What's so special about having a significant other?

[Angelina]

This generation despises love, they all dont want to be “used” and wont give others a chance. Sure your heart may break but if you keep those walls and guards up you will grow up old and bitter with regret. Men feel love too but society has brainwashed them into thinking expressing it makes you a “simp”. I blame rap music.

Funnily enough its Western Faraxs and their fragile masculinity that labels people 'whipped' and 'simps'. Faraxs back home and in the Khaleej are pretty confident and don't mind pulling all the stops.

 

[Amk]

Nah, i've seen my fair share of in love couples. Many have enough sense to keep it to themselves. Evil eye is real.

Its not gonna last long or they r lying

 

[Nak-Muay-Kru]

True, some men and women display their love differently, but in a healthy relationship both husband and wife need to take into account each other's love language. Doesn't kill to make an effort, even if it does feel 'faggy'.

I'm all for faggy, lovey-dovey behaviour if you're married lol. In fact, it's the only time that it's acceptable for a man to be like that. The "love languages" shit is like astrology credibility wise though, but I fully buy into it wallahi. Acts of service all the way

U cant be in-love with ur wife after the first year tbh. Being in-love is like 0.001% amognst married ppl. Most are just in marriage for convenience,, love might be an after effect of that but not the main reason they stay.
Most ppl who r in-love happen in haram.
Ive never heard men in my entire life say anything positive about married life

You bugging the f*ck out sxb, 12months isn't long enough for most couples to fall out of love.
I hope you're a twice divorced middle aged man wallahi, because it's insane to be this jaded as a young guy lol

 

[Amk]

I'm all for faggy, lovey-dovey behaviour if you're married lol. In fact, it's the only time that it's acceptable for a man to be like that. The "love languages" shit is like astrology credibility wise, but I fully buy in it wallahi. Acts of service all the way


You bugging the f*ck out abti, 12months isn't even long enough for most couples to fall out of love. I hope you're a twice divorced middle aged man wallahi, because it's insane to be this jaded as a young guy lol

Ive seen nuff ppl get divorced after a couple months/years, Its very common nowaday, theres a reason so many ppl dont want to get married anymore/not even have kids. Especially amognst somalis.

 

[TekNiKo]

Funnily enough its Western Faraxs and their fragile masculinity that labels people 'whipped' and 'simps'. Faraxs back home and in the Khaleej are pretty confident and don't mind pulling all the stops.

Your right I think all those years back home changed me, heheehe Somali songs are so romantic

 

[Amk]

I'm all for faggy, lovey-dovey behaviour if you're married lol. In fact, it's the only time that it's acceptable for a man to be like that. The "love languages" shit is like astrology credibility wise though, but I fully buy into it wallahi. Acts of service all the way


You bugging the f*ck out sxb, 12months isn't long enough for most couples to fall out of love.
I hope you're a twice divorced middle aged man wallahi, because it's insane to be this jaded as a young guy lol

Anyway attaching ur to anything is just a waste of my mental energy anyway, even if i made effort to attach to anything which isnt even possible it would end up biting me in the a**.
I have enough problems as it is without caring about other ppl, i find it to be more peaceful to just concentrate on one thing anyway. Any distractions like lust or stuff like that seems like torture.
And no im still a teenager

 

[Kool-Aid]

Ive seen nuff ppl get divorced after a couple months/years, Its very common nowaday, theres a reason so many ppl dont want to get married anymore/not even have kids. Especially amognst somalis.

Marriage and having kids are burdens. Leads to financial problems and loss of freedom. People are starting to see that.

 

[Angelina]

I'm all for faggy, lovey-dovey behaviour if you're married lol. In fact, it's the only time that it's acceptable for a man to be like that. The "love languages" shit is like astrology credibility wise though, but I fully buy into it wallahi. Acts of service all the way


You bugging the f*ck out sxb, 12months isn't long enough for most couples to fall out of love.
I hope you're a twice divorced middle aged man wallahi, because it's insane to be this jaded as a young guy lol

Lol, the whole love language theory makes logical sense. Some women like words of endearment and gifts. If that is what she likes and that is how she feels loved then if you care, you'd do it. Likewise if you know your husband likes effection and loves it when you make him his favorite meal, then if you care to make your marriage work and make him feel loved, you'd do it.

Problem is, one partner is selfish and wants the most benefit with least amount of work or, they're both like that.

 

[Amk]

Marriage and having kids are burden. Leads to financial problems and loss of freedom. People are starting to see that.

Marriage and kids have always been a burden. life is a burden. the problem is now ppl have too many other options. In reality life will always have problems, im not gonna get attached to something thats gonna betray me anyways

 

[anonimo]

Well, you can tell if you have chemistry with someone within a few minutes. With regards to actually finding out if they have the qualities you need to 'fall in love', you just have to get to know their character and then make lots of dua that what they tell you is actually well true to who they are. It really is Russian roulette. But ultimately, love is kinda of a choice. If you have chemistry, lots in common, and you like their personality, hopefully falling in love should be easy. The hard part is staying in love.

I think it is a more of a case of it evolving with time. Kids, tough times, loss of lust, general Wiswas will test the bonds of love that a couple think they have. The love that an older couple will have for each other will not be the same as the love they have for each other when the relationship begins. Love opens the door to marriage but something deeper keeps the bond between two together, overcoming the test that is the Dunya together being the main thing in my opinion.

Carly Simon described it well in this song, forgive me for making you sin folks with my cheesy dedications.

 

[Kool-Aid]

In reality life will always have problems.

True, but marriage and having kids seem to bring on massive problems compared to just being single.

 

[Nak-Muay-Kru]

Ive seen nuff ppl get divorced after a couple months/years, Its very common nowaday, theres a reason so many ppl dont want to get married anymore/not even have kids. Especially amognst somalis.

So have I, but you can't base your life around other people's fuckups. Let's be honest, the younger Somalis who get married are just after a halal nut. They're not mature enough to be entering into these relationships in the first place, nor is really marriage seen as scared in the West anymore.

Like it or not sxb, you will have to get married at some point if you want halal children. But if that's not a priority for you then just live your life as you see fit I guess

Lol, the whole love language theory makes logical sense. Some women like words of endearment and gifts. If that is what she likes and that is how she feels loved then if you care, you'd do it. Likewise if you know your husband likes effection and loves it when you make him his favorite meal, then if you care to make your marriage work and make him feel loved, you'd do it.

Problem is, one partner is selfish and wants the most benefit with least amount of work or, they're both like that.

That's kind of jaded way to look at things lol, but I agree with the rest it. I personally loathe getting gifts, but if the person I'm with values that, then I'll put forward the effort. It all boils down to compromise and a willingness to put the other person's needs first sometimes.

 

[Amk]

Like it or not sxb, you will have to get married at some point if you want halal children

I never sed i wouldnt. if uve seen my previous reply i clearly mentioned I am going to get married Inshaallah and have alot of kids cos its sunnah, not bc im going to enjoy it

 

[Amk]

True, but marriage and having kids seem to bring on massive problems compared to just being single.

Yh but at the same time its sunnah and ur wife and kids will get u akhirah reward so u kinda have to

 

[Nak-Muay-Kru]

Vulnerability only happens when you feel a sense of security, comfort and trust in another person. Most people struggle to open themselves up to another because of their fear of being judged. Also many people shut others out because they don't want to experience heartbreak or pain. You can't live in fear, just be yourself and whoever is accepting of you then great, they will naturally fall in love with you or take a liking to you, if not it's okay.

Sorry to branch off but this is exactly why Allah Swt made premarital sex/zina/relationships haram wallahi. Every successive relationship makes you a little more emotionally unavalible, it chips away at you until you're heart's hard as a rock and you're too jaded to even consider letting someone in. Couple that with social media and the fact that people from my generation think "there's always something better around the corner, never settle" and it's a wrap for love lol

I never sed i wouldnt. if uve seen my previous reply i clearly mentioned I am going to get married Inshaallah and have alot of kids cos its sunnah, not bc im going to enjoy it

I get the feeling that soon as you settle down with a decent girl you'll be simping harder than anyone on this forum. Sending your wife little poems and love sonnets on your lunch break lol

 

[The alchemist]

Sorry to branch off but this is exactly why Allah Swt made premarital sex/zina/relationships haram wallahi. Every successive relationship makes you a little more emotionally unavalible, it chips away at you until you're heart's hard as a rock and you're too jaded to even consider letting someone in. Couple that with social media and the fact that people my generation think "there's always a better thing around the corner, never settle" and it's a wrap for love lol


I get the feeling that soon as you settle down with a decent girl you'll be simping harder than anyone on this forum. Sending your wife little poems and love sonnets on your lunch break lol

Amk is on that internet wihiteboy edgelord shit. I'm a psycho, kulaha.

 

[Amk]

Sorry to branch off but this is exactly why Allah Swt made premarital sex/zina/relationships haram wallahi. Every successive relationship makes you a little more emotionally unavalible, it chips away at you until you're heart's hard as a rock and you're too jaded to even consider letting someone in. Couple that with social media and the fact that people from my generation think "there's always something better around the corner, never settle" and it's a wrap for love lol


I get the feeling that soon as you settle down with a decent girl you'll be simping harder than anyone on this forum. Sending your wife little poems and love sonnets on your lunch break lol

Yh i would never do that gay ass stuff

 

[Nak-Muay-Kru]

Amk is on that internet wihiteboy edgelord shit. I'm a psycho, kulaha.

I just think he hasn't really experienced love yet, not that he's incapable of it. But I'd bet my entire crypto portfolio that it'll hit him like a fucking tsunami at some point lol.

 

[AbrahamFreedom]

Interesting read but very shocking. Even I am deeply in love my beard wife, as she is too

 

[Amk]

Interesting read but very shocking. Even I am deeply in love my beard wife, as she is too

You cant romantically love a woman or even be attracted to her. So ur acc worse than me