What's so special about having a significant other?

[empressjamila]

Who sed I cant pretend to be affectionate?
I dont think u understand the level of my deception

Women are more intuitive than you think and can pick up on phony energy and actions

 

[Amk]

Women are more intuitive that you think and can pick up on phony energy and feelings

No they cannot. Trust me ive done it b4, im too good at it, if u met me in real life u would think im the opposite person.

 

[Nak-Muay-Kru]

No shade but I would never wanna marry a nigga like some of y’all that think love is meaningless and I don’t think most women would

I want a super affectionate and loving guy. Seems to be kind of rare among Somali men tho…

Some men just express love differently. He might not be a fag who's constantly gushing over you but if he waking up at 4:30am everyday to put food on the table and roof over your head, then surely that's an expression of love too?

She aint worth saving most of the time. She dumb and spoilt princess, only thing she got is looks, the bruddas wasting his time on a women who wont give him anything

I thought you were just a sociopath at first but you need to get some therapy ASAP sxb

 

[Kool-Aid]

Have you experienced it before? Because trust me, you'd be singing a different tune if you had.
That's fine sxb, it's not be your thing, but I wouldn't be so quick to dismiss it. Actual wars have been fought over love lol

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Damn bro i would never risk my life or freedom for anybody! The funny thing is if you died battling that individual she would have moved on the day after your funeral!

 

[Amk]

Some men just express love differently. He might not be a fag who's constantly gushing over you but if he's waking up at 4:30am every day to put food on the table and roof over your head, then surely that's also an expression of love?

Usually its cos of culture and just living life. Its just a habit for ppl to do, not neccescirly love

 

[empressjamila]

No they cannot. Trust me ive done it b4, im too good at it, if u met me in real life u would think im the opposite person.

I doubt it. I can see through people’s masks quite easily. There’s been times where I met people who say and do the right things but something bout it is “off” and it makes me want to stay away from them

 

[Amk]

Some men just express love differently. He might not be a fag who's constantly gushing over you but if he waking up at 4:30am everyday to put food on the table and roof over your head, then surely that's an expression of love too?


I thought you were just a sociopath at first but you need to get some therapy ASAP sxb

nah most man r just too stupid.
Uno how many men went to jahannam just cos they got pu**y whipped

 

[Amk]

I doubt it. I can see through people’s masks quite easily. There’s been times where I met people who say and do the right things but something bout it is “off” and it makes me want to stay away from them

Yh im not that person, im a very different kind of person, I even decieve myself sometimes, I kind of have to anyway otherwise ill go insane

 

[anonimo]

Some men just express love differently. He might not be a fag who's constantly gushing over you but if he waking up at 4:30am everyday to put food on the table and roof over your head, then surely that's an expression of love too?

@empressjamila

Nigga is spot on, reminded me of your dad in that thread of yours. Altruistic sacrifice is an expression of love!

 

[Zahra]

Being in love, and I mean deeply, is akin to being on MDMA wallahi. I understand why guys turn into muggy fags who humiliate themselves. But it's a double edge-sword. Emotionally speaking, you're at your strongest whilst simultaneously being at your weakest. It's a fate worse than death if you get tangled up with the wrong person lol

Love comes with pain most times. Love is something everyone desires but few actually experience. True love, unconditional love, is hard to find.

 

[Angelina]

In this thread, your last sentence is proved wrong huuno. A lot of the guys are dishing out the truth but have acknowledged a capability to love, except AMK.

Love is real but not when it is mixed up with lust.

Isn't most romantic love mixed up with lust? Even if you truly love them, shouldn't there be an element of attraction?

 

[Nak-Muay-Kru]

Damn bro i would never risk my life or freedom for anybody! The funny thing is if you died battling that individual she would have moved on the day after your funeral!

You don't really think about the consequences when you're a love struck 16yr old lol. But I wouldn't defend a woman's honor and take things to the extreme unless she was my wife or a blood relative at this age.

Love comes with pain most times. Love is something everyone desires but few actually experience. True love, unconditional love, is hard to find.

Calling true unconditional romantic love "rare" would be an understatement wallahi. That shit's almost mythical lol. I don't think most millennials/zoomers, myself included, are capable of letting themselves be vulnerable enough to even experience it.

nah most man r just too stupid.
Uno how many men went to jahannam just cos they got pu**y whipped

Being "pussy whipped" doesn't = jahannam, but it's definitely a hell of a different kind lol
I get the feeling that the internet and modern dating has skewed your perception a little sxb.

 

[Angelina]

Some men just express love differently. He might not be a fag who's constantly gushing over you but if he waking up at 4:30am everyday to put food on the table and roof over your head, then surely that's an expression of love too?


I thought you were just a sociopath at first but you need to get some therapy ASAP sxb

True, some men and women display their love differently, but in a healthy relationship both husband and wife need to take into account each other's love language. Doesn't kill to make an effort, even if it does feel 'faggy'.

 

[Amk]

You don't really think about the consequences when you're a love struck 16yr old lol. But I wouldn't defend a woman's honor and take things to the extreme unless she was my wife or a blood relative at this age.


Calling true unconditional romantic love "rare" would be an understatement wallahi. That shit's almost mythical lol

Being "pussy whipped" doesn't = jahannam, but it's definitely a hell of a different kind lol
I get the feeling that the internet and modern dating has skewed your perception a little sxb.

U cant be in-love with ur wife after the first year tbh. Being in-love is like 0.001% amognst married ppl. Most are just in marriage for convenience,, love might be an after effect of that but not the main reason they stay.
Most ppl who r in-love happen in haram.
Ive never heard men in my entire life say anything positive about married life

 

[anonimo]

Isn't most romantic love mixed up with lust? Even if you truly love them, shouldn't there be an element of attraction?

Indeed they should be, it is human after all, but the Love that stands the test of time has to be built on a more solid foundation. I alluded to it in my first post.

However, some people bond on a deeper level. Things like shared passions, world views, values and compatible personalities etc. That being said, if you land yourself an individual who is intrinsically altruistic, you have also struck gold. Most people are not lucky enough to find such companionship hence why marriage can become a chore for many after kacsi fades.

But how are you going to get know someone that well in Halal Shukansi scenario? The truth is that few of us will meet a 'soul mate'. However, you can grow to love someone if they are altruistic etc. Finding a perfect match is not a necessity nor is it the reality for most.

 

[Angelina]

Indeed they should be, it is human after all, but the Love that stands the test of time has to be built on a more solid foundation. I alluded to it in my first post.



But how are you going to get know someone that well in Halal Shukansi scenario? The truth is that few of us will meet a 'soul mate'. However, you can grow to love someone if they are altruistic etc. Finding a perfect match is not a necessity nor is it the reality for most.

Well, you can tell if you have chemistry with someone within a few minutes. With regards to actually finding out if they have the qualities you need to 'fall in love', you just have to get to know their character and then make lots of dua that what they tell you is actually well true to who they are. It really is Russian roulette. But ultimately, love is kinda of a choice. If you have chemistry, lots in common, and you like their personality, hopefully falling in love should be easy. The hard part is staying in love.

 

[TekNiKo]

True, some men and women display their love differently, but in a healthy relationship both husband and wife need to take into account each other's love language. Doesn't kill to make an effort, even if it does feel 'faggy'.

This generation despises love, they all dont want to be “used” and wont give others a chance. Sure your heart may break but if you keep those walls and guards up you will grow up old and bitter with regret. Men feel love too but society has brainwashed them into thinking expressing it makes you a “simp”. I blame rap music.

 

[Angelina]

U cant be in-love with ur wife after the first year tbh. Being in-love is like 0.001% amognst married ppl. Most are just in marriage for convenience,, love might be an after effect of that but not the main reason they stay.
Most ppl who r in-love happen in haram.
Ive never heard men in my entire life say anything positive about married life

Nah, i've seen my fair share of in love couples. Many have enough sense to keep it to themselves. Evil eye is real.

 

[The alchemist]

Love is a messy business. Most of us need to work on ourselves.

 

[Zahra]

You don't really think about the consequences when you're a love struck 16yr old lol. But I wouldn't defend a woman's honor and take things to the extreme unless she was my wife or a blood relative at this age.


Calling true unconditional romantic love "rare" would be an understatement wallahi. That shit's almost mythical lol. I don't think most millennials/zoomers, myself included, are capable of letting themselves be vulnerable enough to even experience it.

Being "pussy whipped" doesn't = jahannam, but it's definitely a hell of a different kind lol
I get the feeling that the internet and modern dating has skewed your perception a little sxb.

Vulnerability only happens when you feel a sense of security, comfort and trust in another person. Most people struggle to open themselves up to another because of their fear of being judged. Also many people shut others out because they don't want to experience heartbreak or pain. You can't live in fear, just be yourself and whoever is accepting of you then great, they will naturally fall in love with you or take a liking to you, if not it's okay.