Thank you, I appreciate you. No one will advice you like this they all want us to be miserable. I’ve seen my own sister struggle with her kids my brother in-law works hard to be there for her and her kids and it is still hard for her she doesn’t tell me much but I know how much it changed her.I want to help her out with her kids I am in no rush to have kids of my own. When I do and the right person comes along I will have 3 maybe 5 if my husband is helpful. I know what you talking about I do not want to pop out babies only to hate them for ruining my life nope I will love them raise them telling them how much they’re loved.@Ladylike
Don’t ever let anyone pressure you into kids. Especially multiple children, and they ain’t even the ones that’ll help you raise them.
Ask your aunties and they’ll tell you the truth about what it’s like.
I’m not saying don’t do it, but have a child with the right person and wisely know how many you want.
The amount of women I know who revealed to me how they wished they didn’t have kids or at least not as much as they did.
A good friend of mine broke down crying to me… about how although she loved her chidlren… she didn’t really love them, if that makes sense. She wished she could go back in time to not have the other ones she had.
She told me that she often thinks about what her life could’ve been if she stopped at 1 or 2, and left her husband, instead of staying with him due to cultural pressure and having kids over and over.
She had all these kids for him and he still wanted to leave her for another wife, imagine.
It’s always men that will tell you how miserable women will be without chidlren, when no shade to the guys here … have they witnessed what behind the scenes of what goes on with children? Have they seen the brutal sacrifices that come with it ? Instead they make it seem like it’s sunshine and roses.