Marry behind your wives back

[Abdisamad]

At this rate, most of them will end up single with only their crusty hands as company. They don't realise that these aren't caveman times anymore where women solely depend on men for resources, men have lost the only leverage they had over us

Watch from 15:00
mind you the madow guy doesn't have a job

 

[IstarZ]

Allah(swt) is discouraging it when he says that they will never be just to more than one wife and that they should stick to one.

No, a man isn’t able to be just when it comes to the matters of the heart because he can’t control that but he should be smart about how he carries himself with each one and use his common sense. Therefore, Allah swt doesn’t take him to task about what’s in his heart but he can control the other stuff.

 

[Chun Li]

Can you define what it means to be just?

If one wife gets a Ferrari, the other one needs to get a Ferrari. Same model. One can’t be LaFerrari & the other 488

 

[Abdisamad]

Just treatment between wives in terms of time spend with each, expenditure and other material stuff.

Sounds like some fair terms

 

[Octavian]

Sounds retardet

 

[Land Of The Brave]

No, a man isn’t able to be just when it comes to the matters of the heart because he can’t control that but he should be smart about how he carries himself with each one and use his common sense. Therefore, Allah swt doesn’t take him to task about what’s in his heart but he can control the other stuff.

Allah(swt) isnt talking about the heart in that verse

 

[IstarZ]

Allah(swt) isnt talking about the heart in that verse

Are you referring to this one;

“but if you fear that you shall not be able to deal justly (with them), then only one”
[al-Nisa’ 4:3]

Or this;

“You will never be able to do perfect justice between wives even if it is your ardent desire”
[al-Nisa’ 4:129}

It seemed like you were paraphrasing the second one.

 

[Land Of The Brave]

Are you referring to this one;

“but if you fear that you shall not be able to deal justly (with them), then only one”
[al-Nisa’ 4:3]

Or this;

“You will never be able to do perfect justice between wives even if it is your ardent desire”
[al-Nisa’ 4:129}

It seemed like you were paraphrasing the second one.

These

“If you fear that you shall not be able to deal justly with the orphans, marry women of your choice, two, three, or four, but if you fear that you shall not be able to deal justly (with them), then only one…”(Surah al-Nisa, 3)

“You are never able to be fair and just as between women, even if it is your ardent desire: but turn not away (from a woman) altogether, so as to leave her (as it were) hanging (in the air)…” (Surah al-Nisa, 129)

We know Islamically a man cant control his heart nor will he be held accountable for loving one over the other but he has to maintain their rights financially, socially, equal time etc.

 

[Juliet]

If one wife gets a Ferrari, the other one needs to get a Ferrari. Same model. One can’t be LaFerrari & the other 488

Do you really think these guys give a crap about any of this "just" treatment? They're only after some halal siil on the side without facing the consequences. LMAO if you think they are doing it only "BeCaUsE itS SunNaH"

 

[Leila]

So After reading the thread made by @so_wavey about how youre Islamically don't have to tell your wife you getting another wife id like to point some things out

Its true it doesnt say in the deen you need to tell her but its common sense to tell your wife about your plans not hide them like a coward

Also since you're bringing in religion and sunnah to backup your reasoning
you forgot that Allah swt discourages the practice at the same time also: "But if you feel you may not be able to deal justly between them, then marry only one."

2ndly In the case of polygamy many forget that the first wife has rights aswell If the first wife doesn't like the idea of sharing her husband with multiple women or be part of such relationship, then she has the option to demand divorce for example

The fact that you wanna get a 2nd wife, all while not telling the 1st wife is not only morally wrong but pathetic as well because you have infringed on the 1st wife's rights - what if she doesn't wish to be in a polygamous relationship?

Islamically the rights of the woman has to be fulfilled but we have this bad culture where women are like toys for some men and there to just fulfill their sexual needs . Why do you think Qudbo siro exists , people have completely forgotten about Islam and just do what they want .

 

[Nafiso Qalanjo]

@Mercury your the only rational man here when it comes to relationships.

 

[Halimo-2018]

The quran doesn't say that I as a wife have to cook or clean either

 

[Leeban]

Bro is a male pick me

 

[Sloane Ranger]

I have personally witnessed many times the fallout from when the first wife finds out. Its devastating for the kids and the wife. I know a girl that nearly had a heart attack when she found out what her father did.

Her parents are still married but their bond is ruined and things will probably never be like how it used to be for them. In most cases when a guys remarries its after decades of marriage.

 

[Namso]

Why even hide just wait till western civilization collapses which it will very soon hopefully during in the next few years, stay monk mode till then, play the waiting game, and we will have 50 women for each one of us. The losers that wear masks outside are rotting slowly inside and once the vaccine wipes em out most of the competition will be dead. Just prepare to leave the west or you will collapse with it. The crash is coming very soon indeed. We are in the modern day Babylon.

 

[Dooyo]

I have personally witnessed many times the fallout from when the first wife finds out. Its devastating for the kids and the wife. I know a girl that nearly had a heart attack when she found out what her father did.

Her parents are still married but their bond is ruined and things will probably never be like how it used to be for them. In most cases when a guys remarries its after decades of marriage.

My neighbor's wife, AUN, was hospitalized after finding out her husband married a second wife. She literally built that mofo up from the ground up, made a man out of him. She worked in suuqa-weyn ee Hargeisa as a shop owner while he lounged around all over Hargeisa for years. She snagged him his first professional job (and bought his first set of professional clothing for the interview), where he made a good income.

After their lives got significantly better with the increased income, he married a second wife. She was hopitilized due to the shock and that shock eventually turned into a sickness which she died of. She loved that man more than she loved herself or her children. Their kids have still not forgiven their father.

 

[Mercury]

I would like to comment on the Verse you quoted walaal. It’s not something Allah swt discouraged.

The Verse addresses men who are unable to be just and advises them to only marry one. Polygamy isn’t permitted for those men.

Polygamy is allowed but if you cannot provide equal attention,financial support to your wives than it is discouraged

Theres guys that neglect the 1st wife and focus on the family they created with the 2nd one and thats wrong

 

[Mercury]

My neighbor's wife, AUN, was hospitalized after finding out her husband married a second wife. She literally built that mofo up from the ground up, made a man out of him. She worked in suuqa-weyn ee Hargeisa as a shop owner while he lounged around all over Hargeisa for years. She snagged him his first professional job (and bought his first set of professional clothing for the interview), where he made a good income.

After their lives got significantly better with the increased income, he married a second wife. She was hopitilized due to the shock and that shock eventually turned into a sickness which she died of. She loved that man more than she loved herself or her children. Their kids have still not forgiven their father.

AUN that so sad and heartless

 

[Mercury]

Just divorce the other woman if she doesn't want you to have a second wife, not worth the hassle in explaining things

Im sure before getting married they have talked about where they stand on polygamy the girl probably says I dont wanna be a 2nd wife and the guy tells her he only wants one wife than later when they married he goes and marries behind her back cause he knows how she will react

Instead of living a double life why not be honest with your intentions from the get go there are gonna be girls that will reject you cause you want alot wives but that shows you arent compatible theres girls that don't mind being 2nd,3rd wife

 

[Molotoff]

That’s dead. I’d recommend women to leave the marriage if that happened to them. How are they too pussy to tell the wife that they would like another or that they’ve already bagged one??

@Asli is this your little sister? Cousin?