Its really hard being religious, young, and horny.

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I ask if you're religious because I like your post, but I'm a bit concerned with your last sentence. I get it, that we shouldn't let ourselves go. But when I'm in my late thirties, even if I've been taking care of myself to the the best of my ability, I won't be as sexy and youthful as I am now at 19. So I'm just wondering if your mindset is representative of religious Faarax's, where if she changes he does not feel any responsibility to please his wife.

This is why a wide age gap is so important because women age quicker along with the other stuff I mentioned (wisdom, maturity), our ancestors were aware of this and always ensured the gaps were big.

Your target should be 26-33, a man that has no balwad kept himself in good condition physically but especially more so spiritually (religiously) because this negates disgusting emotions that make someone age quick ( excessive stress, envy, jealousy, anxieties, greed, hatred etc)

Such males although 30 look 19-21, I know 19 year old that are the opposite who look 30 because they engage in all of the above, someone that diligently takes care of himself will take care of you.

With that kind of age gap you don't have to worry, his libido will begin to wane in his 40's, your still late 20's or just turned 30 by that time, rather than being close to menopausal age, your still the best that's available to him.
 
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Women do have lust but I believe that urges can be supressed quite easily. Althought the prophet advised one of the Sahabah that he should marry to avoid urges, which is used to justify that masturbation is actually haram
At the same time Marriage is more than lust, it is aomethig of great standing in both faith and culture. It’s the half the deen etc.. I wouldn’t advise the abaayo to marry imo. Also Inquistive you always come off as biased towards women imo.

I will take the advice of the Prophet above everything else, whenever this was implemented and practised (for many centuries) we had harmonious righteous communities.

When we stopped this in favour of chasing the Dunya, we utterly destroyed our communities and many of our youths are committing Zina on a massive scale, which is especially destroying our women.

You can't even blame them because the Prophet himself said there will be great Fitnah & Fasad if we abandon this, there is nothing to stop them because most of them have not received any kind of religious teachings and these are the age ranges were the most mistakes are made.

To advice her not to marry at 19, which is an age considered too old in Somalia (for first marriage), being 7 years in puberty is absolutely criminal advice and what makes this even worse is your advice is based on pathetic worldly reasons while going against prophetic teachings.

There is a reason why the father who raises 2 or more daughters well and marries them off to suitable husbands is GUARANTEED Jannah, no such hadith exists for raising son's in a similar way.

There is no marriage on the face of this earth were lust wasn't a great factor, because why else would people be so picky about looks, height, dress and other traits of attractiveness if lust wasn't a factor ?

In fact it's hypothesised that more then 50% of all problems in marriage starts in the bedroom.

I can only conclude that those who are advising her this (women that are older) are not only irreligious and irresponsible but also delve into haram unless they are hormonally deficient.

The best of them had a couple of relationships, avoids Zinna but masturbates regularly to compensate for that abstinence, this is normal and expected so I don't know why you act so surprised.
 
I will take the advice of the Prophet above everything else, whenever this was implemented and practised (for many centuries) we had harmonious righteous communities.

When we stopped this in favour of chasing the Dunya, we utterly destroyed our communities and many of our youths are committing Zina on a massive scale, which is especially destroying our women.

You can't even blame them because the Prophet himself said there will be great Fitnah & Fasad if we abandon this, there is nothing to stop them because most of them have not received any kind of religious teachings and these are the age ranges were the most mistakes are made.

To advice her not to marry at 19, which is an age considered too old in Somalia (for first marriage), being 7 years in puberty is absolutely criminal advice and what makes this even worse is your advice is based on pathetic worldly reasons while going against prophetic teachings.

There is a reason why the father who raises 2 or more daughters well and marries them off to suitable husbands is GUARANTEED Jannah, no such hadith exists for raising son's in a similar way.

There is no marriage on the face of this earth were lust wasn't a great factor, because why else would people be so picky about looks, height, dress and other traits of attractiveness if lust wasn't a factor ?

In fact it's hypothesised that more then 50% of all problems in marriage starts in the bedroom.

I can only conclude that those who are advising her this (women that are older) are not only irreligious and irresponsible but also delve into haram unless they are hormonally deficient.

The best of them had a couple of relationships, avoids Zinna but masturbates regularly to compensate for that abstinence, this is normal and expected so I don't know why you act so surprised.
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I agree
But sxb these worldy reasons that prevent us to marry are a test from Allah in my opinion, I believe it’s Allah test for us to control ourseleves albeit for worldy reasons.... And that’s when I realise I don’t make sense:snoop:
You’re right :mjhaps: which is why i deleted my post as i came to conclusion too quickly.
But something I cant agree with is
‘not only irreligious and irresponsible but also delve into haram unless they are hormonally deficient‘
Take that back sxb :ufdup:
Especially the irreligious part.
I didn’t want to mention Allahs punishment because you don’t advise people through fear. But what I have been taught was that a fear from Allah was needed and that the fear of his punishment. So to lump all those that delay marriage in pursuit of education as such isn’t acceptable in my opinion. There are some sister out there thta don’t delve into haram and maintain self control because of the Taqwa they have. And if they masturbate they seek forgiveness. I completely agree that marriage is the answer, but not all the ‘independent’ and career pursuing women are harami just a general reminder as you’re tone comes off like that.
Hormonollay deficent :mjkkk::mjlaugh:
 
Let me guess, you're a salafi? Sex and marriage seems to be a big preoccupation among salafis. Focus on your studies and try to vent out that extra energy and urges on physical exercise. Then when yoyou' got your education out of the way, approach your parents about marriage ans let them know youre ready. Trust me, after studying/working all day and working out at the gym after, you won't have the energy for sexual thoughts.

Sex is a perk of marriage, it's not the reason for marriage. Somalis seem to forget that, and that's why our divorce rates are through the roof.

Great advice. Relationships is not all about sex. Lust comes and go. Women are biologically different to us Men. You know the saying women have an expiry date? yh I think its true hence why they feel the pressure to find a mate early but this is slowly changing due to liberal Marxism and empowerment of women.

As a virgin male I only become lustful when I think about women. Controlling the mind is important. I could stay a virgin till I'm 40 or even 50 no issue for me.
 

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