Why do men think an average looking girl is desperate?

[Gerigo'an]

Lol I don't have female friends

Nothing wrong with approaching through soicals tho

I am old school, I don't even have instgram or fb. I have twitter which I used to ramble on about sports and global events and snapchat. If you have social media, you'll get to know everyone and everyone will know you or least by name and face.

 

[Yaraye]

Be pragmatic, use your head. Comon you can't tell me your self esteem didn't take a little hit because dude approached two of your friends.

Its because that i'm pragmatic, that myself esteem didn't take a hit. Thus the entire point of this thread, why can't some men believe that average looking women have high self-love, self esteem, and confidence? what's so odd about that? why are many arrogant enough to assume that they can affect an average looking woman's self-esteem? That's what i find confusing

 

[Gerigo'an]

Its because that i'm pragmatic, that myself esteem didn't take a hit. Thus the entire point of this thread, why can't some men believe that average looking women have high self-love, self esteem, and confidence? what's so odd about that? why are many arrogant enough to assume that they can affect an average looking woman's self-esteem? That's what i find confusing

Because that's what happens mostly, you are an outlier. it happens to everyone, men and women alike.
Also, it doesn't matter how you feel, what about your friends? Do you not think they are feeling guilty, or feeling bad for you?

 

[Yaraye]

Because that's what happens mostly, you are an outlier. it happens to everyone, men and women alike.

I'm not an outlier. There are many average looking people who think this way.

Also, it doesn't matter how you feel, what about your friends? Do you not think they are feeling guilty, or feeling bad for you?

why would my friends feel guilty? why would they feel bad for me?

 

[LEThimCOOK]

how did you get to that assumption?

Or are you just dark skin?

 

[Gerigo'an]

I'm not an outlier. There are many average looking people who think this way.

why would my friends feel guilty? why would they feel bad for me?

Because being approached or shown interest by the opposite sex is flattering. When a dude, or a chick, hits on your friends and not you, he or she is saying you ain't all that. Most people feel something from this, and if you don't, you are an exception.

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[Yaraye]

Or are you just dark skin?

I'm just dark skin, I don't resemble her

 

[Yaraye]

Because being approached or shown interest by the opposite sex is flattering. When a dude, or a chick, hits on your friends and not you, he or she is saying you ain't all that. Most people feel something from this, and if you don't, you are an exception.

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See how you have the suspicion that I'm in denial? This is what I'm talking about
plus I'm not an exception. Many people out here (both genders) don't feel much on if they don't get approached or do get approached.

 

[KaiMarvin]

Because being approached or shown interest by the opposite sex is flattering. When a dude, or a chick, hits on your friends and not you, he or she is saying you ain't all that. Most people feel something from this, and if you don't, you are an exception.

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lmao not only did @Yaraye get ignored, she also got dissed

@Yaraye stop hanging with your friends. Dont accept being the ugly friend

Im a man and wouldnt take that position

 

[Bari🐍]

Be pragmatic, use your head. Comon you can't tell me your self esteem didn't take a little hit because dude approached two of your friends and dissed you when you thought he was going to hit on you too. Sorry if I sound like an asshole, I don't mean to be but I am trying to make a point. If you keep hanging around girls who you think are more attractive than you, then expect this scenario to repeat again many times.

So if you have a friend that is smarter, richer, more better looking you should stop being friend with them? What if I told you people are friends because they enjoy the others company and that...get ready for this it's a big one... some people's self esteem is not derived from others

 

[𐒋𐒖𐒆𐒔𐒖𐒕𐒈]

I went out with some friends. During this outing we decided to go to a second location so we split off into groups. 2 friends and I were headed to the car, when this objectively handsome somali guy makes a beeline in our direction.

Now I ain't insecure, but I know I'm average looking. So I made the mental conclusion that the guy was headed to one of the two friends I was with. Both of my friends mashallah are stunning (inside and out). One of them is engaged, while the other is single. He got to us and asked for my engaged friend's socials. My engaged friend told him she was engaged. He turned to my other friend and asked for her social. She rejected him.

I knew this guy wasn't about to ask for mine, so avoid looking awkward, I began fiddling on my phone to look busy. I thought that he would leave and we would go about our way. However, this nigga turns to me and says, "I don't know why you're pulling out your phone, I wasn't gonna give you my instagram."

Before I could my mouth to say something, my engaged friend said, "She wasn't gonna ask." The guy suddenly ran off.

I was annoyed that he thought I was gonna ask for his socials when I wasn't even genuinely interested in him. Why do some handsome men assume that an average looking girl always wants them? Haven't they thought that average looking girls might not be interested in them? is this how average looking men feel when a delusional woman says they are interested? lol

Hard truth? We are simple, visual creatures, attracted to the facade on the surface at first, but then post a bit of a minor flaying, past the facade, we discover the true self underneath in where there is more than meets the eye, or not; after a couple of rounds in the ring, dancing of course, regardless of how pretty a lady is, if there is not much going on between her ears, she is just another pretty face, the archetypal Essex lass, and will not last past the season. Now, an average looking lady, with a bit going on between her ears, now there is a fine gem any man would want to sire with his heir.

 

[Yaraye]

lmao not only did @Yaraye get ignored, she also got dissed

@Yaraye stop hanging with your friends. Dont accept being the ugly friend

Im a man and wouldnt take that position

You and @Gerigo'an got issues. You guy pick friends on how they make you look?

 

[Bari🐍]

Hard truth? We are simple, visual creatures, attracted to the facade on the surface at first, but then post a bit of a minor flaying, past the facade, we discover the true self underneath in where there is more than meets the eye, or not; after a couple of rounds in the ring, dancing of course, regardless of how pretty a lady is, if there is not much going on between her ears, she is just another pretty face, the archetypal Essex lass, and will not last past the season. Now, an average looking lady, with a bit going on between her ears, now there is a fine gem any man would want to sire with his heir.

 

[Yaraye]

Hard truth? We are simple, visual creatures, attracted to the facade on the surface at first, but then post a bit of a minor flaying, past the facade, we discover the true self underneath in where there is more than meets the eye, or not; after a couple of rounds in the ring, dancing of course, regardless of how pretty a lady is, if there is not much going on between her ears, she is just another pretty face, the archetypal Essex lass, and will not last past the season. Now, an average looking lady, with a bit going on between her ears, now there is a fine gem any man would want to sire with his heir.

My friends got it all: beauty, brains, and personalities

 

[Dualke]

So if you have a friend that is smarter, richer, more better looking you should stop being friend with them? What if I told you people are friends because they enjoy the others company and that...get ready for this it's a big one... some people's self esteem is not derived from others

Theres a difference between having A friend thats better and having a friend group that's all better than you
For example would you really want to be that one nigga in a group that works a trade while the rest of your friends all went through grad school and makes 10x more money? Eventually you'll start comparing yourself to them and feel inferior

 

[𐒋𐒖𐒆𐒔𐒖𐒕𐒈]

My friends got it all: beauty, brains, and personalities

Neither is the Essex lass type? You would say, for they are your mates, no?

 

[Yaraye]

Neither is the Essex lass type? You would say, for they are your mates, no?

I'm not just saying that cuz they are my mates

 

[KaiMarvin]

You and @Gerigo'an got issues. You guy pick friends on how they make you look?

Hell yeah its all about the brand. Imagine a 5’2 brudda kicking it with 6’2 dudes

How would that make him look to the world? Plus dont boost ur friends ego at your expanse you deserve to be in their position too

 

[Yaraye]

Theres a difference between having A friend thats better and having a friend group that's all better than you
For example would you really want to be that one nigga in a group that works a trade while the rest of your friends all went through grad school and makes 10x more money? Eventually you'll start comparing yourself to them and feel inferior

Honestly, y'all would rather hang out with people who make you look good but don't enjoy their company?

 

[𐒋𐒖𐒆𐒔𐒖𐒕𐒈]

I'm not just saying that cuz they are my mates

You are a good mate then, but I am choosing to refuse accepting that.