To the guys here, how do you stop your woman from complaining?

[Basra]

Were you angry at my vulgar wording or having a second wife? Second question, did you tell me to lose weight as a psychological projection of your own weight insecurity.
Answer honestly, my basra, my basta, the nutrition of my bum.

 

[B-is-the-code]

Kkkk basra is weird...she gonna show you ur profile pic with no comment...bal adigu wax ka dheh

 

[AhmedSmelly]

you never fail to disappoint me. The gem of somalispot. I hope the best for you in this life and the hereafter.

 

[Basra]

Kkkk basra is weird...she gonna show you ur profile pic with no comment...bal adigu wax ka dheh

I know. I am very weird. Its part of my charm. I am like the female Trump. People get triggered Or look me like zoo eyes-- u know-- when u go to the zoo and see how animals behave ?

 

[Basra]

you never fail to disappoint me. The gem of somalispot. I hope the best for you in this life and the hereafter.

Awwwwwwwwwwwwwww sweeeet! Thank u huuno! u as well!

 

[Inquisitive_]

Oh I haven’t had much sleep last night and the baby has been awake all night,

I am like I haven’t slept either and I am about to a 10 hour shift. But it is what it is. When I tell her that look for the positive things and have good attitude, waba walanaysa. What in the world?

Based on the simple example you cited you are the wrongdoer, because you didn't read between the lines.

She was looking for empathy in that statement and instead of giving it to her you decided to minimise and create an argument were there was none.

Back home her mother, aunt and several relatives help her out so she can get good sleep and rest, but in the individualistic west they are alone despite being inherently weaker then those back home due to environment and upbringing.

Your expecting to much from her, if your unable to give her the weekends to recuperate, de-stress and rest, then find another solution to give her a break every weekend or help midweek, you need family to help out.

If this is the kind of incessant complaints your referring to then I hate to say it but @VixR is right, disregard my previous post as it will only make things worse for you, because your problems are different and of your own making.

Don't expect a 21st century pampered diaspora female to have the same strong spirit and fortitude as you, there is a reason you are made stronger in every facet because your allowed 4.

 

[Céleste]

Dont listen to the ones who are telling you to marry another woman or to abuse her physically. They dont even know what they're talking about. If she is complaining about every little thing, how the heck will getting another wife help this? It will only result in a broken relationship sxb.

If she is a housewife, she probably cleans, cooks, takes care of the kids and does the laundry. That itself is enough to tire anyone out. Marriage is about sacrifice. When one of the two is tired, the other one should sacrifice their time to do their partner's job.

She could also have some health problems which is why she is complaining about everything. Iron/vitamin deficiency causes fatigue. It's something a lot of ladies suffer from. I'm also surprised how nobody bought up postnatal depression. It's a serious issue.

Here is a link for more info:
https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/post-natal-depression/symptoms/

My advice would be sit down and have a serious talk with her. Ask about her feelings and what are things that are causing her to feel this.

I wish you all the best bro.

 

[CaliTedesse]

@CaliTedesse Learn from this guy. Doqon yohow. This is the definition of real man with life/women experience...not you arab/caribbian wanna be

Is everything alright ?

 

[B-is-the-code]

Is everything alright ?

No, You don't kick someone while they are down, because they've already been hurt. Hurting them again, when they have not risen to challenge you, is disrespectful. It is an attack on a person's dignity. A REAL MAN DONT DO THAT

 

[AhmedSmelly]

Dont listen to the ones who are telling you to marry another woman or to abuse her physically. They dont even know what they're talking about. If she is complaining about every little thing, how the heck will getting another wife help this? It will only result in a broken relationship sxb.

If she is a housewife, she probably cleans, cooks, takes care of the kids and does the laundry. That itself is enough to tire anyone out. Marriage is about sacrifice. When one of the two is tired, the other one should sacrifice their time to do their partner's job.

She could also have some health problems which is why she is complaining about everything. Iron/vitamin deficiency causes fatigue. It's something a lot of ladies suffer from. I'm also surprised how nobody bought up postnatal depression. It's a serious issue.

Here is a link for more info:
https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/post-natal-depression/symptoms/

My advice would be sit down and have a serious talk with her. Ask about her feelings and what are thing that are causing her to feel this.

You know I dislike Somali trolls, but I really really hate Somalis who help other Somalis without being in the Same Qabil.

Trolling aside. Unfortunately, I can see through your evil manipulations. Trying to seduce @Dino with kindness and helpful words. Somalis are not known for that. You have ulterior motives, you want him as your husband. Giving him a source to back up your claims, just to be more close to him. Telling him not to search for a second wife, so he can see you as an option.

my analyzing skills are on point. Manshallah

 

[CaliTedesse]

No, You don't kick someone while they are down, because they've already been hurt. Hurting them again, when they have not risen to challenge you, is disrespectful. It is an attack on a person's dignity. A REAL MAN DONT DO THAT

Yes that is not how I move. I never kick anyone when they are down. So what are you talking about akhi?

 

[B-is-the-code]

Based on the simple example you cited you are the wrongdoer, because you didn't read between the lines.

She was looking for empathy in that statement and instead of giving it to her you decided to minimise and create an argument were there was none.

Back home her mother, aunt and several relatives help her out so she can get good sleep and rest, but in the individualistic west they are alone despite being inherently weaker then those back home due to environment and upbringing.

Your expecting to much from her, if your unable to give her the weekends to recuperate, de-stress and rest, then find another solution to give her a break every weekend or help midweek, you need family to help out.

If this is the kind of incessant complaints your referring to then I hate to say it but @VixR is right, disregard my previous post as it will only make things worse for you, because your problems are different and of your own making.

Don't expect a 21st century pampered diaspora female to have the same strong spirit and fortitude as you, there is a reason you are made stronger in every facet because your allowed 4.

Thnx for the wise words sxb you put in words everyhink i was thinking. Being a mom in the west is very hard, i think she just need to rest. Ee please help her before its too late and she goes into depression and mental breakdown.
Maybe you should take few sick days from work and be house daddy, take care of the baby, make food or buy ready meals...let her rest a few days and see, change strategies. At the end of the day, you dont want your bby suffer from exhausted and tired mommy. Remember this HappyWifeHappyLife

 

[Saredo]

Based on the simple example you cited you are the wrongdoer, because you didn't read between the lines.

She was looking for empathy in that statement and instead of giving it to her you decided to minimise and create an argument were there was none.

Back home her mother, aunt and several relatives help her out so she can get good sleep and rest, but in the individualistic west they are alone despite being inherently weaker then those back home due to environment and upbringing.

Your expecting to much from her, if your unable to give her the weekends to recuperate, de-stress and rest, then find another solution to give her a break every weekend or help midweek, you need family to help out.

If this is the kind of incessant complaints your referring to then I hate to say it but @VixR is right, disregard my previous post as it will only make things worse for you, because your problems are different and of your own making.

Don't expect a 21st century pampered diaspora female to have the same strong spirit and fortitude as you, there is a reason you are made stronger in every facet because your allowed 4.

You are right to talk about community. I can’t remember which cheikh gave a speech about the power of community and how before women were never alone so they always had someone to help them out but in the west they are alone. Socializing when you have a baby is hard. men go to work and meet people. But back home you have your community. Also warya @Inquisitive_ We are not weak but pregnancy can change the hormonal balance that’s why I suggested portpartum depression. Your comment was spot on except for the last part.

 

[CaliTedesse]

So I see the problem is him not hitting the right spots and the cunug. Because if he hit the right spots she would let more things slide.

 

[CaliTedesse]

Narrated 'Abdullah bin 'Amr:

The Prophet (ﷺ) said, "Whoever has the following four (characteristics) will be a pure hypocrite and whoever has one of the following four characteristics will have one characteristic of hypocrisy unless and until he gives it up.

1. Whenever he is entrusted, he betrays.

2. Whenever he speaks, he tells a lie.

3. Whenever he makes a covenant, he proves treacherous.

4. Whenever he quarrels, he behaves in a very imprudent, evil and insulting manner."

https://sunnah.com/bukhari/2/27

Abu Hurairah (May Allah be pleased with him) said:
The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said, "Two matters are signs of disbelief on the part of those who indulge in them: Defaming and speaking evil of a person's lineage, and wailing over the dead."

[Muslim].

https://sunnah.com/riyadussaliheen/18/68

You only use Islam when it favours you I know your type the dirty ex-con revert.

 

[B-is-the-code]

good sex akhi, you are not hitting the right spots

Trust me guys this brother is not hitting it right in the bed trying to act like naago and give his wife emotional support by talking and being subservient like naag yaa weld be a real man and hit her spots good in bed stop being so f*cking jileec.

I did notice one connection Somali men spoiled and treated like a baby by their mothers feel like a relationship or a female is only there to fulfill his needs and then they cry and wonder why these women go to real jareeer ni99as.

Wallahi have feeling and my feelings are most of time right. Waa skinny jileec big booty bashir. He aint hitting her spots rights , after 5 seconds hes done, goes to sleep. Thats why shes complaining everytime HAHAHAHA

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talking like you knw his bedroom game?
Are you a low key gay, the arab shit namean

 

[CaliTedesse]

Thnx for the wise words sxb you put in words everyhink i was thinking. Being a mom in the west is very hard, i think she just need to rest. Ee please help her before its too late and she goes into depression and mental breakdown.
Maybe you should take few sick days from work and be house daddy, take care of the baby, make food or buy ready meals...let her rest a few days and see, change strategies. At the end of the day, you dont want your bby suffer from exhausted and tired mommy. Remember this HappyWifeHappyLife

This is what I mean with Jileec.

 

[B-is-the-code]

This is what I mean with Jileec.

Im jileec and strong at the same time...you wanna try me?

 

[CaliTedesse]

Im jileec and strong at the same time...you wanna try me?

Jileec and strong? You watch too much Bollywood fam

 

[B-is-the-code]

Jileec and strong? You watch too much Bollywood fam

Bye Felicia