VixR
Veritas
Do you realize you cancelled out yout own argument, all the while admitting that you were lol.I see. You believe that men do no not legitimately "lose" things when they have any form of a union. Well you are wrong, they lose time, assets, energy, passion for hobbies and a peace of mind lool. You might argue that women lose the same things and thats true, but you'd have to be myopic to claim that we do not lose anything. Its almost as if you are claiming that the sole true real investment a man could make in life would be to cuff a girl and settle down.I have to admit, a lot of men believe this to be true and that is why you have ingested this bottleneck worldview.. Not all avant-garde lifestyles are to the detriment of a man.
Don't get me wrong, I'm not disparaging 'avant-garde' lifestyles, or even marriage as an institution, bc it has been demonstrated to me that you can make more of it if you have the right ingredients from scratch. I'm just laying it all out flat.
In your case, it's highly unlikely you'll be able to evade what you're running from unless you're inclined to withdrawing yourself like the Hikikomori, bc what you've explained is thar you're running from relationship itself.