Where to find a husband

[Yankee]

How does a practising Somali muslimah in her late 20s go about finding a husband. After she's exhausted all other options such as apps (muzz & purematrimony), social media (twitter mainly) connections (through family and friends) etc.

And there seems to be a lot of Somali sisters (lates 20s) that are having this same issue, there aren't much avenues that connect these sisters to the good Somali brothers that exist here in the Uk. The lack of help from their families and community is astonishing. This idea of Somali women having to search for her own husband is creating problems to these practising sisters that have nobody but their families to rely upon, due to being sheltered their entire life.

What is the solution if you are in this situation? Allah swt says to tie your camel, to do whatever we can

Stop being so picky doesn’t mean settle for less. You’ve been given the chance but you’ve turned it down. Be humble and more openminded and hopefully you’ll meet your partner. Change your attitude, guys can pick up on negative energy rather easily, and if we notice something off or a negative vibe we bounce and get the hell outta there. Moms, men will ask you about what you think about mothers, if you have bad things to say about his mom or you ever try coming in between him and his hooyo, you’ll be left dead shorty. Respect yourself, know your worth and play the game because we all playing at this point.

 

[empressjamila]

I would tell you to expand your dating pool but you only want a Somali guy so idk what to tell you, but best of luck sis

Personally speaking though I’m a realist. My family won’t find a guy for me and I rarely come across Somali men in my everyday life. Plus the Somali community is unique in which there’s a lot more marriage material women than men. So it’s a ton of women competing for a few guys. I’m not trying to stay single my entire life so I’ve opened up my dating pool as a result, if he’s Muslim and comes from a Muslim family (no reverts) and checks my boxes I’m okay with that

 

[El Nino]

Have faith in Allah and continue your search. Use all the avenues you can (muz, family, social media etc). You will InshAllah find a good husband.

 

[Abba Sadacha]

Same advice I'd give to my younger sister:

1. Go outside the UK, if you can't find it there. My cousins went all the way back to Ethiopia for their wives, from their homes in America; so, yeah, a good spouse is worth traveling for.
2. Be okay with being the 2nd or 3rd wife of a good Somali brother in your country or locality.
3. Marry outside of your ethnicity, and look for Piety in a brother first and foremost, then wealth, looks, etc.

 

[Taij4an]

Have faith in Allah and continue your search. Use all the avenues you can (muz, family, social media etc). You will InshAllah find a good husband.

she just said she already did all of that

 

[Taij4an]

2. Be okay with being the 2nd or 3rd wife of a good Somali brother in your country or locality.

dont ever do this, its complicated and shes doing out of being deperate not sincere intention, she may not be built for polygyny and she has never been married before so it will be a big shock to her, most brothers looking for polygyny you can't even trust them to know what they are doing properly since they probably didn't grow up in a culture with polygny being common so it will be completely new to them aswell

 

[Taij4an]

I would tell you to expand your dating pool but you only want a Somali guy so idk what to tell you, but best of luck sis

Personally speaking though I’m a realist. My family won’t find a guy for me and I rarely come across Somali men in my everyday life. Plus the Somali community is unique in which there’s a lot more marriage material women than men. So it’s a ton of women competing for a few guys. I’m not trying to stay single my entire life so I’ve opened up my dating pool as a result, if he’s Muslim and comes from a Muslim family (no reverts) and checks my boxes I’m okay with that

if ur not attracted to non-somalis u cant force urself to be attracted to them

 

[Magan95]

How does a practising Somali muslimah in her late 20s go about finding a husband. After she's exhausted all other options such as apps (muzz & purematrimony), social media (twitter mainly) connections (through family and friends) etc.

And there seems to be a lot of Somali sisters (lates 20s) that are having this same issue, there aren't much avenues that connect these sisters to the good Somali brothers that exist here in the Uk. The lack of help from their families and community is astonishing. This idea of Somali women having to search for her own husband is creating problems to these practising sisters that have nobody but their families to rely upon, due to being sheltered their entire life.

What is the solution if you are in this situation? Allah swt says to tie your camel, to do whatever we can

Best way is to heavily socialize and find through friends or family network.

most people find their SO through friends of family or direct friends.

 

[Taij4an]

Ik this sounds obvious but u gotta know someone who knows everyone. Theres always that one person. if you can find them, they can set u up with ppl they know

 

[Juliet]

I've already been approached by a really good catch, to be his 2nd.

I told him I'll consider him when I'm 30 yrs old

Disgusting homewrecker

 

[Taij4an]

Disgusting homewrecker

Whats wrong with you

 

[Taij4an]

The root of the single mother and broken homes epidemic comes from th0ts like her

Wow, every single single mother household I have seen has nothing to do with a second wife.
Please tell me about ur new discovery

 

[Taij4an]

th0ts like her

Being a second wife is a th0t now?
You are an ignorant person

 

[Taij4an]

The root of the single mother and broken homes epidemic comes from home wrecking th0ts like her

I value stable families for Somali children to grow up in, not fatherless qashin

no it comes from men who leave their wives and children.
not men who take second wives

 

[AllStarSaciid]

I've already been approached by a really good catch, to be his 2nd.

I told him I'll consider him when I'm 30 yrs old

Waryaa @Kane what do u understand from this statement?

 

[Sigala]

How does a practising Somali muslimah in her late 20s go about finding a husband. After she's exhausted all other options such as apps (muzz & purematrimony), social media (twitter mainly) connections (through family and friends) etc.

And there seems to be a lot of Somali sisters (lates 20s) that are having this same issue, there aren't much avenues that connect these sisters to the good Somali brothers that exist here in the Uk. The lack of help from their families and community is astonishing. This idea of Somali women having to search for her own husband is creating problems to these practising sisters that have nobody but their families to rely upon, due to being sheltered their entire life.

What is the solution if you are in this situation? Allah swt says to tie your camel, to do whatever we can

Welcome to my world I am also in my 20s and I'm interested in getting to know someone well not now but soon inshallah but also don't know where to search. I was thinking muzmatch as is this the only marriage website the sift through fake accounts, couldn't you find any somali man there? I'm also from the UK but I don't think there's many financialy stable, attractive, religiously committed humble somali man sadly.

 

[kulane]

Don't you have a social media accounts like other females ? Most guys approach females through social media accounts. There are more young somali males than young somali females in the west so you shouldn't have this problem.

 

[tariq moses]

The root of the single mother and broken homes epidemic comes from home wrecking th0ts like her

I value stable families for Somali children to grow up in, not fatherless qashin

Islamically it is okay. Are you a kafir/murtard?

 

[Abba Sadacha]

dont ever do this, its complicated and shes doing out of being deperate not sincere intention, she may not be built for polygyny and she has never been married before so it will be a big shock to her, most brothers looking for polygyny you can't even trust them to know what they are doing properly since they probably didn't grow up in a culture with polygny being common so it will be completely new to them aswell

It's better than being single forever. Not only that, as I said, if he's a good brother, who fears Allah and is aware of the rights of the wife/wives; then everything will be fine inshaaAllaah.
It's either that, or women are going to be living alone, no family, until they leave this dunya.

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Shaykh Saleh Al-Fawzan answers this perfectly.

 

[Juliet]

Islamically it is okay. Are you a kafir/murtard?

Lets be honest - men in this day and age aren't doing it to follow the sunnah