Help-I'm attracted to adeero's!

[XaawoLuul]

If you are ok with one minute man and "adeer caawa nacnac maheleya" sweet talk then nothing is wrong with marrying adeeros.

Wallahi?........Mala hubaa warkaas?

 

[Idil-Beydaan]

Is it aabe in Somali? Aabe issues?

I don't know of the somali equivalent but it is greatly needed

Dhamaan waad salaaman tihiin,

Basically my issue is I enjoy entertaining the advances of the uncles and dare I say I enjoy conversing with them more than my peers. Now because of education marriage isn't on the cards anytime soon however in a few years time I am wondering whether I even want to marry a guy of similar age to me. Is this just a phase? Quite frankly I could only imagine the shock horror of my parents if I were to bring home a guy of their age. This realisation I have had is tearing me apart. Perhaps I need Quraan Saar.

Edit: Im not talking about my actual adeer, just older somali guys that could be my uncle.

I know *cry*, Im praying its just a phase and I will soon see the light.

Abaayo salaamta waa kaa qaadney
Don't worry there is nothing wrong whatsoever with liking older men no need to worry.But you've got to understand people's concern. Somali men in that age were most likely or ARE married. You wouldn't want the drama of divorced men would you. If the age gap is within a decade go for it.In fact they are most likely to be mature religious and cultured.

 

[Idil-Beydaan]

Wallahi?........Mala hubaa warkaas?

Abaayo haddu adeer adeero ku wacaayo, kaasi iska dhaaf uff. Gabar yar uu ku arka.

 

[Factz]

I cannot see myself attracted to a Somali woman similar to my mom or my habaryar age.

 

[Slickback]

@XaawoLuul

Welcome friend

 

[kaluumayste]

Wallahi?........Mala hubaa warkaas?

Waa wax lahubo abaayo, i think you enjoy the convo and the wisdom. it will pass.

I would advice you to marry someone your age so you can grow together and satisfy all aspect of your life.

 

[Toxique]

come to toronto. bare bakhti adhero downtown who need savin. u get ur old man n the ajar too

 

[Slickback]

Wallahi?........Mala hubaa warkaas?

Waa sheeko. These young guys are just afraid of some experienced competition

 

[Idil-Beydaan]

Waa wax lahubo abaayo, i think you enjoy the convo and the wisdom. it will pass.

I would advice you to marry someone your age so you can grow together and satisfy all aspect of your life.

Yh I think OP you're just having a phase.
Someone your age is much better

 

[Idil-Beydaan]

come to toronto. bare bakhti adhero downtown who need savin. u get ur old man n the ajar too

Alla gabadha maxa u habaarey :siilaanyolaugh:
You're setting her up to a failed marriage, 'ajar' kulaha

 

[DeadStar]

I very much wanna bend over someone’s single Hooyo or Eedo or habaryar.

 

[kaluumayste]

Yh I think OP you're just having a phase.
Someone your age is much better

I thought so. yeah imagine growing old with someone you married at 20 years.

 

[XaawoLuul]

I don't know of the somali equivalent but it is greatly needed



Abaayo salaamta waa kaa qaadney
Don't worry there is nothing wrong whatsoever with liking older men no need to worry.But you've got to understand people's concern. Somali men in that age were most likely or ARE married. You wouldn't want the drama of divorced men would you. If the age gap is within a decade go for it.In fact they are most likely to be mature religious and cultured.

Yeah that's so true. I guess there are many positives and negatives- it's a matter of deciding what can you compromise on. Lool they all call me 'abaayo', odey soomaali maxaa ku taqaan.

Another thing, I have thing paranoia of marrying a guy my age and then in a decade or two when I no longer have my looks and I am chasing after his 10 kids he will leave me for a younger version. So I thought what if I fast forward and be the younger version the old farax is looking for.

 

[XaawoLuul]

I thought so. yeah imagine growing old with someone you married at 20 years.

What are the odds this will happen when the couple is Somali?

 

[Idil-Beydaan]

Yeah that's so true. I guess there are many positives and negatives- it's a matter of deciding what can you compromise on. Lool they all call me 'abaayo', odey soomaali maxaa ku taqaan.

Another thing, I have thing paranoia of marrying a guy my age and then in a decade or two when I no longer have my looks and I am chasing after his 10 kids he will leave me for a younger version. So I thought what if I fast forward and be the younger version the old farax is looking for.

Are you saying when he grows old you'll leave him for a younger person

 

[star]

Another thing, I have thing paranoia of marrying a guy my age and then in a decade or two when I no longer have my looks and I am chasing after his 10 kids he will leave me for a younger version. So I thought what if I fast forward and be the younger version the old farax is looking for.

Where’s the fun for you then

 

[XaawoLuul]

Are you saying when he grows old you'll leave him for a younger person

No I meant if i marry an old guy now he can never leave me for a younger girl because that is me (and won't get the time to do that bcos by the time Im older he is *very* old, if he's alive)

 

[Shushue]

I will probably marry a teenager when I’m old, since they appear to like oldies...

 

[XaawoLuul]

Where’s the fun for you then

Who said older guys are no fun?

 

[DeadStar]

But I would never marry a woman who’s older than me. Then she’ll be all insecure and shit.