy
How do modern women feel about being single? About not having a family? Research reveals some surprising answers.
Heres another one, cause there’s so many studies I’ve read over the years discussing this,
So, yes although it says many women may regret it, there’s studies that also suggest the opposite as well and that even childless couples report more happiness.
@Ladylike
Don’t ever let anyone pressure you into kids. Especially multiple children, and they ain’t even the ones that’ll help you raise them.
Ask your aunties and they’ll tell you the truth about what it’s like.
I’m not saying don’t do it, but have a child with the right person and wisely know how many you want.
The amount of women I know who revealed to me how they wished they didn’t have kids or at least not as much as they did.
A good friend of mine broke down crying to me… about how although she loved her chidlren… she didn’t really love them, if that makes sense. She wished she could go back in time to not have the other ones she had.
She told me that she often thinks about what her life could’ve been if she stopped at 1 or 2, and left her husband, instead of staying with him due to cultural pressure and having kids over and over.
She had all these kids for him and he still wanted to leave her for another wife, imagine.
It’s always men that will tell you how miserable women will be without chidlren, when no shade to the guys here … have they witnessed what behind the scenes of what goes on with children? Have they seen the brutal sacrifices that come with it ? Instead they make it seem like it’s sunshine and roses.
Don’t ever let anyone pressure you into kids. Especially multiple children, and they ain’t even the ones that’ll help you raise them.
Ask your aunties and they’ll tell you the truth about what it’s like.
I’m not saying don’t do it, but have a child with the right person and wisely know how many you want.
The amount of women I know who revealed to me how they wished they didn’t have kids or at least not as much as they did.
A good friend of mine broke down crying to me… about how although she loved her chidlren… she didn’t really love them, if that makes sense. She wished she could go back in time to not have the other ones she had.
She told me that she often thinks about what her life could’ve been if she stopped at 1 or 2, and left her husband, instead of staying with him due to cultural pressure and having kids over and over.
She had all these kids for him and he still wanted to leave her for another wife, imagine.
It’s always men that will tell you how miserable women will be without chidlren, when no shade to the guys here … have they witnessed what behind the scenes of what goes on with children? Have they seen the brutal sacrifices that come with it ? Instead they make it seem like it’s sunshine and roses.
All the femcels are coming out the woodwork
@Angelina and @Ladylike
It’s interesting cause the many women I know, if not every one eventually admitted to me that they regretted having children. They wished they stuck to one or two and eventually focused on their own happiness and mental health.
Some even admitted they wish they didn’t have children. Literally even wish they had one, and they will know exactly which kid they’ll pick out of the multiple ones they had.
A lot of men don’t know the hardships and mental trauma raising multiple children back to back does to women.
I’m not here to fight or debate, but here’s multiple studies that says the opposite.
Why So Many Single Women Without Children Are Happy
How do modern women feel about being single? About not having a family? Research reveals some surprising answers.www.psychologytoday.com
Heres another one, cause there’s so many studies I’ve read over the years discussing this,
So, yes although it says many women may regret it, there’s studies that also suggest the opposite as well and that even childless couples report more happiness.
That link I shared contradicts the sort of stuff you linked. Yes, there's a lot of stuff out there trying to posit that childless unmarried women are so happy but the actual proper, high sample size epidemiology suggests the opposite, from what I know:
‘The desire to have a child never goes away’: how the involuntarily childless are forming a new movement
One in five British women born in the 60s don’t have children – and the grief many of them feel has rarely been acknowledged. But now they, and men in the same position, are organising with others around the world to gain recognition and comfort
Also, I really, really, really need you and every guy and girl on this site to read this:
A lot of people on this site do not understand basic science and I've noticed that, unfortunately, with a lot of the sisters. So many of you like to post epidemiological, survey and generally correlative studies and then use them to make conclusions and back up whatever beliefs you have and it's incredibly irritating to watch cos it's nonsense.
You cannot and can never make ANY conclusions using correlative studies. They don't "say" anything, abaayo. They at most create vague food for thought that should encourage someone to maybe do a clinical study and see why the correlations look the way they do. Are the eedos you're familiar with regretful about having kids cos they were in abusive, shitty relationships? Are there are other confounding factors? Would they feel the same with a loving, present and supportive husband and if they had ideal health themselves both mentally and physically? Too many confounding factors. You cannot look at any of this data and say ANYTHING conclusive. Anyone who tells you otherwise is a crackpot.
Even what I did with my post was mostly just saying that it's possible women do benefit from marriage and having kids but at the end of the day those correlations could be for totally different reasons. Maybe married women with kids just have a higher chance of having kids look after them when they're older and thus reducing the risk of accidental deaths and that's all that studies showing they live longer show. Funny hot take but you get; we don't know what the real reasons are so conclusively blaming being unmarried or not having kids or anything is pseudoscience. And since no one can ever actually conduct clinical trials to prove or disprove any of this as you'd need to treat humans like lab-rats for generations it's all just speculation and always will be.
My two cents? Regardless of your marital status, if you maintain good social relations and cohesion, keep stress down and eat and exercise appropriately you should live a long and healthy life. There's no clinical studies backing that but there's plenty of historical and mechanistic data that does.
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Of course we do. Do you think no man has ever been raised by a mother? Weird for you to skip over that. I am well aware of the sacrifices a mother makes.
The truth of the matter is you speak for a minority. There’s always going to be a few women who regret having children. But please do not pretend this is even close to the majority.
