am not bitter…. Am just providing a rationale as to why I keep my options open. Like I said observe the older heads in my community which strangely mimics the African American community and I made a logical decision to never keep my options limited and wait for an abdi. The lilttle Somali men I see at my uni all run for caadan women. Being bitter is me starting a thread and venting about Abdi’s which I don’t lool am simply proving anecdotal perspective. I tell all my dark skin xalimos don’t wait for an Abdi since most are colourist. Always be open but have standards.Don't be bitter mayn it's just life !