Yeh why do somali women act different with outta town niggas. I have smashed so much halimos vacationing in Ohio than my own area smdh.I don’t think the “eww” that you noted in response to the Somali guys is personal. Probably, the vast majority of us grew up seeing them as cousins and brothers, not as dateable really. That was my experience, anyway.
The guys we grew up with didn’t seem to have the problem of asking out girls they grew up with and used to introduce as/call their cousins (we weren’t), but for us they were sectioned off as too familiar. It takes reorientation to be able to date them from that perspective, especially if you grew up in a small pool of them (if they’re hot and from out of town that helps the process lol).