The rise of the unmarried late 20s - early 30s Somali diaspora woman

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A woman can still choose to be single even if she has a lot of suitors. I don’t think a Somali girl has to wait around for a good Somali guy in her city too, she can move somewhere else and find someone. There is no shame in that. If a Somali girl married a Bosnian guy she most likely didn’t want to wait and chance it to find a good Somali guy. Some girls want to have children right away too. I don’t think you should be hasty with marriage because that’s how plenty end up divorced after a year.
What are the odds you'll find all the qualities you are looking for in one Bosnian guy but not in all the somali guys u have come acrossed? explain that one bal. ma sixir baa? It doesn't make sense to me. We are not talking about choosing to wait because if they chose to wait, they wouldn't have a problem being unmarried at 30 because they chose so. That's another topic on its own.

somali girls who marry out want to marry out, which is fine, but the problem lies in us being the reason why they married out when they diss us in the process. we ain't taking that BS anymore.
 
Honestly, here in Toronto, the hook up is simple as fk. If you're a decent Farax, and there's a decent Xalimo and you're of age, families will talk, and shit will happen. A lot people in the Somali community have a problem where they are born with Western views on marriage, and that it goes against the grain of Somali culture. Like simply getting married cause you're in love only. Love is important, but so is cultural unity. Unity of the families. Etc.

My recommendation is simple: don't overcomplicate marriage. It's a simple ass thing. You like a Xalimo, talk to her. Hang out with her. Get to know her. Then pitch the idea of marriage. If she's mature and ready, then talk to her family and make it happen. That's it.

The UK is a mess sxb such things are non existent here, no sense of unity, nothing.
 

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What's going on, I'm hearing of girls who can't find a good Somali guy in the west. The ones left with no options a lot of the times are being arranged with qarabo or someone there families know in Africa/Asia and sometimes in other parts of Europe.

These girls are good girls on the deen, with degrees and are working professional jobs but for whatever reason they just couldn't find a good guy here.


This isn't one case or 2, I know atleast a dozen similar cases. There are some nearing 30s and haven't even found a guy yet.


what do you think is the reason for this?


Well the available farahs are in druggies, pimps, in jail, deported, or asexual.
 

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What are the odds you'll find all the qualities you are looking for in one Bosnian guy but not in all the somali guys u have come acrossed? explain that one bal. ma sixir baa? It doesn't make sense to me. We are not talking about choosing to wait because if they chose to wait, they wouldn't have a problem being unmarried at 30 because they chose so. That's another topic on its own.

somali girls who marry out want to marry out, which is fine, but the problem lies in us being the reason why they married out when they diss us in the process. we ain't taking that BS anymore.
They found a good guy from another culture, they could find a good Somali guy but don’t want to wait to find one and just want to marry a Muslim guy right away. Aren’t we all Muslim anyway? That should matter most, as long as there is no self hatred which Somalis exaggerate like most things.
 

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Not true retard 68 iq Xalimos slander their men constantly for no reason at all. Time to look overseas and leave em in the dust


Because Xalimo earn more money than them., slander is qasaab
 

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Virgin+HS= 100% guaranteed marriage.

Non virgin+Degree=50% 4 Somali,100% 4 ajnabi.

Non Virgin+$=75% 4 Somali,100% 4 Ajnabi.


Non Virgin-education-$-beauty= Madow marraige material.:dabcasar:
 
Maybe because there isn't a way for good Somali girls and guys to meet and get to know each other (i.e. like a networking/social event). So you have a group of good, decent and hard-working Somali girls who have yet to find someone, not because there isn't anyone, but because its hard to meet them. I mean, if you are a religious and shy/modest girl, you are not going to go up and introduce yourself to the guy that you are interested in.

This is a phenomenon that I have been noticing as well. I know tons of ajanabi girls getting married young, but the same cannot be said for Somali girls. TBH, it is quite alarming.

Yea our culture expects the girl to find her own suitor. It doesn't always work out for the decent shy girl who's studying in school and goes to work.

Honestly, here in Toronto, the hook up is simple as fk. If you're a decent Farax, and there's a decent Xalimo and you're of age, families will talk, and shit will happen. A lot people in the Somali community have a problem where they are born with Western views on marriage, and that it goes against the grain of Somali culture. Like simply getting married cause you're in love only. Love is important, but so is cultural unity. Unity of the families. Etc.

My recommendation is simple: don't overcomplicate marriage. It's a simple ass thing. You like a Xalimo, talk to her. Hang out with her. Get to know her. Then pitch the idea of marriage. If she's mature and ready, then talk to her family and make it happen. That's it.
Yea a lot of faraxs think marriage is too hard.
My boy was studying, working, and lived on his own and was halal dating a somali girl who was ready for marriage. But he wasn't because he felt he didnt have the finances even though the girl said she was willing to work as well for the coming years and she wasn't asking much mehr or aroos.
Unfortunately, she couldn't wait for him and after some months said she was disinterested.
 

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Yea our culture expects the girl to find her own suitor. It doesn't always work out for the decent shy girl who's studying in school and goes to work.


Yea a lot of faraxs think marriage is too hard.
My boy was studying, working, and lived on his own and was halal dating a somali girl who was ready for marriage. But he wasn't because he felt he didnt have the finances even though the girl said she was willing to work as well for the coming years and she wasn't asking much mehr or aroos.
Unfortunately, she couldn't wait for him and after some months said she was disinterested.
That's dumb. If you both can get a down payment for a mortgage. And you're both working in stable industries. You can support each other and start a family. Most of our parents started a family with less. We all turned out fine. Kind of dumb if you ask me.
 
I know cases of educated, religious and beautiful somali girls marrying guys who haven't gone to post-grad, and/or are working dead-end jobs.

So, my advice for Somali girls who would like to get married is to be proactive. Go out to events and be seen. At least then maybe if you have your name and face out there, your chances of scoring a decent Somali guy goes up. Not only that, but make sure you look good. I'm not that old, but I remember back in the day how hijabs/abaya styles were not that appealing. Now with the expansion of modest clothing, you can still look beautiful and be modest.

In addition, I would encourage Somali girls to be more physically active, because yes although we wear modest clothing, at the end of the day, it is quite obvious whether someone is overweight/obese or slim.
 
That's dumb. If you both can get a down payment for a mortgage. And you're both working in stable industries. You can support each other and start a family. Most of our parents started a family with less. We all turned out fine. Kind of dumb if you ask me.
Nah the guy was in university, and also was working part time on minimum wage.
She was willing to work until he finished his degree which was going to be in 3 years.
He already lives alone and cooks for himself.
 
A 20% down-payment for a home in Toronto is well over six figures. :kendrickcry:

My dream of being a home-owner here is slowly dwindling away. :meleshame:
Why live in crowded, dirty Toronto with hour long traffic jams. There are many nice small cities with affordable housing in Ontario.
 

YourBroMoe

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A 20% down-payment for a home in Toronto is well over six figures. :kendrickcry:

My dream of being a home-owner here is slowly dwindling away. :meleshame:
Once I make enough money and gain enough experience, I'm moving to a cheaper city. No sense wasting a lot of money in Toronto. I'd get it if I wanted to live the bachelor life and get a pad. But for marriage and raising a family, you can afford to be more pragmatic. Toronto is a great place for making money. Hence why I'm sticking around.
 

YourBroMoe

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Aboowe, I don't want to live in places like Vaughn, Brampton or Sauga (which by the way, are no longer affordable). Don't even get me started on places like Kitchener or Milton, which are so far away from everything.
Not that I'm trying to convince you or anything, but what will you miss in Toronto? If you're a super social person, I can get it. I don't go out a lot, so I honestly wouldn't miss much. I also like to party in small dosages, so high end vacations 2-3 times a year seem more sensible for me.
 

YourBroMoe

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Nah the guy was in university, and also was working part time on minimum wage.
She was willing to work until he finished his degree which was going to be in 3 years.
He already lives alone and cooks for himself.
Then he did the right thing.
 

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You're in the minority group. You have a phd, so we know what u were doing in ur 20s otherwise I'd have tagged u. :trumpsmirk:

You're credentializing me a little too much and suddenly I have an extra degree. In any case, I don't see why you brothers find this phenomenon so worrying. :manny:
 

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Its a long story actually. :mjohreally:

And no, I'm more of an introvert, albeit a "social introvert" where I like going out sometimes, but I moreso enjoy my solitude.

But I like how diverse Toronto is. One thing that I especially like is, especially in the west-end, is how its pretty much impossible to miss salah when you are outside. There are so many masjids in close proximity. You just don't see that anywhere else.
I fks with that answer. I respect it.
 
I know cases of educated, religious and beautiful somali girls marrying guys who haven't gone to post-grad, and/or are working dead-end jobs.

So, my advice for Somali girls who would like to get married is to be proactive. Go out to events and be seen. At least then maybe if you have your name and face out there, your chances of scoring a decent Somali guy goes up. Not only that, but make sure you look good. I'm not that old, but I remember back in the day how hijabs/abaya styles were not that appealing. Now with the expansion of modest clothing, you can still look beautiful and be modest.

In addition, I would encourage Somali girls to be more physically active, because yes although we wear modest clothing, at the end of the day, it is quite obvious whether someone is overweight/obese or slim.

I've heard of this too. It seems that they have to settle for less in a lot of cases if they want to marry. Money isn't everything, but having a stable decently paying job is really important to have for guys.

The decent Somali girls to Somali guy ratio is like 3:1.
Somali guys have been affected by their bad neighborhood environment more than the girls
btw are you married?
 
Its a long story actually. :mjohreally:

And no, I'm more of an introvert, albeit a "social introvert" where I like going out sometimes, but I moreso enjoy my solitude.

But I like how diverse Toronto is. One thing that I especially like is, especially in the west-end, is how its pretty much impossible to miss salah when you are outside. There are so many masjids in close proximity. You just don't see that anywhere else.
Makes sense.That reminds me of life in Kenya
Would you consider living in Africa or Asia?
 
Virgin+HS= 100% guaranteed marriage.

Non virgin+Degree=50% 4 Somali,100% 4 ajnabi.

Non Virgin+$=75% 4 Somali,100% 4 Ajnabi.


Non Virgin-education-$-beauty= Madow marraige material.:dabcasar:

Your equations are garbage, your purposely suggesting females who have a higher education and money are non-virgins are you scared of an educated women?
 
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