Men don't have a safe space to open up

[hinters]

I had a ex bring up a insecurity I had when she was arguing with me. Crazy thing is I only brought up that insecurity as a example that every person can have image issues when she was depressed asf crying to me about her personal problems.


idc what female users say on here don’t open up to a woman that’s not related to you. Friends & Family >>>

Women can be truly evil creatures

 

[Yami]

Don't listen to men, about what women like and don't like.

Women do like a man that opens up IF, and I mean, IF, he also allows space for the woman to share her thoughts also. But when a man, starts treating a woman like a therapist, and only talks about his thoughts and feelings, without reciprocating the conversation, it's a MAJOR ick.

 

[The Somali Caesar]

I had a ex bring up a insecurity I had when she was arguing with me. Crazy thing is I only brought up that insecurity as a example that every person can have image issues when she was depressed asf crying to me about her personal problems.


idc what female users say on here don’t open up to a woman that’s not related to you. Friends & Family >>>

I hear that bro. Woman know your weakness and they will keep it in their back pocket and will pick a time to use it against you

 

[Yami]

I hear that bro. Woman know your weakness and they will keep it in their back pocket and will pick a time to use it against you

Shorty used it the next day waa wax walaan

 

[GemState]

Who wants to hear a grown nigga calaacal? I barely want to hear myself calaacal, can't imagine a woman wanting to hear that.

 

[The Somali Caesar]

Who wants to hear a grown nigga calaacal? I barely want to hear myself calaacal, can't imagine a woman wanting to hear that.

There's talking and then there's calaacal bruh

 

[Basra]

It's seems I may have sparked a conversation

 

[GemState]

There's talking and then there's calaacal bruh

Talking about feelings is calaacal

 

[The Somali Caesar]

Talking about feelings is calaacal

What feelings in general? So if you get a promotion you can't say you're happy to your wife

 

[GemState]

What feelings in general? So if you get a promotion you can't say you're happy to your wife

Positive emotions are fine, but don't talk about stuff you don't cars to hear yourself. Imagine telling a woman that isn't your therapist about past trauma or that you have anxiety

 

[Basra]

Positive emotions are fine, but don't talk about stuff you don't cars to hear yourself. Imagine telling a woman that isn't your therapist about past trauma or that you have anxiety

I will call him qanis in his face

 

[Sophisticate]

I never use what people tell me as ammunition against them.

The emotional fridge approach does not work nor does expecting a therapist (unilaterally). Like @𐒁𐒚𐒒𐒂𐒘𐒂𐒗 𐒎𐒚𐒗𐒗𐒒 and @The alchemist mentioned in a previous thread being emotionally aware and balanced is best. This is a skill that requires some flexibility. And I would presume involves mutual disclosure and trust.

 

[hinters]

I will call him qanis in his face

Basra eedo you're too mean

 

[The Somali Caesar]

Positive emotions are fine, but don't talk about stuff you don't cars to hear yourself. Imagine telling a woman that isn't your therapist about past trauma or that you have anxiety

Oh you misunderstood me. I ain't telling my wife the heavy shit. Just the surface level shit like oh I had a bad day at work etc

 

[Basra]

Basra eedo you're too mean

Ok Eeedo i will try to change

 

[Ronaldo Nazario]

Lmfao. Never, ever be vulnerable to a woman. Rare exceptions are white women but even 90% of them can't be opened up to. You'll lose respect and even love from your friends, mothers and your girl.

wait how ur mother?

 

[AbdiFreedom]

wait how ur mother?

If they're not white, yes. Mothers from other cultures like African ones are stoic. You can't cry to your hooyo that you had a really bad day. *Some* hooyos don't even want to see their sons cry when their abo dies. They'll tell them to "is deji". This is why Black men are a little tougher and not as approachable as other men; they aren't allowed to express negative emotions minus anger.

 

[Himmler]

I had a ex bring up a insecurity I had when she was arguing with me. Crazy thing is I only brought up that insecurity as a example that every person can have image issues when she was depressed asf crying to me about her personal problems.

Same thing happened to me lol, she pushed me so hard into opening up and ended me being using it against me literally in the same week lmao. I’ll never open up to anyone again except to my parents

 

[Yami]

Same thing happened to me lol, she pushed me so hard into opening up and ended me being using it against me literally in the same week lmao. I’ll never open up to anyone again except to my parents

Anything to win a argument. Evil asf wallahi

 

[Kalsoon]

The issue occurs when someone opens up to an emotionally immature person. We all have to make sure we open up to the right people. some men and women definitely will weaponize that against you later on.