I think you mean extending length of time for the quality of already good eggs rather than improving eggs where the DNA has already degraded.
Xaliimo came on YouTube to lament the passage of time. She can’t believe she’s 38 with no kids and husband. She’s very emotional
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Hate to break it to you, but if you planning to have kids it's best to plan sooner rather than later
Time flies and 35 is not young for a female at all biologically speaking, there is still time no need rush but clock is ticking
As long as you’re working on it and making Dua there’s nothing more you can do and if it doesn’t happen then it was Qadr Allah
May Allah SWT provide you with a loving husband and the children you desire.
It’s a mixed bag and many women don’t marry for a multitude of reasons. In many of the cases are simply because of lack of accessibility and help in the Somali community. Age isn’t even a factor since fob women who are surrounded by Faraxs or women who are social butterflies marry at any age and you have women with kids from previous relationships and in their 30s marrying for a second time.
Also, this isn’t going to sit well with many men but it’s also a numbers game. We have a lot of dysfunctionality and many of our boys have paid the price due to the lack of awareness of raising kids in the Western world.
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I’m being honest here. Most girls that marry early, were dating earlier and put themselves out there more. It’s 2024 and Somalis don’t have arranged marriages, hence the average Farax isn’t knocking on the door of a woman that doesn’t try and get to people.
I have no issues with those women speaking about it, but this dialogue whilst needed will be fruitless since we have a lot of men grappling with their undesirability or difficulties in marriage and instead of relating or feeling for the sister, they’ll tear her apart even more and women in those circumstances will feel even more alone and maybe even resentful.
Thanks for your acknowledgment and respect in this debate. I think both Western Somali men and women are struggling and we do have a lot of community issues and we need to start listening to each other instead ripping each other into shreds.
attash
Amaan Duule
Massive cope.The only men that are gleeful at these kind of topics, are those that get turned down by women in their 20s, so they wait until a woman is single in her 30's, to make fun of her. Little do they know, that by 30s, these women are even happier being single, more financially stable and have even higher standards.
And yes, plenty of sisters, get married in their late 30s, 40s, and have healthy children.
Joke is on you weirdos, because nobody is lowering the price or standards at any age. The lady you couldn't get when she was 20, will never even look at you in her 30s, 40s, hell xataa with one foot in the grave.
Did I tell women to marry late? Women should marry who they want to marry and not lower their standards. As for fertility, that is a gift/test from Allah, plenty of young men and women, are infertile.
Amin, Jizakallah
It's destructive to say that. A woman in her late 30s/40s is absolutely expired to all men. That's terrible guidance to give
I've never lived there but I visited 2-3 years ago so take this with a grain of salt, but from what I experienced and the experience of two family members, Somalis are unironically the Mexicans of Turkey. They are aware of us, there's a large population that go to Turkey for school / work / general social mobility. The Turkish govt claims there's a big problem with Somalis staying past their visas, so they have military forces that will stop and question Somalis to see if they have papers. My cousin had this happen one evening, he ran into a pretty bad turk who dumped the bag he had with luggage in it, and upon seeing the Canadian passport, apologized profusely and started shoveling the clothes back in the back. My other cousin, a native born Somali who was studying in turkey at the time is the one who informed of the visa issues. Additionally, Turks are straight up racist by and large, and they people who live in cities like Istanbul or Ankara know Somalis are a "problem". Don't get me wrong it doesn't mean niggas are turning you away from shops, but the conduct of some Turks will be shocking.
On my plane ride from turkey to somalia (plane full of Somalis, Turkish airline and plane staff) on arrival to somalia there was a delay in exiting the plane. Naturally some people were asking questions about the situation, since we were at the airport but asked to stay on. The plane staff treated the people asking questions like toddlers. One native Somali nigga was not having it, and no word of a lie stood ten toes down and started saying shit like "you can't talk to us like that, that's racism". They didn't give asf
Most Turks are reasonable and don't care about Somalis, but there are some fuckheads and Somalis aren't just black people there, they know us. If you get the chance to visit or live there it still worthwhile, the ratio of western influence to islamic influence is good to see and experience, gives something to measure against back home (western countries and somalia)
I have seen your post history and I have decided to be charitable and not shame you, but you and I both know why you speak in this manner.
It's fine. You can type out what you really think
Bald and seems a little neurodivergent.
Well anything you don't take care of degrades. The question should be why have you resigned yourself to a do-nothing miserable mentality. I certainly doubt you are filtering your water from plastics and industrial pollutants, avoiding soy, reducing EMF exposure or even supporting lymphatic drainage. I could probably provide a long list of ways you could improve your gametes but I doubt you'd listen.
Children inherit your gut microbiome and I see no men taking prenatal vitamins or making changes to their lifestyle before kids. They just produce misbehaving brats with lopsided heads (a sign of vitamin deficiency) that they saddle their wives with.
Wallahi wa iga qoslisayBald and seems a little neurodivergent.
Well anything you don't take care of degrades. The question should be why have you resigned yourself to a do-nothing miserable mentality. I certainly doubt you are filtering your water from plastics and industrial pollutants, avoiding soy, reducing EMF exposure or even supporting lymphatic drainage. I could probably provide a long list of ways you could improve your gametes but I doubt you'd listen.
Abaq
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For once a decent response to these kinda topics. Most decent men and women that reach their 30s unmarried isn't due to a gaal mentality or lack of trying, it's because they are trying to find someone compatible and at their level. Now, there might be an argument that they might be too picky, but that doesn't mean they wanted to 'have fun'.
I think the real issue in our community, especially in the West, is a lack of exposure between potential couples. I know plenty of good, well educated guys with decent jobs that struggled to find a spouse because there was simply no exposure between them and the kind of girls they wanted. And relying on friends/family to recommend someone can only take you so far and no one really knows what you want except yourself. Ironically, they had more success finding someone at networking events. I went to such an event last year and you could see just how badly the young guys and girls needed it, it was like one mad speed dating event lol. This is the area I think we need to put our efforts on, creating more spaces for young, educated males and females from our community to meet.
Abaq
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You should start a podcast sister. You've hit the nail on the head.
I went to a wedding in a certain European country with a small Somali community a few months ago. A lot of young educated, religious brothers from other countries with larger diasporas attended the Wedding. The local dads were practically harassing the boys for their numbers. Why? They all had good, educated daughters at home and they were struggling to find husbands.
The percentage of good, well educated, religious boys in our community is smaller than the percentage of similar girls due to the issues you highlighted. This already makes it an uphill task for sisters to find someone suitable. On top of that, we have no matchmaking system to speak off at all. When you have a shy, quiet girl that doesn't go out much, you practically guarantee her being invisible. No visibility = no chances for meeting someone suitable.
What we really need is a matchmaking culture. If that means aunties in the area recommending good guys and girls to each other, so be it. The current hands off approach is creating an unfair situation for many sisters and a lot of good guys as well.
I know someone who got married in her late 30s, her husband is around her age, and she had a child, naturally. I think we all have similar stories to share. And every single one of those women has no regrets, even though they did want to marry earlier in life. I think we need to share more of these stories, to counter-act the barrage of false information and fear-mongering from bitter men.
From what I've observed, being friends with match-makers, and overhearing plenty of conversations with frustrated aunties. Every Somali aunty knows plenty of single, eligible ladies, the truth is, single Somali males are the ones who aren't putting themselves out there, and not informing their families to find them suitable matches. I know of people who are trying to do match-making, but they can't find men, and their clients are mostly women.
Somali girls are already aware of and involved in match-making culture, in fact, every Somali girl I know gets introduced to socially awkward guys or fobs (who want inaa la soo dhoofiyo), instead of eligible bachelors. Furthermore, eligible bachelors, seem to dislike being matched by their families, and prefer to find women themselves. Maybe they prefer using apps? I know those apps are being abandoned by normal Somali women, after being harassed by Hindi and perverts.
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