Do you think it's okay to date?

[Transparent]

Single men are weirdos to married men.

You're fuckin 35 mate,don't look down on us youngins it's peak out here

 

[VixR]

It's common for people who date to find that they don't know much about the person until they're living with them. Are you also of the opinion that you have to live together before marriage too?

Yes, that's exactly why I said dating isn't enough. There's a layer of facade in dating someone that only truly chips away when you eventually live with them. You don't really know them til then. Obviously, that's not gonna work for most religious folk, in which case I would suggest not having children right away. Many of these sob stories come from first marrying and then hastily reproducing with practical strangers.

 

[merka]

Making out is still physical/intimate but yea; that along with holding hands, hugs, watching movies together, cuddling, dancing, even sharing the same bed, and other forms of affection that doesn't go too far. By non-platonic, I'm just referring to the connection/chemistry that you'd have for a significant other (which is clearly more than friendship)...a.k.a a "romantic" relationship. The no intercourse part is just due to the celibacy thing.

Oh I see. That's not really a problem except for the sharing the same bed part. You're gonna have to find a guy with some serious discipline

 

[Deactivated]

You're fuckin 35 mate,don't look down on us youngins it's peak out here

I'm 25

 

[GodKnowsBest]

Dating with an intention to marry (also called courting) is okay.

Keep it short, 1-2 dates in public at a fancy restaurant where you both have lots of opportunities to chat about compatibility and future.

Second or third date should be at hers house with her mahram

No touching though

I agree with courting but after second date at parent's house is a bit extreme especially since we're in the 21st century. But it also prevents people from fornication. I was going to suggest having the parent meet up at 3 months but most people have sex before then so your option is the best!

 

[GodKnowsBest]

I'm 25

When did you marry?

 

[Axmed Xaji]

Did you know Muhammad used to thigh Aisha before he could consummate their marriage? It means a man sticking his appendage inbetween a woman's thighs and humping them until the man does. . .

Yes I know that. Try telling these muzzies. They'll get angry with you for thighing aisha...err I mean for talking about it.

 

[Noir]

Did you know Muhammad used to thigh Aisha before he could consummate their marriage? It means a man sticking his appendage inbetween a woman's thighs and humping them until the man does. . .

He was preparing to give the all watching eye of Allah a good show.

 

[Bernie Madoff]

Oh I see. That's not really a problem except for the sharing the same bed part. You're gonna have to find a guy with some serious discipline

@TooMacaan

 

[GodKnowsBest]

Making out is still physical/intimate but yea; that along with holding hands, hugs, watching movies together, cuddling, dancing, even sharing the same bed, and other forms of affection that doesn't go too far. By non-platonic, I'm just referring to the connection/chemistry that you'd have for a significant other (which is clearly more than friendship)...a.k.a a "romantic" relationship. The no intercourse part is just due to the celibacy thing.

You would go that far with a man you won't marry?

 

[VixR]

Not a muslim one sister...they aint real men

Make no mistake, the atheist ones are not necessarily any different. Having said that, the most amazing Somali man I ever met was a gaal one. But my mind thinks of him as an exception within an exception.

 

[TooMacaan]

Oh I see. That's not really a problem except for the sharing the same bed part. You're gonna have to find a guy with some serious discipline

Lol, the 'sharing the same bed' part is if we're already living together or the relationship reaches a more serious level-- kinda like a sleepover thing or falling asleep while cuddling (nothing more).
And haha yh, discipline/character is probably one of the most important things I look for; even more so than personality tbh.
....these days though, I'm starting to think I'm searching for a unicorn.

 

[TooMacaan]

@TooMacaan

Lmao...so I'm guessing you're one of the many weak-willed men with limited self-control, eh? Why is discipline so difficult for men??

 

[merka]

Lol, the 'sharing the same bed' part is if we're already living together or the relationship reaches a more serious level-- kinda like a sleepover thing or falling asleep while cuddling (nothing more).
And haha yh, discipline/character is probably one of the most important things I look for; even more so than personality tbh.
....these days though, I'm starting to think I'm searching for a unicorn.

I'd personally avoid sharing beds if I were you. Accidentally sleeping while cuddling is no big deal, happens all the time.

But yeah, your standards are pretty high for most guys to fulfill. It might take you a while to find the right guy. Good luck

 

[Bernie Madoff]

Lmao...so I'm guessing you're one of the many weak-willed men with limited self-control, eh? Why is discipline so difficult for men??

Hey atleast i'm being honest about it. If you ever get a man who's ok with you telling him no sex during a relationship likely chance that he is cheating on you.

 

[TooMacaan]

You would go that far with a man you won't marry?

There's levels to it ofc but, yes...?
Which part am I being judged for exactly?

 

[VixR]

Hey atleast i'm being honest about it. If you ever get a man who's ok with you telling him no sex during a relationship likely chance that he is cheating on you.

You're not all created equal, the same, and its the weakest and most flawed among you that like claim yourselves as the mean number. I've also noticed tons of guys like to clown their betters, but I haven't figured out what the mechanism is there (defense mechanism, jealousy, coping?)

 

[Transparent]

I'm 25

says every habaryar alive

 

[TooMacaan]

Hey atleast i'm being honest about it. If you ever get a man who's ok with you telling him no sex during a relationship likely chance that he is cheating on you.

I don't understand that whole thing though...a lot of guys live without s-x (involuntarily, perhaps) but when they're in a relationship, it becomes necessary all of a sudden??
If they've survived without it before, why go to the disgusting lengths of cheating...
Btw, are you speaking from personal experience, Mr. "I'm miskeen"?

 

[Transparent]

for me atm i would not date a girl,the thing is that im young,not serious about life and cant be arsed catering for a female financially. I do however speak to many females for the hell of it but i make sure to dip as soon as things seem like they are getting serious.Hopefully when i am financially stable and have my priorities set i may seek to pursue a more longlasting relationship.Although i dont agree with dating im probably going to date.Dating is definitely haraam and i believe it to be so,me indulging in it is another story.To answer the question of the op,dating is not okay,it is not allowed in our relgion so we should refrain from doing it,if i do it or not is a different question