I'm sorry? Did you even read what I wrote? It's barely physical, hitting with a miswak. Emotional bullying? You mean refraining from sex? You can twist it however you like, but it is what it is. If someone does it mentally, he did it. He wasn't told to do it Islam wise so I really don't get your point here. If they do it out of rage and anger and beat the wife, it's on them. Don't act like they're told to do that in Islam, you can't do damaging physical blows. Then again, people arguing against Islam try to spin something into something severe. That's clearly not the case here.Burhan
This is settled, darb means hit and your very Muslim scholars explained it in those videos.
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No one beats anyone for fun and friendly sake, it is by people who are angry and couldn't control their anger and thereby resort to beating those who are physically weaker than them. Let's use here our logic and point out that during that moment of rage and anger, the husband would yell and scream profanities to intimidate the wife to accept his orders and when that fails, he will resort to physical violence. Just prior to the physical violence, that is when the bully and the violent husband uses mental violence towards his spouse. Regardless of how you dissect and spin, it is a physical and mental abuse and every decent human-being should be intolerant towards all kinds of domestic abuse. If it was legal in the 7th Century, it should be shunned today.