Maybe in your female mindset. One of the biggest part of responsibility is to control your SO wether you like it or not. There is no difference between those two. Being responsible doesn't mean just to tell somebody what is right, it also means you have to make sure the person act according to this.
As a female, you don't need to educate me about what is manhood, as if you know anything about it. I have many sisters, whom i take responsibly for. None of them would dare to say or do anything what hurt my honour, out of respect mainly and also fear that certain actions have consequences. But let me educate you know about manhood, if your wife/sister/daughter doesn't have that fear for any consequences for immoral acts, you are a cuck. In Islam such a man is called a Dayuuth.