Foreign marriage horror stories: SHARE

[NAAFO]

@Waaqo of Punt increases what? not true at all if thats what I think you mean

 

[madaxweyne]

Story 1:

I've heard of a Somali man who married an Indian woman in the UAE, he eventually moved to the UK.
His wife suddenly started exposing her racist ways and now her half-Somali children deny being Somali and may not even practise Islam.

These Indian "Miskeen" women are as "miskeen" as their circumstances.


Story 2.

My aunt married a Dutch man, she gave birth to two children. Her body was found under suspicious circumstances and he obviously took the children. People suspect that he killed her.


Story 3.

A woman I know married a Shiah man, as soon as he finished his studies, he went back to his country and married a woman from his own ethnic group.


Story 4.

A Somali man married a White girl who claimed to be Muslim, she ran away as soon as she gave birth. He is now a single father.


Story 5.

Somali woman married an Algerian man, she had a bunch of kids. She once found letters from his mother telling him to "leave that black slave and take the children", she had to take legal actions to prevent him from stealing the children but he was planning to do so.

Story 6.

A Somali woman married a Moroccan man, he took her to Morroco and abandoned her in some random location. Her children were still missing last I heard. She doesn't even know how to find him/them.



A good marriage is based on compatibility and shared ethnic/religious backgrounds are very important. Furthermore, people need to have the same expectations from marriage.

Granted, there are some lovely marriages with foreigners but we've all heard of horror stories which seem to make up the bulk of foreign marriages.


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I'll just stick to the typical oromo and amahara women :siilaanyolaugh:

 

[AussieHustler]

xenophobia at it's finest hour. It starts from don't marry from that clan to don't marry foreigners. Why do people worry about who others marry? 99% of Somalis marry other Somalis and we have a crisis of divorces and family dysfunctions. Fix yourself, family and then, mind your own businesses.

 

[Finesse]

xenophobia at it's finest hour. It starts from don't marry from that clan to don't marry foreigners. Why do people worry about who others marry? 99% of Somalis marry other Somalis and we have a crisis of divorces and family dysfunctions. Fix yourself, family and then, mind your own businesses.

Xenophobic?
Not at all.

Most Somali marriages to foreigners don't work out, it's a fact.

 

[Finesse]

Is it too hard to believe that she may have changed her mind?

Unfortunately not, she literally acted like a crazy person refusing to stay in the house. Her behaviour was that of a person under black magic.

 

[Finesse]

@Waaqo of Punt what I mean is they do it indirectly as at times they officiate these marriages even when its explicitly against the wishes/aspirations of the families ask yourself the question do you think they would do that towerds arabs and asians even other african muslim communities, please read and understood properly I said certain mosques kkkkkkkkkk

They use Somali women/girls as bait to prevent "reverts" from marrying their own girls.

 

[Finesse]

A topic that needs to be adressed in our community, because many youngsters believe our backward Somali culture needs to be updated, i.e. become more tolerant towards interracial marriages. They always argue, Islam hasn't restricted us to marry from another culture.

The truth is, marrying from your own kind (people with the same/similar culture) is part of the Sunna of the Prophet SCW. Three out of the four major islamic schools of thought/law (Madhahib) have classified it as a favoured act (mustahab), whereas the forth one even classified it as obligatory (waajib). It is a new modern movement to encourage people to marry from unfamiliar and different cultures, just because we are all Muslims. It's not a coincidence that the majority of this 'foreign marriages', have a very bad end for both partners.

You hit the nail on the head walaale.

 

[Finesse]

There is a more horrible story that I know of. Read at your own risk.





Somali woman married a Carribbean "revert", he was caught raping her full-Somali son from a previous marriage.

 

[Finesse]

A tip for Somali men;

Never eat food cooked by a random woman, not foreigners or even Somali. Black magic practitioners add their period blood to food to make a man "obsessed" with them.

Take them out to eat or you cook for them.

 

[Finesse]

Lmao how can u say that mosques encourage EA to marry out

Mosques love giving Somali girls/women away like candy because many Somali women/girls don't have protective men at home who will chase the revert away/vet them appropriately.

Somali men/boys need to start being pro-active in finding suitable men for their female relatives.

Somali women only fall for foreigners if there are not enough compatible suitors.

Warn them from an early age about foreign marriages.

 

[psyche]

xenophobia at it's finest hour. It starts from don't marry from that clan to don't marry foreigners. Why do people worry about who others marry? 99% of Somalis marry other Somalis and we have a crisis of divorces and family dysfunctions. Fix yourself, family and then, mind your own businesses.

They seem to attribute the failure of the marriage to the cultural differences for some reason rather than the incompatibility of the two persons.

I'm gonna be honest here most of these stories seem like badly written fantasies made to make miscegenation less appealing.

Like seriously why do half the stories end up with the Somali woman dead or stranded?

 

[AussieHustler]

They seem to attribute the failure of the marriage to the cultural differences for some reason rather than the incompatibility of the two persons.

I'm gonna be honest here most of these stories seem like badly written fantasies made to make miscegenation less appealing.

Like seriously why do half the stories end up with the Somali woman dead or stranded?

@Whimsical fanatic

I’ve an aunt who tells such stories with gusto and she is a twice divorcee & ironically, both of her ex-husbands are Somalis. Misery loves company.

 

[Dibleyy]

A topic that needs to be adressed in our community, because many youngsters believe our backward Somali culture needs to be updated, i.e. become more tolerant towards interracial marriages. They always argue, Islam hasn't restricted us to marry from another culture.

The truth is, marrying from your own kind (people with the same/similar culture) is part of the Sunna of the Prophet SCW. Three out of the four major islamic schools of thought/law (Madhahib) have classified it as a favoured act (mustahab), whereas the forth one even classified it as obligatory (waajib). It is a new modern movement to encourage people to marry from unfamiliar and different cultures, just because we are all Muslims. It's not a coincidence that the majority of this 'foreign marriages', have a very bad end for both partners.

You know giving out false information is a major sin, is there a link to back your claim?

 

[Abdurahman_somali]

You know giving out false information is a major sin, is there a link to back your claim?

There are evidences and i wouldn't make such a claim, without knowing what i'm talking about. These are not my words, but the opinion of the islamic scholars of the past. Some modern Islamic preachers, mainly Salafis, have changed this understanding of intercultural marriage.

Let me know if you want Arabic or English sources. I will post it later then. But if you wanna argue just for the sake of arguing, i don't wanna waste my time.

 

[Basra]

 

[jamal9]

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she gave herself away. no black magic.

 

[SOMALI GENERAL]

xenophobia at it's finest hour. It starts from don't marry from that clan to don't marry foreigners. Why do people worry about who others marry? 99% of Somalis marry other Somalis and we have a crisis of divorces and family dysfunctions. Fix yourself, family and then, mind your own businesses.

It's simply fake news to discredit inter-ethnic/racial marriages. I personally know of many Somali brothers & relatives that have foreign wives & they're all happily married.

 

[psyche]

There are evidences and i wouldn't make such a claim, without knowing what i'm talking about. These are not my words, but the opinion of the islamic scholars of the past. Some modern Islamic preachers, mainly Salafis, have changed this understanding of intercultural marriage.

Let me know if you want Arabic or English sources. I will post it later then. But if you wanna argue just for the sake of arguing, i don't wanna waste my time.

Post the English link then.

I honestly cannot see in anyway how it is looked down upon to marry outside your culture when Islam teaches us to live as one ummah.

 

[Vanessa]

Be cautious with reverts. We never know their intention.

 

[Basra]

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Be cautious with reverts. We never know their intention.

This is my favorite mixed marriage. Too bad it ended bad, but at least she had lots of babies with him! Yum