Where to find a husband

[geelhilib]

I would tell you to expand your dating pool but you only want a Somali guy so idk what to tell you, but best of luck sis

Personally speaking though I’m a realist. My family won’t find a guy for me and I rarely come across Somali men in my everyday life. Plus the Somali community is unique in which there’s a lot more marriage material women than men. So it’s a ton of women competing for a few guys. I’m not trying to stay single my entire life so I’ve opened up my dating pool as a result, if he’s Muslim and comes from a Muslim family (no reverts) and checks my boxes I’m okay with that

just know one thing and this is genuine advice if your marriage/relationship with an ajnabi for some reason doesn't workout and you guys separate and you decide to re-enter the somali dating pool once a somali guy finds out you've dated an ajnabi or had relations with one he is either going to ghost you or not take you serious or get laid and then leave you, somali guys talk to each other most likely someone will pull up your CV or background checks 99.3% somali guys will not wife a ting who has been with an ajnabi even if she was a millionaire he will get clowned

 

[iphone1]

had a hook up from fb fucked on the first night now we happily married. you ever tried fb?

 

[Kane]

wanted to put in those exact terms but i didn't want the nigga to lose his shit?

Do you think its you're responsible for your wife's emotional well being? not saying you should abuse her in any way but do u think its YOUR JOB to make her happy?

according to will smith his wife was responsible for her own happiness, so she went and got August lol.

You are responsible for her entire emotional state, the moment you give up control, is the moment you give the next man his opportunity.

 

[Rakoon]

This is way to specific is there something you want to tell us

Nah I was asking for a friend but honestly good practizing xaliimos aren't that shallow to care about size specially if they're tight

 

[AllStarSaciid]

according to will smith his wife was responsible for her own happiness, so she went and got August lol.

You are responsible for her entire emotional state, the moment you give up control, is the moment you give the next man his opportunity.

do you think marrying a woman over 30 is bad ROI?

 

[AllStarSaciid]

@Kane lets say u got two girls one is a 21 year old and the other is 29, the 21 year old asks for $4000 dollars for mehr while the 29 year old asks for $3000 dollars, both have the right to ask for that amount but you also have the right to negotiate it, without even thinking or negotiating which girl are u gonna get a good ROI?
and why?

 

[citrus_samurai]

I'll keep it one hundred. there ain't no halal muslim men by their late 20s if they grew up in the west. That's just not realistic unfortunately. Your best bet is a FOB/recent immigrant.

I don’t think halal or haram can be applied to individuals, only to actions. If he has sincerely repented from his past sins and stayed away from them then that’s good

 

[Bundasliga]

Welcome to my world I am also in my 20s and I'm interested in getting to know someone well not now but soon inshallah but also don't know where to search. I was thinking muzmatch as is this the only marriage website the sift through fake accounts, couldn't you find any somali man there? I'm also from the UK but I don't think there's many financialy stable, attractive, religiously committed humble somali man sadly.

That you don't find any man isn't suprising at all, trust me

 

[AllStarSaciid]

I don’t think halal or haram can be applied to individuals, only to actions. If he has sincerely repented from his past sins and stayed away from them then that’s good

why do u think, women will get with reformed bad boys but guys are really hesitant or almost always don't wanna a woman thats been around the block?

 

[citrus_samurai]

why do u think, women will get with reformed bad boys but guys are really hesitant or almost always don't wanna a woman thats been around the block?

I don’t know. And there are many women that do not want men that have been around the block if I’m going to be honest with you. It really depends on how extensive their spreadsheet is. Conversely it’s between them and Allah

 

[Rivaldo]

@Kane lets say u got two girls one is a 21 year old and the other is 29, the 21 year old asks for $4000 dollars for mehr while the 29 year old asks for $3000 dollars, both have the right to ask for that amount but you also have the right to negotiate it, without even thinking or negotiating which girl are u gonna get a good ROI?
and why?

Why on earth would you chose an old women over a 21 yr old in her prime?

 

[Lostbox]

My sisters never had trouble finding a good somali man neither did my cousins or friends have this problem.

There something going completely wrong. I see an ample of eligible single men around me who are good natured, have a respectable reputation and can provide a middle class lifestyle or more in this poverty-stricken age.

Yet, you don’t see any of this. You need find the people that will provide you access to these guys like tomorrow.

 

[AllStarSaciid]

My sisters never had trouble finding a good somali man neither did my cousins or friends have this problem.

There something going completely wrong. I see tons of eligible single men around me who are good natured, have a respectable reputation and can provide a middle class lifestyle or more in this poverty-stricken age.

Yet, you don’t see any of this. You need find the people that will provide you access to these guys like tomorrow.

why do u think that is bruh, why is it that those guys can't find wives? is it them or they're just not desired by the sisters?

 

[Lostbox]

why do u think that is bruh, why is it that those guys can't find wives? is it them or they're just not desired by the sisters?

In are community, guys with degrees and a entry level job are having marriage prospects through there ways.

These guys have a bunch of women watching them waiting for one to show interest in settling down to take of the market.

Do you think women on this site have a chance? They don't know where to find any

My friends are meeting suitors by the every next week if they ask

 

[Kane]

@Kane lets say u got two girls one is a 21 year old and the other is 29, the 21 year old asks for $4000 dollars for mehr while the 29 year old asks for $3000 dollars, both have the right to ask for that amount but you also have the right to negotiate it, without even thinking or negotiating which girl are u gonna get a good ROI?
and why?

for argument sake let’s say they’re both chaste women. The 29 year old Carries more emotional baggage from broken promises, unfulfilled commitments, jealousy, envy, low self esteem maybe even some depression.

Now if we add the boggy down to the mix, it’s multiple imprints, unknown numbers of soul ties, microchimerism………

Mentally speaking the 21year old is like a wet clay easy to mold, while the 29 year old is semi dried clay good luck molding that.

 

[empressjamila]

just know one thing and this is genuine advice if your marriage/relationship with an ajnabi for some reason doesn't workout and you guys separate and you decide to re-enter the somali dating pool once a somali guy finds out you've dated an ajnabi or had relations with one he is either going to ghost you or not take you serious or get laid and then leave you, somali guys talk to each other most likely someone will pull up your CV or background checks 99.3% somali guys will not wife a ting who has been with an ajnabi even if she was a millionaire he will get clowned

That doesn’t happen in real life but even if it did good riddance to that hypocrite. Most Somali men have dated ajnabi women so to switch up when it’s the other way around is laughable

 

[Unbothered]

Don’t worry sis the husband will find you when you are not even looking

 

[Hmohamed54]

Generally speaking Somali parents do not search for their gabdho. We are told to bring home a good Somali man

This is what I hate the most. Most young women don’t know what they want in a guy until they get old. Then the parents started wondering why she can’t find a husband. Subhanallah, may allah make it easier for us.

 

[Man with a garuun]

How does a practising Somali muslimah in her late 20s go about finding a husband. After she's exhausted all other options such as apps (muzz & purematrimony), social media (twitter mainly) connections (through family and friends) etc.

And there seems to be a lot of Somali sisters (lates 20s) that are having this same issue, there aren't much avenues that connect these sisters to the good Somali brothers that exist here in the Uk. The lack of help from their families and community is astonishing. This idea of Somali women having to search for her own husband is creating problems to these practising sisters that have nobody but their families to rely upon, due to being sheltered their entire life.

What is the solution if you are in this situation? Allah swt says to tie your camel, to do whatever we can

In Murica, single guys I know talk to some sisters who know other single women. The sisters communicate, make sure they found out people who know the brothers and then make the connections.

This approach also have references being provided by people who are setting up the connections.

 

[AllStarSaciid]

for argument sake let’s say they’re both chaste women. The 29 year old Carries more emotional baggage from broken promises, unfulfilled commitments, jealousy, envy, low self esteem maybe even some depression.

Now if we add the boggy down to the mix, it’s multiple imprints, unknown numbers of soul ties, microchimerism………

Mentally speaking the 21year old is like a wet clay easy to mold, while the 29 year old is semi dried clay good luck molding that.

I deeply believe women don’t really know what they want in men. Wallahi I do. Ask any girl what she wants in a man, she’ll give you a list.

When the same man comes around she don’t wanna get with him. It’s all about how u make a girl feel in this day and age especially. You almost got act like a clown(as Roosh said) giving her that emotional roller coaster, tingling her senses. Most women and men lead boring lives, nothing about them is exciting, they don’t have stories to tell, grew up in one place, lack perspective in life. Sheltered from the realities of this world.

Never ask a woman what she finds attractive, figure it out for her in the moment.